How do I get my Aries woman back. Please help!

What can I do to win her back?

take it to the Aries board Jack.

Takes quite a bit to "scare" an Aries chick....maybe you aren't telling us the whole deal??

No that is the whole deal! Thats what was so surprising to me. No warning signs whatsoever. She played cool down to very day of breakup.

She is the exact general description of an Aries female... driven career women, wants to be in control etc. Descriptions describe her to a T.

So I was unsure of her and distant for months in the beginning of relationship. During that time she was all over me and wanting me. She cried and let me know about it. So the last few months I have been more attentive and loving with her. Then at the peek of my attention calling her my girlfriend she dumps me the next day saying shes confused doesnt want relationship right now etc. She obviously got scared and I know there is no other guy at least not yet!

I tried a non confrontational email telling her I would work on things and my mistakes. Nothing... A week later I sent casual texts and she responded a few times but then stopped. So today I called her and left message...no call back and I dont think i am going to get one. It was several hours ago.

I know they say u cant chase an aries but i dont want to sit back and lose her to another guy. Please help

I never believed much in astrology until I read hers. It's dead on

I will be two weeks on Tuesday since the wonderful dumping session

What can I do to win her back?

I am an Aquarius male

I am an Aquarius male

Posted by jackinator2013
I am an Aquarius male

I knew I smelt a rat

I think hers is April 13th mine isJan 28th

she told me she loved me a few times also. I said nothing back the first time. The other two times I said ...u too

her 1974 me 1978

I was caught off guard with the I love you stuff and she was also drunk when she said it each time so I didnt know how to react really.

Ok do u have any more details than that? Like why she got scared? And should I stopp all contact to her forver unless she contacts me? Should I try to make her jealous? Anything I can do??

Posted by jackinator2013
I was caught off guard with the I love you stuff and she was also drunk when she said it each time so I didnt know how to react really.

Obviously I don't know your GF and the levels of drunkeness in your/her world, but I never forget anything I say drunk and I always stick by it. Drunk or not - your word is your bond.

Bluemoon yes she was cheated on by last long term bf so maybe she got scared when I became closer. I did see her on an online dating site today so she is looking for a fling maybe. That's what I don't want to happen. I wish there was a way to explain that I won't hurt her but without being able to talk I don't see how. I think she was falling for me and I was too slow to recipricate and she started thinkin and worrying about getting hurt. Yes I think her drunk I love u's were still valid and she just had the courage to say them when drunk.

All I meant by mistakes was how I had been distant with her for first four months and it hurt her. I said I was sorry for it. It was weird cause we never really discussed what we were like if we were bf gf etc. She used to text me she wished I was holding her in bed right now she misses me etc all the time.

I just am mad at myself. I had this great woman loving and wanting me and I held back my heart from her at the time she wanted it most.

But is it wrong to message her everything I feel now? So she can think about it. When she dumped me I did tell her I am falling in love with her so she does know I love her at least.

Its gonna be tough but ok. Man did I blow this one. As an aquarius I don't warm up to women so fast then once I do sometimes they are already falling out of love cause I didn't give it.

So what if I start moving one? What if she sees that I am dating again? Will this screw things up? And I wouldn't be doing it to make her jealous I would just be doing it because I don't want to sit around waiting for her to come around when she may never come around.

AliCar15- born in midwest actually

ok- so she just text me sayingshe just got my message (which is BS!) and asking if she can call me later tonight. I am starting to be temped to just ignore her now after what she did to me. Today when I woke up I told myself it's over n forget about it and I had a good day. Another girl who is a 10 wants to go on a date with me. I am almost like thinking f-her. After getting my feelings played with all weekend I almost dont want to talk to her now. Maybe that will change. What is best way to play now? To get power back?

ilyb- yes we had hot sex and a lot of it everytime we saw eachother.

AliCar15- thank you for all the effort and detail...wow! appreciate it!

well if i saw her 3-4 times in a night. Thats a lot for me. How long? I dont know

ellybd- I dont like games either, but getting blown off has surprisingly made me lose some desire to talk to her. I will probably do as I always do and talk to her.

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so get this. I never responded to her asking if she could call last night and I get up and see she sent me another text that she was home and how she will try to call me before Weds. But it was a long descriptive text about her week at work etc. LOL. Yes, I guess Aries love the chase.

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Posted by jackinator2013
ok- so she just text me sayingshe just got my message (which is BS!) and asking if she can call me later tonight. I am starting to be temped to just ignore her now after what she did to me. Today when I woke up I told myself it's over n forget about it and I had a good day. Another girl who is a 10 wants to go on a date with me. I am almost like thinking f-her. After getting my feelings played with all weekend I almost dont want to talk to her now. Maybe that will change. What is best way to play now? To get power back?

^^^ Ahahahaha! See ... no clinginess from you and no groveling... win win for you.

You opened yourself to the vulnerability, she is vulnerable, too. Whether or not she wants to truly expose herself to you and give you her vulnerability is probably a debate in her mind. Mars in Gemini... yeah, she still got 2 sides and can go either direction.

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So now I sent her a text just saying ok to what she said. But today i look on that dating site and she is still on there. She says she is just on there for making friends because u can also get friends on it. So I dont know maybe I am an idiot and she is just calling back to feel more power over me or out of guilt. Kind of nervous to talk to her now. I almost dont know what to say. Any of you have help for that? How do I say I want to date her more without seeming needy or clingy?

well, if she calls me back I will tell her how I feel.

Oh and I am going out with the "10" on Friday night... She is a pisces... I know she likes the taking charge but any other tips??

UPDATE --- Thanks ladies. She finally emailed me saying how she really feels. She says the chemistry between us is amazing and she had a lot of fun times with me. She just said she wasnt feeling the way she should in a relationship. I know I caused this by my distance and not being into her for four months so i guess I screwed it up! Too late now. It's sad.

Posted by AliCar15
Oh Aqua men...it is so very difficult to keep your interest because you are so aware of your options. "On to the next one...", eh?

I'd like to say that if you were really into her, you'd fight for her. But, I know Aquas don't have that "fight" in them.

I don't know how much more to "fight" before being labeled a stalker. I sent her an email, a texts, voicemail, she finally responded saying she isnt feeling it for me and then I texted er can I please talk to her for five minutes no response, then I left her a voicemail explaining all my feeling and nothing back. What's next kidnapping? What else can I do to fight—

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Posted by AliCar15
Oh Aqua men...it is so very difficult to keep your interest because you are so aware of your options. "On to the next one...", eh?

I'd like to say that if you were really into her, you'd fight for her. But, I know Aquas don't have that "fight" in them.

I don't know how much more to "fight" before being labeled a stalker. I sent her an email, a texts, voicemail, she finally responded saying she isnt feeling it for me and then I texted er can I please talk to her for five minutes no response, then I left her a voicemail explaining all my feeling and nothing back. What's next kidnapping? What else can I do to fight—

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I am just a lover through and thru. I am something that is almost non existant. If I love you, I will always love you and I will never leave you or betray you. That is me. I am like fricking Twillight movie in the flesh but it goes unappreciated and most women are not even loyal like that. I grew up with an idea of love in mind mind that almost ceases to exist in this time. My parents have been married 45 years. I have so much love to give and really believe in love even though I should not. There is something so amazing about life long loyalty to another person. Most people endlessly chase the next "thing" as if they are never going to die. It has no value. The only value in life is LOVE.

By the way the date with the new woman is on for tonight! Onward and upward!