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Idk, my boyfriend used to be VERY posessive. But he grew out of that. (Maybe because we've been together so long.)
Some people are just impulsive. But there's definately a fine line between a little impulsive or posessive and a pyscho controlling stalker.
Posted by laydbak
is it that bad for a man to be a little possessive, these descriptions are for an abusive man not possessive.
I agree
- asking you not to be friends with your exes
Screw that, I might be in the minority on that one but a girl who is friends with all her exes and stuff is not a good thing. I won't go into detail but it's just not something I'd deal with. Now, if the guy does these things and won't allow you to too, that's different.
Posted by brianafay
Idk, my boyfriend used to be VERY posessive. But he grew out of that. (Maybe because we've been together so long.)
Some people are just impulsive. But there's definately a fine line between a little impulsive or posessive and a pyscho controlling stalker.click to expand
After being with you long enough he's probably settled into the relationship and the trust has been earned.
I agree with Taurus83. Exes are a no no with me. It's hard for me to believe that once you are "with" someone you just turn those feelings off break up or not. Nope, don't trust it.
As for the controlling thing ... I don't attract those types. *shrug* I don't mind a little possessiveness but if they start asking for pass words and telling me what I can and can't do... oh hell no. It's war. I will go out of my way to do the exact opposite just to show that I will not be controlled or bow to anyone. I'm a big girl and I don't need to be told what I can do.
I had one guy tell me I'd make a bad wife because I was disobedient.LOL That's the best compliement I've ever gotten. π
I like a little possessivness but that's abuse.
OMG My Gemini ex tried all those things on so many times....we eventually broke up because I wouldnt be controlled...can you imagine, a Leo being controlled? to be kept indoors away from the world?? wtf was he thinking? I love the outdoors, meeting people, doing things and he wanted to keep me away from the world.....the picking on this and that (OMG he even picked on how I cut up vegetables until I threw what I'd cut up at him and told him to make his own dinner). We were going to buy a house together and the very day we were to sign the mortgage papers he backed out leaving me to purchase the house on my own....you know a week later he said "id like to add my name on the mortgage"...we ummm didnt last much longer because I let loose and told him where to go LOL
OMG those days were awful, just awful and I would never allow a man to even remotely be like that around me again. Thankfully Im with the sweetest Virgo man Ive ever come across and there I was thinking Virgos were controlling, annoying and pick pick pick. he's just the opposite....what a difference π and he owns his own house, he enjoys it when I cook for him....ahhhhh yes these are much better days π
If any woman or man as well finds themselves in a relationship where the other is controlling, abusive (including brow beating even if subtle), dont put up with it because it may very well lead to physical abuse - be assertive and look after your own welfare.....these people cant and wont get away with their behaviour with those who stand up and take charge of their own lives....
i know this says signs of a possessive man but it's true for girls too. crap, a friend of mine does all of this to her boyfriend. it's sad really, but it's scarier when a guy does this because they're bigger and stronger and what not
Posted by Mystic Dreamer
I like a little possessivness but that's abuse.
Well, yeah theres nothing wrong with being protective but whoa .....
I don't know, controlling behavior scares me to death. Feeling like I'm chained down is not good for me. All I can think about is escape.
Posted by i love ewe
i know this says signs of a possessive man but it's true for girls too. crap, a friend of mine does all of this to her boyfriend. it's sad really, but it's scarier when a guy does this because they're bigger and stronger and what not
oh yeah ewe, women can be like this too, but I guess I just singled men out lol.
I knew a girl that was just terrible with this behavior, I mean the guy could not breathe.
Posted by Madalena
Posted by Prince_Pisces
If you didnt look at the topic description, it'd look like you were describing Scorpio men LOL!
lol...totally. well...we can excuse them...forgive them father for they are not normal π
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LOL!!!!!!
But I typically like scorpio men. Theres one scorpio now that I just adore but I can't have him π’
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Dismay and suggestions as to how you should dress
Overly concerned about where you are going when socializing
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Overly intense nature to anything
Inability to communicate and discuss
Putting you down and anything that makes you feel inferior
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