Ho to deal with a Piscean man's anger

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Posted by ninjutsu
So basically you let him treat you like crap and use you as an emotional punching bag... Hmm... He clearly has no respect for you and you don't seem to have any for yourself, either.

Of course you should be moving on with your life, and keeping him out of it. You know that's what you should be doing.

Yep, that just about sums it up nicely. It's just a shame that your advice will be completely ignored.

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Any man who has anger issues, has other underlying issues within him that are not dealt with at all. Clearly, this Pisces has a lot of inner work to do and most definitely not one that is healthy enough to be in any relationship for that matter. Leave, for your own sake, you should keep your own integrity in tact and never risk it for another because that means you are cannibalizing your own spirit. Leave, for his sake, so he can choose whether or not he deals with his own problems. You deserve better than to be an outlet of such 'anger', know when to spot a toxic situation and get out. The so called 'special' moments seem far fetched and few in between from your description, you are allowing your mind to pedestal-ize the brighter moments, don't, that is very dangerous, keep your eyes wide open and see it for what it is, poison, the bad outweighs the good. Have some self-respect and self-love, take care of you 🙂

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:::: shakes head ::::

If you aren't going to use your brain, then why should anyone else attempt to reason with you?

prach

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Thank you all for the replies. The fact is I know what to do. I know I should move on. I know a person whose anger overshadows his personality has no personality indeed. I know for a fact that I am losing my self respect and dignity. I know everything. But when I am with him, my moments of weakness are so much more than that of strength. I become so weak. but that happens only when I am with him. I dont behave in this way with anyone else. With him, i feel like a lost puppy who wags his tail and comes to the master everytime he calls his name. 😢 And I feel pathetic about it !

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Posted by prach
Thank you all for the replies. The fact is I know what to do. I know I should move on. I know a person whose anger overshadows his personality has no personality indeed. I know for a fact that I am losing my self respect and dignity. I know everything. But when I am with him, my moments of weakness are so much more than that of strength. I become so weak. but that happens only when I am with him. I dont behave in this way with anyone else. With him, i feel like a lost puppy who wags his tail and comes to the master everytime he calls his name. 😢 And I feel pathetic about it !

No one is ever that weak, one is only as much a victim as one allows themselves to be. Since you already know everything we have shared with you why come in here to ask and waste our time?!

You are allowing a man, a very angry man at that, to do you harm willingly, he is chipping away at your spirit but since you are blind from your own pedestal putting high, you do not even place up boundaries to protect yourself, that is what every sane mature adult would do, your own emotional welfare is yours to be responsible of, not him, not us. Wake up! Open your eyes! If you continue so, no one here can help you unless you choose to use your god damn head to help yourself. Every sane woman has a choice to choose what they are worthy of, I suppose this is all you are worth since you willingly stay in a toxic an highly unhealthy relationship.

Le sigh, rant over...women these days *shakes my head*

jessgoogoo

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its so hard for to read these kind of posts, because i know people usually never listen. Feelings suck sometimes and his abusing your kindness and love for him..why do some many people continue to let themselves be doormats in these situations. Find your worth and move the hell on, no one deserves misery unless they bring it to themselves..

prach

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I don't know his moon sign. I know I am responsible for all this. But I am hopelessly in love with this man. The best moments in my life were the moments I spent with him. Having said that, I posted this problem because I needed assurance. I havent called him back and its difficult to hang on..but when I see people telling me what I already know..I know its time to end this. I did not intend to waste anybody's time.

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Posted by prach
I don't know his moon sign. I know I am responsible for all this. But I am hopelessly in love with this man. The best moments in my life were the moments I spent with him. Having said that, I posted this problem because I needed assurance. I havent called him back and its difficult to hang on..but when I see people telling me what I already know..I know its time to end this. I did not intend to waste anybody's time.

Sorry for the tough love rant, but please do what is healthy for yourself, take care of your heart 🙂

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Posted by prach

... I know what to do.

I know ....

I know ....

I know ....

I know everything.

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Posted by prach
I don't know his moon sign. I know I am responsible for all this. But I am hopelessly in love with this man. The best moments in my life were the moments I spent with him. Having said that, I posted this problem because I needed assurance. I havent called him back and its difficult to hang on..but when I see people telling me what I already know..I know its time to end this. I did not intend to waste anybody's time.

People often ask for advice when they already know the answer. and it's always easier for people to give advice than to take it. You know, I know and everybody knows this guy is a jerk but only you can do something about it IF you want to. I'm a strong person and I'll drop a man like a hot potato is he messes me around but even I've been guilty of taking crap from someone because I was totally in love with them. Move on and good luck 🙂

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Posted by prach

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:::: shakes head ::::

to know doesn't mean shit, if you aren't going to listen to yourself.

You deserve to suffer.

There are people out there naive, ignorant, unfortunate ... who cannot help themselves. You, on the other hand, know goddam well the difference between what is wrong and what is right for you and you CHOOSE that in which damages you.

That means you deserve to be treated like trash, because that is what is acceptable to you by your own choices.

I don't pity you, and I think it's fucking disgusting

Wynter

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wow. cut this guy out of your life ASAP, you're a mess.

bkbella86

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you shouldnt deal with anyones anger issues...you have no obligation to him...lets him be angry by himself

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BikerCh1ck, wow...absolutely sound advice but from the looks of it, the OP is merely asking for the sake of asking, not 'doing'. Sigh, another brick wall.

prach

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BikerCH1ck thank you so much. That helps a lot !! You are right when you said..he punishes me for not obeying him.
I was lost and too blinded.

P-Angel..I dont think I deserve to suffer. No one deserves to suffer.

TheladyScorpio..I did not ask merely for the sake of asking.

Today, he called me. I answered his call and told him to fuck off. It was difficult for me, perhaps because I love him. However, I don't want to regret 10 years down the line that I did not listen to all of you. And I am not going to call him, meet him or even bother to answer his calls, if at all he is calls me. I am done with him..for good. Thank you all of you.

BikerCHIck..I will contact you the moment I decide to go on a date with a new guy. XOXO 😄

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Posted by prach

P-Angel..I dont think I deserve to suffer. No one deserves to suffer.

You deserve everything you agree to be acceptable to you ... if a person makes the kind of choices you make .. then, them and you deserve the pain they've agreed to be theirs.

And yes, people deserve to suffer ... because that is what they wish to do, by what they allow.

Until you realize that reality .. you will likely continue to inflict this kind of pain on yourself and have no clue you did it, and will continue to believe someone else did it to you.

Sad, really

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Posted by BikerCh1ck
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
BikerCh1ck, wow...absolutely sound advice but from the looks of it, the OP is merely asking for the sake of asking, not 'doing'. Sigh, another brick wall.

It is none of my business if she does it or not. People are free to make choices in their lives and face the consequences of their actions. I just did what I had to do.

I only hope next time she posts here would be "found a new guy, any advice on what to wear on first date?".
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That is true, perhaps it is just me, besides offering advice I always want to hope the best for people, especially when they might otherwise be blinded in a damaging situation.