How long should you wait...

Till you ask someone out?

Had this conversation and heard an answer of someone suggesting waiting 2 years before asking someone out.
Even with my Cap Sun/Tau Moon combo...I find that incredibly slow. Honest I find the best action to let interest be known upfront and let things play out.

*shrug* Well females, what do you think the "average" time should be in being asked out by a male. Also to flip the script, how long do you think a chick should wait before going after a dude?

Posted by exo
all of my relations happened naturally. there was no waiting game.

i met sag on a friday. he asked me out on sunday. we went out monday. i won't tell you when we had sex, but yea. craig david style. the earth moved and shit and 2 became 1.

jump in early and remain consistent. keep the interest and passion growing.

My Aries Rising prefers that route.
...I just can't imagine waiting 2 years to make a move. Shit they could easily be married with a kid on the way by then.

Posted by MlleFisk
Lol @ 2 years. That girl would be in someone else's arms after a few months and you balled up in a fetal position in the friendzone.

Depends on the initial meeting. If first impressions are good, why hesitate.

Totally. I kind maybe give leeway to 2 months. Years? No.

Well some people are more fearful/sensitive to rejection? Not a mind reader, though I do wonder how those types manage to avoid getting steamrolled in relationships once they finally "luck out" and get one.

Posted by exo
i know a lot of cappish folks who are slow like that, lol.

*twitch* Slow as in years? *Blinks*
...I...*holds head* Time is a person's most precious resource. Why piss time away?

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Posted by SirHorns

Posted by exo
i know a lot of cappish folks who are slow like that, lol.

*twitch* Slow as in years? *Blinks*
...I...*holds head* Time is a person's most precious resource. Why piss time away?

hmmm. lemme ask you something, cappy.

in the period of time before asking someone out, wtf are you doing?

just observing? stalking their social media? figuring out how to approach them? freaking yourself out?

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Observing, seeing how they treat others, seeing besides crotch tingles and faster heart rates, what they do for me and judging how well we work together and get along.
I'd give myself anywhere from the moment we meet to a week to make a move. Seriously, in all honestly either of you could be dead the very next day, so it's better in the long wrong to go big or go home, rather then play what ifs and waiting games.

Now if you're trying to seduce them subtly, then that's one of the few occasions that I wouldn't question the lack of direct approach.

Posted by SDNA
6 months

What should happen during this 6-month window?

Posted by MlleFisk

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Posted by MlleFisk
Lol @ 2 years. That girl would be in someone else's arms after a few months and you balled up in a fetal position in the friendzone.

Depends on the initial meeting. If first impressions are good, why hesitate.

Totally. I kind maybe give leeway to 2 months. Years? No.

Well some people are more fearful/sensitive to rejection? Not a mind reader, though I do wonder how those types manage to avoid getting steamrolled in relationships once they finally "luck out" and get one.

Well, when a person has no fear of risks, rejection seems like a minor inconvenience.

No, but i hear you. Gauging and feeling out the situation seems like a safer approach. I think letting your interest known from the beginning (even if youre not technically asking her out yet) will alleviate any mixed signals. So when you finally ask her out, there's no pressure.

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Plus it saves you from being "friendzoned".
I've heard more then once of friends becoming attracted to the other romantically, but fearful to act on it, due to the risk it poses to the friendship.

Posted by MlleFisk
Personally, i dont think there a magical number. It really depends on one's comfort level.

I believe that's likely the best solution.
uneasiness is unattractive.

Posted by Koniucha
Is this two years just to ask them out on a date?

I suppose.

Posted by Admiral
Was this guy a Cancer?

I have no clue.

Huh.


This thread has me reconsidering my entire life.

I feel like that has to be a joke...*two years* !!! Yeah no.

I don't get this topic either in timing or flow...

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My saggicorn asked me out the night of the day we first met. Girls who know about this tell me he "should have waited." I told this to my boyfriend, and he said: "Yeah, they probably think I should have waited...You know, saw you around campus several times, talked..." Then he paused and let out a huge laugh, "Yeah, RIGHT!" As though the notion of waiting around when he knew what he wanted was ridiculous.

I don't live by fabricated, arbitrary timelines set by people I don't know (and most likely don't relate to.) And so far, it's working great for us.

Posted by SirHorns
Till you ask someone out?

Had this conversation and heard an answer of someone suggesting waiting 2 years before asking someone out.
Even with my Cap Sun/Tau Moon combo...I find that incredibly slow. Honest I find the best action to let interest be known upfront and let things play out.

*shrug* Well females, what do you think the "average" time should be in being asked out by a male. Also to flip the script, how long do you think a chick should wait before going after a dude?

Average time a male should ask me out? 2 weeks, after you slowly start fading out.

How lomg it takes me to go after a man I want?.. depends, on the situation. If I know him well or not. If I don't know him well, I'll need to do some research on him to see if he's worth it. Probably a couple months.