Do you ever feel like you don't fit in?

There's a lot of people out there that feel like they don't fit somewhere..they are different to all there friends and although they relate to others..they don't exactly fit.

I've heard this said by many people, my daughter included who has loads of friends and I've even felt that way myself at times. Do we feel that we have to create our own little family circle to fit...is that our ultimate goal? Another of my children is lost...she's never had a long term bf and also feels like she doesn't fit and I think she will finally come right and start to mature when she finds her husband/father/partner...

Is this what everyone is looking for in life and everything else is biding their time until they get there?

I can relate to this, yes. I'm interested to read other responses too... It's a lonely feeling but also not something to be afraid of feeling, if that makes sense?

Diversity is a good thing ... unfortunately, most people think otherwise, and wish for conformity in everything.


And that is where the issue is. When someone is different from you, the perspective automatically believes that there is something wrong.


People aren't suppose to "fit" in with each other, as it meaning being sameness .... to be different and not having sameness is what is suppose to happen, considering every is suppose to have their unique identity.

When a person believes they don't fit, it is due to not grasping that the other person isn't suppose to be just like you.

I've always been the "weird" one all my life. Never been into things that my peers were into. Always have been the 'deep' one, so I've been called lol. Spiritually, I discovered that I'm what they call, an old soul. I dont quite fit in with most people my age, I'm more at home in the company of older people, the mature types. I prefer to be by myself than be around people who talk about bs I'm not interested in & that's about 90% of time. I spend most of my time in forums that discuss spiritual matters, with like minded people, so I don't feel alone at all-There's always people out there who think just like you, you just need to find them, so you dont feel like the odd one out in the world. I found such place & I no longer feel like I don't fit in.

I think learning to embrace being different, and appreciating yourself and time with yourself is a self empowering part of maturing that not everyone is fortunate enough to realize. The only real draw back to any of it is it can get lonely. But I find it's rather easy to diminish that feeling just by being sociable at those times when it hits you the most. Just be sociable with damn near anyone. The fact that they're not like you is great for conversation... at least for them.


@P-Angel I agree

It's simply about having harmony. Like musical note in a composition. They're all different but yet they come together and balance each other. Like every one else has said. Being different is a good thing. That's where life's greatest lessons occur.

always, I wouldn't want any other way

I don't try to fit in or stand out.

I always felt like no matter how hard i try I will never fit in. As I grew older, I observed that conformity is BORING. I began to wonder why I ever wanted to conform.

Ive never fit in and Ive never tried to...always been okay with walking and standing alone. I had a whole group of girls turn on me and I was upset for a sec but kept it moving when they saw I didnt care they all came running back trying to be my friend. I always had several groups of friends at one time never commiting myself to just one group.

But as I got older I ask what is fitting in? My brother calls me the contrare because I love to go against the grain, I think I have an aversion to fitting in, even down to my clothing choices, I must stand out and be unique. I hate to go along with the crowd, its corny.

always. causes alot of social anxiety. and physical issues. and awkwardness.