How on earth do I stop obsessing about relationships

I'm nearly 37 im single every guy I meet seems to be the wrong guy. I look around and everyone has met someone and got married had children. I try my hardest not to think about it so much but it really does dominate my life and if I meet someone I don't know how to stop worrying what this and that means. Does he like me. Xx

Posted by Michele
I'm nearly 37 im single every guy I meet seems to be the wrong guy. I look around and everyone has met someone and got married had children. I try my hardest not to think about it so much but it really does dominate my life and if I meet someone I don't know how to stop worrying what this and that means. Does he like me. Xx

It doesn't sound as obsessing over relationships! It seems like obsessing over not having any.

Yeah I also obsess over whether it's turning into a relationship etc. I don't know how to stop or to think differently. Do u have any experience

Posted by TheGuru

Just know that you are perfect in all of your ways by yourself.

Actually, that is the total wrong advise to give anyone .. and also the very reason why she (and the others who have this ridiculous belief) cannot make it in life and are floundering around, confused.

There's no room for growth or improvement, no where to evolve to. That kind of twisted advice leaves a person stagnant.

Posted by Michele
Yeah I also obsess over whether it's turning into a relationship etc. I don't know how to stop or to think differently. Do u have any experience

Stop worrying and ask God to give you what you want and keep praying but remember - it's on his terms not ours!

Just talk to Him as if he was your best friend and advisor.

No need to go crazy! You can't help it if you will cry or laugh...

Everything will come to you if you clearly formulate your request.

Don't say 'make me happy' but rather 'please help me to find a kind man who will love me and want to have family with me'...

I promise! You will get your wish! Just trust and relax. You blocking your fate with negativity and fears.

Best of luck!

As stated to you on the Pisces board (several times, in several threads) ..... the moment you like a boy, you place unrealistic expectations, in where you think that just because you like him that he is suppose to perform accordingly, in proving to you that he likes you back the same.

That's a pretty immature outlook for a person your age.



You're never going to find someone so long as you think your fanatical romantic imaginings are real, merely because you like a boy.

I don't really understand what you are saying p angel. Are you saying that because I like someone I shouldn't be thinking does he like me? But that's the point I want them to like me back and I look to see if they do. I'm quite insecure and I cannot see if they do like me. I get obsessed about trying to see if they do. What is the way I should be looking at things. Cos I feel as though I am losing my mind. With it never working out and now I look to see if it's likely not to work out xx

Posted by Michele
I don't really understand what you are saying p angel. Are you saying that because I like someone I shouldn't be thinking does he like me? But that's the point I want them to like me back and I look to see if they do. I'm quite insecure and I cannot see if they do like me. I get obsessed about trying to see if they do. What is the way I should be looking at things. Cos I feel as though I am losing my mind. With it never working out and now I look to see if it's likely not to work out xx

You draw people away by thinking like that!

You don't know people can sense that insecurity!

Well...you are young! What is that you went trough that makes you underestimate your love-worthiness?

Do tell!

I guess my past. I am underestimating my love worthiness it's my curse and I don't know how to stop it. He text me to say thanks for a lovely evening and had a great chat but yet I still think he probably doesn't like me. And I find it impossible to wait and see so I obsess. If you can help Id be really grateful I cannot do this anymore it's so unhealthy x

You're 37 and have the mentality of a 21 year old about this stuff.

First, grow the hell up.

Second, stop giving a shit. You're setting expectations on a societal standard which is NOT one size fits all. You go around trying to fit a mold that isn't meant for you, you're just going to be miserable.



Also, I just skimmed over your post history. You're going to be a lost cause if you keep doing this "oh I'm better and know my self worth!" only to continue on a few weeks later about how you continue the self destructive behaviors you speak of.

Stay the fuck away from dating. You aren't fixed yet.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You're 37 and have the mentality of a 21 year old about this stuff.

First, grow the hell up.

Second, stop giving a shit. You're setting expectations on a societal standard which is NOT one size fits all. You go around trying to fit a mold that isn't meant for you, you're just going to be miserable.



Also, I just skimmed over your post history. You're going to be a lost cause if you keep doing this "oh I'm better and know my self worth!" only to continue on a few weeks later about how you continue the self destructive behaviors you speak of.

Stay the fuck away from dating. You aren't fixed yet.

And how or when is she is going to be fixed?