@LunarMaiden
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eRelationships
eRelationship, usually long distance and takes place over the internet with the use of computer, smart phone, tablet, etc.
Is anyone in an eRelationship right now or have you been?
How did it work out?
Did you ever meet?
How long was it?
When you met did you feel the same way you did when communicating online?
Do you think these are real relationships?
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Shorty's dad.We were on the same message board for years. A core group of us got on so well, we started a splinter forum. Somewhere along the line, something changed. We started IMing and then Messenger. Talking on the phone. Eventually we met. And I'm talking no small feat, as I was in the US and him in England. A few years of back and forth and it dawned on us that it would be cheaper to get married, so we could date. I know, I know. But all told, we lasted 10yrs and I have a really great kiddo to show for it.
That's cool! A fellow Brit too!
I've been thinking about trying this out. Might be easier to get to know someone without all the initial bullshit. I did a speed dating meetup one time about 3 years ago. FUCK THAT. I gave my number to 3 ladies and they all had major issues.
I think if you can form an initial connection without ever meeting then maybe you will have less pressure when you meet as you already know a lot about each other
I met my Leo bf online randomly, I am not sure if I can call it erelationship, he came to meet me after 2 weeks of talking on the phone everyday and texting. The first instant when I saw him I felt that there's noway we'll be together, the way he dresses and he's thinner than the pictures i saw.. But when i spent few more minutes with him, I felt huge comfort around him and so much closeness that i never experienced with anyone before. He stayed for longer days than he should.. its been a year now, we are together and im so in love with him.
We live in the sane city but the first time we met I was traveling to another city, thats why he came to see me there. He couldnt wait till i return after a month or so.
I've had a LDR some years back, with a Libra guy. We were net friends for 2 years and the relationshil lasted for 4 months only.. We used webcam alot and talked on the phins for very very long hours, we talked about marriage and kids and where we will live..etc. But I could not completely trust him, we were young anyway and he was a big flirt.
same* .. relationship* .. phone*
I never met the Libra, but he was planning to come to my countryon the 5th or 6th month.. sadly we broke up earlier.
Been there, done that. Over it.
It's why I lol at this sudden rage of people doing all their dating online.
Stupid and pointless. Just stick to regular dating. It's not as easy to hide who you are.
"he went to the next room and cried like a loud baby."
while e-dating people are much nicer to each other. they make nice pictures from the others in their heads. In real life meeting you see the imperfection sooner.
e-dating ~= deception.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Something funny:Psychologist Albert Mehrabian found that whether you like a person will be depending on:
7 % words
38 % tone of voice
55 % bodylanguage... The biggest one sort of loses it´s impact in online relationships.
This is hocus pokus bullshit.
To me, it's just not real. It's an illusion and people are at risk of falling in love with the fantasy/illusion than with the real person.
erelationships:
fake people who they are too lazy to get off their asses, lack self confidence, and integrity to meet real people in the real world. Which is all good... less weeding out for folks like me. 😉
*drop "they" sigh..
Posted by tiziani
I don't see why Tinder should "just" be a hook-up app.Legit one of the best couples I know of today meant on Tinder. And at first she was really just looking to use him for sex after a bad breakup. But turns out they're actually great together.
Who knew?
They're the exception, not the norm.
Posted by Gobshite
Honestly, I can't stand internet relationships.I'd much rather conduct my romantic relationships via telegram or by carrier pigeon...
Much more effort is required to make this work, so you'll get more srs bidness on their end.
Posted by truecap
To me, it's just not real. It's an illusion and people are at risk of falling in love with the fantasy/illusion than with the real person.click to expand
Exactly.
I got into watching a few episodes of the first season of Catfish (likely less produced scenarios as opposed to latter seasons), and this was the overall trend. You KNOW these people are aware of Google image search, so why didn't they bother to check this shit when people started acting weird and evasive? No, they want to remain in this perfect little fantasy that's been created. Once the bubble bursts, they're floored.
Too many people refuse to live in reality and choose to live in fantasy because they've all been raised totally sheltered pussies that cannot cope with reality. It's no surprise that online dating has become such a thing. People have just become emotionally pathetic. Thanks mom and dads of the last few generations. Your coddling and bullshit has raised a swarm of fucked up people. Here's your coupon for free sterilization.
Posted by PV&Jellay
What's with this new fad of people trying to date folks they meet on tinder? Tinder is meant to be a hookup app. Why are folks trying to lockdown jump-offs? Everytime I see a thread that starts with "we met on tinder", I can't help but cringe. And it's always a woman making the thread, never a man. Why are they not grasping the purpose of tinder? They be like: "But he said he was into me...wanted to marry me...have babies". Yeah, a man will tell you anything when he's trying to get in your pants. I think internet dating can be a trainwreck for women who are young, naive, or inexperienced daters. Hard to judge intentions online.
I've noticed this too and I don't get it either. Bunch of really stupid bitches out there, desperate as fuck to get someone in their lives. "Oh we met on Tinder and we hooked up. He fucked me in love and now I'm sad he's not around. Why is this not working/he not treating me like the princess that I think I am??
...bitch please.
Posted by FrostAndBite
Posted by PV&Jellay
What's with this new fad of people trying to date folks they meet on tinder? Tinder is meant to be a hookup app. Why are folks trying to lockdown jump-offs? Everytime I see a thread that starts with "we met on tinder", I can't help but cringe. And it's always a woman making the thread, never a man. Why are they not grasping the purpose of tinder? They be like: "But he said he was into me...wanted to marry me...have babies". Yeah, a man will tell you anything when he's trying to get in your pants. I think internet dating can be a trainwreck for women who are young, naive, or inexperienced daters. Hard to judge intentions online.
It started out for hook ups but not anymore really. Everyone I know uses it for talking/dating mostly. A select few still use it just to hook up, but it's actually more difficult now for them since most people on there are looking for dates.
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It's still sad that people took a known hook up app and twisted it into dating. You're still going to get a lot of retards who think it's a "dating" app when there is still quite a few who use it for its intended purpose.
The entire thing of Tinder is really superficial anyway. It's basically hotornot.com all over again. How do you expect to get quality relationships when all you have to choose from is an image and you decide if you're interested based on how someone looks? Dating profiles > Tinder at this rate because at least there's more info as opposed to what hot person is the closest to you.
So regardless of it being "converted" to a dating app, it's still not a very good starting point to even date with to begin with.
It's the equivalent of going to the club and being attracted to some hot person across the room. Maybe you talk a bit, maybe exchange numbers, or maybe just fuck in the club bathroom. Long run, it's not a guarantee for any sort of stable dating or for those seeking a relationship not founded on superficial bullshit.
The threads that get me...
We have an LDR, it' an on-line only relationship, we haven't met in person, but I loooove him.
Posted by GetMisted
It irritates me when I get a match on Tinder and get crucified for even bringing up the idea of a casual hookup.1. It's Tinder.
2. I specifically state in the bio that I'm not looking to date/have a relationship.FFS
Can't a girl just get laid?
I think most men just say that to appear stable. Just in case you actually like him.
Posted by ellle
Posted by LetltB
erelationships:fake people who they are too lazy to get off their asses, lack self confidence, and integrity to meet real people in the real world. Which is all good... less weeding out for folks like me. 😉
lazy, lack of self confidence and integrity.....
I think maintaining the relationship took more work and commitment than I had ever put into any other....the confidence to hop on a plane to meet someone you've never met before was exhilarating....and the integrity to be exactly who you said you were from the very beginning......
speaks volumes.
I have no regrets.
....and I will miss the transparency, believe it or not.
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Well that right there ^^^not only takes balls but effort, sincerity & integrity.
My response was to the 99% here who whine about their relationship and never met the person. Or worse, maybe has met once and still together after 4+ years without seeing each other more than twice a year. What the hell is that?
Posted by ellle
perhaps there is.....and maybe they are more fulfilled in getting to know someone in this manner.
who are we to judge?
to each their own.
there is no 'one' way to healthy relationships.
If I can't look a man in the eyes as potential relationship material, he doesn't exist. No time will be wasted until then.
To meet someone on line, carry on via text, e-mail is NOT a relationship in my world of Neptune who lives in the 8th house in a cul de sac of 8th houses...
lol..
So does that mean I'm opposite and the 8th dulls the disillusionment? Don't know. I'm not going to meet online.
That I do know.
never did online dating. my neptune in 12 could fall in love with sweet funny words on screen that i know lol
i need magnetic physical attraction together with emotional compatibility to settle down. the meeting location is not critical. the first time scorp and i saw each other we lost ourselves in each other's eyes at the bar lol
Posted by PV&Jellay
Posted by thinktoomuch
Posted by PV&Jellay
What's with this new fad of people trying to date folks they meet on tinder? Tinder is meant to be a hookup app. Why are folks trying to lockdown jump-offs? Everytime I see a thread that starts with "we met on tinder", I can't help but cringe. And it's always a woman making the thread, never a man. Why are they not grasping the purpose of tinder? They be like: "But he said he was into me...wanted to marry me...have babies". Yeah, a man will tell you anything when he's trying to get in your pants. I think internet dating can be a trainwreck for women who are young, naive, or inexperienced daters. Hard to judge intentions online.
"It´s always a woman making the thread" - is´t it always. Regardless of the topic?!
Anywho: if the guys lie to get sex, why shouldn´t women lie about just wanting sex to try and get a relationship??! 😄 Ofcours, the latter will most likely lose, but it´s just lies all over the place man. Dating - it´s not for me.
Funny thing is, I think that is exactly what both parties are doing. LOL.
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Basically. "Well we were fwb, but lol I changed my mind and wanted to change it into a relationship. It's not going my way!"
or on his side- "Man, I just wanted to hook up. But now she wants to make this a relationship. I'm out."
Posted by tiziani
Text messaging is where relationships go to die imo.I think it can still be interesting for people if you involve webcam. I've had some unforgettable nights and scenes shown to me on webcam.
Even then though you need to have met in real life.
I heard about Vaccuman.. you kept it for later review didn't you—? 😆
As for the subject. i have done the long distance dating, the e-dating.. it's rough and can actually be harder to maintain than with someone in your same town. The constant need to reassure the other person can be tiresome ( there was other issues involved obviously). I agree with the meeting in person or real life. I know some that have dated for two or three years and never meet.. i don't understand that. I don't date an e- persona lol i need to meet face to face. Will i do it again, prolly not but never say never. This was also during the time i was heavy into my on line gaming, so had played every day for several months to years with some people. i have made life long friends from the gaming community, but the few i dated, we parted ways and even the friendships ended.
Just came across this in my internet wanderings, ironically enough
Posted by FrostAndBite
omg I got a few weird ones on okc.Guy sent a message Friday Morning. I read it Friday afternoon before going out. Figured I'd think about a good reply, write back after getting in from hanging out with my girlfriends. He sees I read and didn't reply, sent another message like two hours after I read it cursing and saying girls were bitchy and not replying and how dare I read and not reply and he caught me red handed blah blah. Like damn dude, you're desperation is giving my computer smellovision. Another guy *told* me I would cook spaghetti for him on our first date at his house. O_O
But nothing creepier than what I've had in real life. Dude's trying to pick me up using begging gone wrong. "What you don't dig me? You a lesbian? Well I've fucked prettier lesbians than you before." LOLS okay omg I'm so attracted to you now, not. Being a Player, you're doing it wrong bro.
Makes the weeding out process easier, though, doesn't it? 😄
Posted by tiziani
There's also that #swipedright campaign on the Tinder FB page where you can see all the married couples who met off Tinder.
is there gonna be a campaign when all those marriages end in divorce?
my thought on this subject:
online is just another tool to mee someone. i would actually argue that its almost better to meet online, less superficial and less pretense. this is of course when both parties involved are honest. is it ideal? no, actual physical interaction is extremely important (chemistry) but if you get on really well online i dont see how it can bad in person.
there are plenty of people who met online, fell for each (before they met in person), and are now married/ with kids/completely in love, are you going to tell them what they felt before they actually met wasn't real?
so many jaded/bitter people who had one bad experience online and wrote it off. i'm sure you've also had a bad experience where you didnt meet them online, are you swearing off those relationships? bottomline 99% of relationships end.
Posted by FrostAndBite
omg I got a few weird ones on okc.Guy sent a message Friday Morning. I read it Friday afternoon before going out. Figured I'd think about a good reply, write back after getting in from hanging out with my girlfriends. He sees I read and didn't reply, sent another message like two hours after I read it cursing and saying girls were bitchy and not replying and how dare I read and not reply and he caught me red handed blah blah. Like damn dude, you're desperation is giving my computer smellovision. Another guy *told* me I would cook spaghetti for him on our first date at his house. O_O
But nothing creepier than what I've had in real life. Dude's trying to pick me up using begging gone wrong. "What you don't dig me? You a lesbian? Well I've fucked prettier lesbians than you before." LOLS okay omg I'm so attracted to you now, not. Being a Player, you're doing it wrong bro.
Some guys are just so full of themselves. I had one irl who was flat out harassing me and getting a bit physical when I wouldn't go out with him. He was fucking nuts.
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