Candeh15
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Food for thought
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Yes I know, lol. This isn't a reoccurring thing for me, but something that took time to really understand.
Yes I know, lol. This isn't a reoccurring thing for me, but something that took time to really understand.
I totally agree with your original post Candeh!
Thanks so much Shadows! 🙂
You know when you have that inner voice that attempts to rationalize everything when you know you could be making a silly decision? Well that's what I thought of in that very moment, and it all just made sense.
You know when you have that inner voice that attempts to rationalize everything when you know you could be making a silly decision? Well that's what I thought of in that very moment, and it all just made sense.
Cand, I completely agree! Technically, the only thing that makes it IMPOSSIBLE to love someone else is IF you don't love yourself. There are 1 million reasons you can love/be in love with someone BUT there might be another 1 million reasons why a relationship/commitment with them is NOT for the best!
Sometimes 2 people are only meant to love eachother as friends. Sometimes 2 people ARE meant to be together in a relationship, BUT only for a season/short while. Sometimes 2 people's purpose for loving 1 another is so that they can each teach other the do's & don'ts when it's finally time for each person to meet/be with who really IS meant for them!
Everybody relationship isn't meant to last forever. A relationship/committment is WORK! It's a full time job! A person can be in love with you all day long BUT that doesn't mean they have what it takes to establish AND maintain a commitment. As the saying goes, "What's love got to do with it?!" Relationships CANNOT function strictly off of love for someone alone. It's a job & unless BOTH people are BOTH ready to go get AND keep that job, it's best to just keep it moving.
Even if I grow to love someone whom I'm realized isn't a good fit for me in a relationship persay, I NEVER leave the situation feeling like loving them was a total waste or loss. It's ALWAYS good to get in some "practice" when it comes to HOW to love others. Every single prince/queen charming CAN'T be "the one." Instead, they may simply be ONE of the ONES that will help you prepare for the ultimate love you are supposed to experience later with the ONE!
Sometimes 2 people are only meant to love eachother as friends. Sometimes 2 people ARE meant to be together in a relationship, BUT only for a season/short while. Sometimes 2 people's purpose for loving 1 another is so that they can each teach other the do's & don'ts when it's finally time for each person to meet/be with who really IS meant for them!
Everybody relationship isn't meant to last forever. A relationship/committment is WORK! It's a full time job! A person can be in love with you all day long BUT that doesn't mean they have what it takes to establish AND maintain a commitment. As the saying goes, "What's love got to do with it?!" Relationships CANNOT function strictly off of love for someone alone. It's a job & unless BOTH people are BOTH ready to go get AND keep that job, it's best to just keep it moving.
Even if I grow to love someone whom I'm realized isn't a good fit for me in a relationship persay, I NEVER leave the situation feeling like loving them was a total waste or loss. It's ALWAYS good to get in some "practice" when it comes to HOW to love others. Every single prince/queen charming CAN'T be "the one." Instead, they may simply be ONE of the ONES that will help you prepare for the ultimate love you are supposed to experience later with the ONE!
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Sometimes 2 people are only meant to love eachother as friends. Sometimes 2 people ARE meant to be together in a relationship, BUT only for a season/short while. Sometimes 2 people's purpose for loving 1 another is so that they can each teach other the do's & don'ts when it's finally time for each person to meet/be with who really IS meant for them!
This quote by Elizabeth Gilbert, who wrote Eat, Pray, Love, is one of my favorite quotes about love by far. It hit me in a certain spot, and I always think about it when being introspective and thinking about relationships. It possibly influenced what I wrote in the OP:
"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..."
— Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)click to expand
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