How do I wash that man right out of my hair—

Profile picture of saggirl
saggirl
@saggirl
17 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 45 · Topics: 9
What is the best remedy to get over a man?
I'm a 30 yr old woman and should know better than to obsess about a boy.

I haven't seen or contacted him for over a month. The longest time we've gone without seeing each other or had no contact was over 2 months.

I keep busy. I have a good job, lots of friends, I'm doing something or I'm out every day. I have seen, dated and been intimate with other men. But yet, this man is the first thing I think about in the morning, the last thing at night, and all the hours in between. It's almost been a year now.

Help!
Profile picture of sweethearts
sweethearts
@sweethearts
19 Years5,000+ Posts

Comments: 163 · Posts: 6615 · Topics: 326
Yeah plenty of us out there like that, i hate it the most when i wake in the middle of the night and then can't go back to sleep and WHY cos the bugger has popped into my mind and wont let me!!!

But when someone just as exciting comes along...I know it'll all go away...


you have to learn how to change your thoughts and the direction of them. If it's a song "change it" when you are fantasizing "Stop it" tell yourself out loud if you have to! Keep finding ways to replace those thoughts because the more you dwell the more he sticks around AND remember the BAD things and how badly you were treated instead of all the good things as the bad will outway the good!


BUT IN REALITY, WE DONT WANT TO LET GO AND FORGET THAT PERSON...DO WE?? WE WANT TO KEEP PRETENDING...EVEN IF IT IS TAKING IT'S TOLL OR PREVENTING US FROM MOVING FORWARD...

Once you've made your mind up to move on... it'll get easier





Profile picture of saggirl
saggirl
@saggirl
17 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 45 · Topics: 9
Posted by sweethearts

BUT IN REALITY, WE DONT WANT TO LET GO AND FORGET THAT PERSON...DO WE?? WE WANT TO KEEP PRETENDING...EVEN IF IT IS TAKING IT'S TOLL OR PREVENTING US FROM MOVING FORWARD...



You are so right.

I've even been intimate with another guy that I had a crush on for almost 3 years, but still, (even though it took my mind off it temporarily) it's the same guy that is on my mind 😢
Profile picture of Bena73
Bena73
@Bena73
17 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 256 · Topics: 34
U have a bump in the road at the moment, but u will work ur way around it or over it, but it will not block u for long....;}

The waking up in the middle of the night and unable to fall back to sleep will pass.
You'll start to notice more mornings where u slept thru the night.

Fortunately, fate has a way of coming full circle, where u will have the opportunity for closure, just
make sure you use it... ;}

Profile picture of saggirl
saggirl
@saggirl
17 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 45 · Topics: 9
Posted by jru2
So i have a question ... what could these guys have done to help you move on? If it was over in their mind, or if they at least knew they were going to start seeing others, what would have been the best way for them to handle the situation?



I would say no contact. At all. Phone calls, emails, sms - nothing. It's harsh, but ultimately fair on the girl.

If this isn't possible, then do not give them any encouragement. Even the most subtle of things can be blown up in our minds. The way you look at them, hug them, say goodbye. The things that you say can be twisted to seem that you do like them.

I think this is hard for a lot of guys, because they do like having their ego massaged. Quite selfish and immature.

As soon as you find a new girl. We will give up hope.