dropped off my ex's belongings

she hardly opened the door, didn't look me in the eye and said 'thanks, bye' in a tone that said i never ever want to see you again.

do you think she's thinking about me a lot? conflicted? lol

i was mature, didn't plead, only said 'hi.' and left right away when she clearly shut me out emotionally.

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do you get off on the imaginary thought of her thinking about you?

i'm just wondering if my visit had any effect other than 'i dont care'

which i'm sure it did

Posted by thestruggle
and what is the point of those thoughts?

does it make you feel better?

eh. i'm at a point where the thoughts are constant and without feeling.

Posted by femmefatale
So are you still in love with her or not?

deeply

What did you do to her that hurt her so badly that she would treat you that way?

Posted by femmefatale
Aww hunny. I'm sorry.

Hopefully that was the last time you had to see her. Are you ready to move on?

tonight made it seem easier. but i'd rather have her back then move on. i'm not emotionally ready to take anyone else in but i'll accept a sexual partner as a distraction. she was really something special and i kind of blew it... but i've changed a lot of what drove her away, just wish i had a chance to prove it.

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What did you do to her that hurt her so badly that she would treat you that way?

i freaked out after the break up and pleaded for three weeks :/

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Posted by KaptainKhaos
What did you do to her that hurt her so badly that she would treat you that way?

i freaked out after the break up and pleaded for three weeks :/

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Why did you break up?

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What did you do to her that hurt her so badly that she would treat you that way?

i freaked out after the break up and pleaded for three weeks :/

Why did you break up?

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i just wasn't taking care of myself. rough year, was depressed... she tried time and time again to get me out of my funk but i was being stubborn. she fell out of love/unattracted... but in a weak way, it was a day/night shift.

Posted by munchykin
Who broke up with who?

she dumped me

Awwww 😢 I'm sorry, hun. That's a toughie. Are you better now?

What are you two's sun signs?

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Who broke up with who?

she dumped me

hmm. Well, then it probably depends on whether you're likely to encounter her again. If so, you should be able to change her perception of you just by taking good care of yourself and carrying yourself in a positive manner.

I'm not sure what your or her sign is, but speaking as a Scorpio Venus (Leeb sun), it may not help your case to get other sexual partners so soon after the break up, unless it's clear that it's over for good.

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she's definitely slept with others as a rebound already :/

Posted by KaptainKhaos
What are you two's sun signs?

i'm cancer she's libra

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Aww hunny. I'm sorry.

Hopefully that was the last time you had to see her. Are you ready to move on?

tonight made it seem easier. but i'd rather have her back then move on. i'm not emotionally ready to take anyone else in but i'll accept a sexual partner as a distraction. she was really something special and i kind of blew it... but i've changed a lot of what drove her away, just wish i had a chance to prove it.

It would be nice if she felt the same way as you do. Sounds like it's time to move forward and initiate no contact. I went through a break up recently and the emotions that went with it, were rough. Cutting all ties, music, and being alone helped. Just give it time.

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unfortunately this was after 32 days of no contact :/

Consider it a lesson learned. You pushed and were selfish and she dumped you for it.

NOW you want ANOTHER chance? Should have thought of that before you went and did the emo Cancer bullshit on a Libra. There are quite a few of you that frequent the Libra forum, all very similar stories.

It always amazes me that guys will be total dickholes to their S.O. time and time again, yet when she finally puts her foot down for good, THEN you want moooar chances?? Talk about being conditioned by mommy to manipulate into getting what you want. All talk, no action. When shit gets real, THEN dudes like this suddenly care and want to try.

Too bad, so sad. Learn from your mistakes dude and don't do it again with the next one.

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What are you two's sun signs?

i'm cancer she's libra

Aren't you the guy that wrote about this before under another user name?

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uhhh no lol?

the reason she wants nothing to do with me is because I called her a lot, on a harrassment level, but i had no idea a lot of the calls were going through because i was blocked. i didn't plead at all last night, just left immediately... so is that at least a gesture of change? will that make her think at all?

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the reason she wants nothing to do with me is because I called her a lot, on a harrassment level, but i had no idea a lot of the calls were going through because i was blocked. i didn't plead at all last night, just left immediately... so is that at least a gesture of change? will that make her think at all?

when she first saw me from inside the house, she looked surprised and a bit flustered... then turned on the indifference/i dont care attitude... so i still evoke emotion in her, i think. i need her to forgive me before she sees that i changed.

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Posted by munchykin
Who broke up with who?

she dumped me

hmm. Well, then it probably depends on whether you're likely to encounter her again. If so, you should be able to change her perception of you just by taking good care of yourself and carrying yourself in a positive manner.

I'm not sure what your or her sign is, but speaking as a Scorpio Venus (Leeb sun), it may not help your case to get other sexual partners so soon after the break up, unless it's clear that it's over for good.

she's definitely slept with others as a rebound already :/

If she let you go and is getting with others "in that way" now it will never be the same between you anyway. To me keeping my dignity is very important. Its the difference between walking around proud with my head high and feeling like a doormat who lacks self respect and is someones afterthought. Sometimes you just have to take it as a learning experience as hard as it may be everybody has to learn things the hard way in that realm. Sounds like she kind of made it easy and gave you no choice and stuck a fork in the thing. To me thats better than leading you on and not being honest. It takes as long as it takes But maintaining your dignity makes all the difference. But whatever works for you.

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i don't want it to be the same. i want to start a new relationship in time. the end of our relationship was really shitty and i'd never want to return to that. her sleeping with other people isnt that big of a deal, because she's kind of sexually liberated and was that way before we were together, but she was very faithful during our relationship.

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Posted by munchykin
Who broke up with who?

she dumped me

hmm. Well, then it probably depends on whether you're likely to encounter her again. If so, you should be able to change her perception of you just by taking good care of yourself and carrying yourself in a positive manner.

I'm not sure what your or her sign is, but speaking as a Scorpio Venus (Leeb sun), it may not help your case to get other sexual partners so soon after the break up, unless it's clear that it's over for good.

she's definitely slept with others as a rebound already :/

If she let you go and is getting with others "in that way" now it will never be the same between you anyway. To me keeping my dignity is very important. Its the difference between walking around proud with my head high and feeling like a doormat who lacks self respect and is someones afterthought. Sometimes you just have to take it as a learning experience as hard as it may be everybody has to learn things the hard way in that realm. Sounds like she kind of made it easy and gave you no choice and stuck a fork in the thing. To me thats better than leading you on and not being honest. It takes as long as it takes But maintaining your dignity makes all the difference. But whatever works for you.

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She only stuck a fork in it because I made mistake after mistake after the breakup... if I had just maintained composure she'd be back by now, or I'd at least have her as a friend.

Posted by Redbull
I think I got you man. Not saying there is no hope but how you described her behavior, to me there are multiple dealbreakers and I mean the nope thats it on that kind of dealbreakers for me. I do get wanting to be friends though...its all still fresh i get that and again Ive had my lessons and had ended relationships I mean completely ended. The good thing is your recognizing what you may have done to cause problems instead of just blamingthe other person. To me at least I can take what i've learned going foward with whoever I may meet.

Yeah, I wouldn't take this type of stuff from anyone and keep chasing them... but she's worth it. She grounds me in a way I need. She understands who I am. When things were good, they were really good, and she loved me utterly and completely. I will always love her, regardless what happens. If she came back ten years from now I'd drop whatever it was probably to give us another shot.