@bricklemark
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Do guys get their heart broken more than women?
Do Men Experience Heartbreak More Than Women
Research suggests women often process emotional pain more openly, but men may experience heartbreak deeply without showing it. Men's emotional responses can be less visible but equally intense. Understanding individual differences is key to recognizing emotional pain in both genders.
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Posted by bricklemark
I think my ex, that comtacted me during rhis venus retro, is pulling a teick on me, l havent heard back from her, and it feels like she's taking the relationship back, retroactively....??
Are you drunk ?
Maybe its cause she Aquarius, she play games...shes my only real long term gf...my current isnt there mentally...as much as regular people...so it don't really count. So, my Aqua ex is givin me the impression that girls only go out with guys to break them to pieces....guys are much more dumb than women...l'm thinkin we get played every. Time.
Posted by bricklemark
Maybe its cause she Aquarius, she play games...shes my only real long term gf...my current isnt there mentally...as much as regular people...so it don't really count. So, she's givin me the impression that girls only go out with guys to break them to pieces....guys are much more dumb than women...l'm thinkin we get played every. Time.
That's somewhat true. I'm an Aqua too I recall your posts on aqua women.
I asked if you were drunk bc you usually don't misspell words lol.
What's your sign?
No we if we do guys move on faster than girls
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.
Posted by bricklemark
Maybe its cause she Aquarius, she play games...shes my only real long term gf...my current isnt there mentally...as much as regular people...so it don't really count. So, she's givin me the impression that girls only go out with guys to break them to pieces....guys are much more dumb than women...l'm thinkin we get played every. Time.That's somewhat true. I'm an Aqua too I recall your posts on aqua women.
I asked if you were drunk bc you usually don't misspell words lol.
What's your sign?
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Cancer...
Posted by uchiha
No we if we do guys move on faster than girls
That's what l thought, but it seems in the very long term we don't do well...
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.
Yeah women are a lot smarter, more intuitive, they know what needs to be done, how much fun can be had, and when play time must cease. They're on a whole other level.
Posted by blackmoon
I doubt it.. because for guys it's all about the sex and the thirst
We still catch feelings tho...in the long term?
Posted by bricklemark
Maybe its cause she Aquarius, she play games...shes my only real long term gf...my current isnt there mentally...as much as regular people...so it don't really count. So, she's givin me the impression that girls only go out with guys to break them to pieces....guys are much more dumb than women...l'm thinkin we get played every. Time.That's somewhat true. I'm an Aqua too I recall your posts on aqua women.
I asked if you were drunk bc you usually don't misspell words lol.
What's your sign?
Cancer...
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I'm confused where you said "only real ling term girlfriend my current one isn't there mentally " so are you seeing 2 women ?
I'm sure there is a lot going on as relationships go through a lot of issues and good moments.
Is it her choice to not be there completely?
I had a relationship with a Cancer guy, but it was only whenever my now ex and I break up.
Whenever he needed a break or wanted to break up I'd meet with cancer, then if my ex was back on, I left the cancer guy.
😢
We never discussed feelings bc we weren't even supposed to be in any relationship at all (He's much younger than me) but we liked each other a lot and only we felt that, we didnt have to talk about it. it went on for over 2 years.
He even told his current gf about me and she hates me.
if he was older I would have dated him but his immaturity in life (in general) was a big No-No for me.
I was in fact thinking about him the other day (during the Rx) but I didn't contact him. :/
If an aqua woman still contacts you is because she really likes you. we don't play games, we'd let you know if it's just friendship.
My ex at some point was confused about me bc i still text him as friends and he told me I confused him.. I said, I want to remain as friends (I already moved on) if I want to be with you I'll honestly let you know.
I'm sure that any other aqua will make things clear as to what we want if we are sure.
if she's not assuring you she wants to stay as friends is because there's still a chance for you to get her back and she's probably waiting on you to make the decision.
idk if this is the case or not, but as an aqua I will never tell a guy to be with me over someone, that is a choice that has to be made by you. (this is in case you're hoping for her to claim you over your current gf)
Edit: Cancer guy has me blocked on social media 😢 I just noticed.
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.
Agree.
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.
Truth and society's perception of men has a lot to do with it as well. I may be wrong, but the popular opinion is that men are mostly the ones that cheat, play the field, etc while women are supposed to be the ones who are more ethical, stable, etc. So men go into a situation/relationship thinking that she won't do him wrong because he's been conditioned to think that whether he's a player or not. So when the opposite happens, it has more of an impact.
Posted by uchiha
No we if we do guys move on faster than girlsThat's what l thought, but it seems in the very long term we don't do well...
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No! Women have feelings for an ex for life. Hate! Men once gotten a new woman will not hate his ex.
i don't know if for all women signs but as an aqua, we can tell who is only playing around and we tend to go for the fwb...so once the relationship is over, we are hurt but in our mind is like "I knew this was gonna happen " also.."at least I gave it a try" and " I can't force someone to be with me, if they met me and realized I'm not who they want then it's fine"
But, when we are dating we think the same way, when we realize the person isn't who we want for a future together then we end it or suggest to keep it going until one of us find someone. Which that actually hurts because even though you know this person isn't who you want to marry, it doesn't take away the fact that you have feelings. I've ended about 2 relationships like this and the guy ends up more hurt.
Posted by uchiha
No we if we do guys move on faster than girls
I don't agree at all. I think initially they handle the breakup better, long term it effects them more. 100%
I find more bitterness from my male friends about their ex's, than women. By FAR!
"an aqua woman still contacts you is because she really likes you. we don't play games, we'd let you know if it's just friendship."
Right, it seems that way, but we're both married...?
P.s. Your cancer guy probably can't handle just being friends.
Posted by heliumfiasco
I find more bitterness from my male friends about their ex's, than women. By FAR!
I wouldnt say bitterness, but sadness, right? Heartache, not the same thing...?
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.Truth and society's perception of men has a lot to do with it as well. I may be wrong, but the popular opinion is that men are mostly the ones that cheat, play the field, etc while women are supposed to be the ones who are more ethical, stable, etc. So men go into a situation/relationship thinking that she won't do him wrong because he's been conditioned to think that whether he's a player or not. So when the opposite happens, it has more of an impact.
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Maybe women developed a habit and an ethic of monogamy because it hurts men too much when they're promiscuous...
Posted by bricklemark
I think my ex, that comtacted me during rhis venus retro, is pulling a teick on me, l havent heard back from her, and it feels like she's taking the relationship back, retroactively....??Are you drunk ?
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Drunk people can type!
I do.
Are you discriminate against drunks?
Well...like you believe all this crap posted here by sober people? —?
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.
Right.
@bricklemark It depends on what you mean by "more".
Men have their hearts broken more often because most of us simply don't understand women, their emotions, and how to attract them. Women are generally more in tune with their emotions and understand guys a lot better. Men typically fall for women a lot faster than women fall for men. So for guys, our hearts being broken happens more frequently.
That's not to say that guys expect to be dumped, but it's not a scenario we're altogether unfamiliar with either. Men get dumped all of the time, so to some degree we are used to it. Every guy "knows" (or believes) that the woman he's with could find another guy tomorrow. Obviously this notion isn't entirely realistic, but it's not untrue either. So to some degree a man is constantly aware of his "competition" (which is a whole different problem, but not one I'll address here).
When a man is dumped he also doesn't move on as fast, so he is forced to get through his pain alone. We eventually push aside our pain and "man up" so we can stop feeling hurt. We build up our emotional walls to protect us from the next blow.
The difference is women can be hurt a lot harder emotionally than guys. Even when a woman has her walls up, there is still that part of her that is hopeful and emotionally open to receive love. A woman's love is a powerful thing, I'd argue more so than a man's love. Hence women generally aren't the ones getting dumped, so it's not something they prepare for when they are in love. (That's not to say that it doesn't happen, I'm simply speaking in generalities). Most women don't often worry that another woman will swoop in and take her man.
Also it takes a lot longer for women to fall in love, so it also takes a lot longer for them to fall out of love. Women are also more present with their emotions, so they are going to feel every bit of pain from that break up. Having more "options" women are also more likely to rebound faster than men. Rebounding however almost always backfires, which means the woman winds up feeling doubly worse emotionally. Two break ups is always harder than one.
So I'd say heartbreak is generally "more" frequent for men, but "more" enduring for women.
Posted by bricklemark
Maybe its cause she Aquarius, she play games...shes my only real long term gf...my current isnt there mentally...as much as regular people...so it don't really count. So, my Aqua ex is givin me the impression that girls only go out with guys to break them to pieces....guys are much more dumb than women...l'm thinkin we get played every. Time.
(Great topic question btw)
She's an Aquarius, they tend to pop in an out until they are locked down. The reason why she's popping back is because you had a strong connection with her in the past. Strong emotional connections are hard for Aquariuses to create. So they can't help but be drawn to those that made a strong impression on them. That's not to say that she wants you back, but that's what her emotions are making her think. (I myself am curious to see when a particular Aqua chooses to rear her head again).
Since she (like most Aquas) doesn't trust these emotions, she going to pop in and out like a yo-yo. Sounds like this situations is confusing you a bit. My advice is to not get emotionally wound up in this woman at all. She's your ex for a reason. The BEST thing she could be is a friends with benefits, nothing more. She simple doesn't understand her own heart and mind. Also as a Cancer you're looking for something a lot deeper emotionally than she can probably provide. You may connect physically and intellectually, but it's not all there.
Also since she's an ex, she's going to be even more skittish with you. Don't let it get to you, just know it's all her issue.
I feel it's likely the same. Some men and women get their hearts broke and quickly search for something else. Some don't know how to fix themselves then never try to love anymore and end up alone and use to it. I myself am the latter. Personally I also see this happen to men more then women.
Please not the married Aqua..
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.Right.
@bricklemark It depends on what you mean by "more".
Men have their hearts broken more often because most of us simply don't understand women, their emotions, and how to attract them. Women are generally more in tune with their emotions and understand guys a lot better. Men typically fall for women a lot faster than women fall for men. So for guys, our hearts being broken happens more frequently.
That's not to say that guys expect to be dumped, but it's not a scenario we're altogether unfamiliar with either. Men get dumped all of the time, so to some degree we are used to it. Every guy "knows" (or believes) that the woman he's with could find another guy tomorrow. Obviously this notion isn't entirely realistic, but it's not untrue either. So to some degree a man is constantly aware of his "competition" (which is a whole different problem, but not one I'll address here).
When a man is dumped he also doesn't move on as fast, so he is forced to get through his pain alone. We eventually push aside our pain and "man up" so we can stop feeling hurt. We build up our emotional walls to protect us from the next blow.
The difference is women can be hurt a lot harder emotionally than guys. Even when a woman has her walls up, there is still that part of her that is hopeful and emotionally open to receive love. A woman's love is a powerful thing, I'd argue more so than a man's love. Hence women generally aren't the ones getting dumped, so it's not something they prepare for when they are in love. (That's not to say that it doesn't happen, I'm simply speaking in generalities). Most women don't often worry that another woman will swoop in and take her man.
Also it takes a lot longer for women to fall in love, so it also takes a lot longer for them to fall out of love. Women are also more present with their emotions, so they are going to feel every bit of pain from that break up. Having more "options" women are also more likely to rebound faster than men. Rebounding however almost always backfires, which means the woman winds up feeling doubly worse emotionally. Two break ups is always harder than one.
So I'd say heartbreak is generally "more" frequent for men, but "more" enduring for women.
This guy! I always love hearing what you have to say.
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Hahah thanks!
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.So I'd say heartbreak is generally "more" frequent for men, but "more" enduring for women.
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i agree, in general
of course, it depends on the individual. some men don't fall easily but when they do, it can be devastating if it ends badly
Posted by uchiha
No we if we do guys move on faster than girlsI don't agree at all. I think initially they handle the breakup better, long term it effects them more. 100%
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Noooo. My ex if she sees me she'd want to kill me. These girls hate you for life. I'm over her. My mind is focused on one girl right now no ex. It can't affect a man long term if he gets a new girl. But a girl with a new man is still sour at her ex.
And I just saw your post about you both are married? ?
What is up with this? You guys seperated from spouses?
I get the Aqua/cancer thing, I really do, dated a few and I'm fuxking drawn to you guys like a moth to a flame... But still you need to fix your marriage man.
Posted by bricklemark
I think my ex, that comtacted me during rhis venus retro, is pulling a teick on me, l havent heard back from her, and it feels like she's taking the relationship back, retroactively....??Are you drunk ?
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No! Just...retroactive...—?
What's so funny? I hate your ass...
Posted by justagirl
And I just saw your post about you both are married? ?What is up with this? You guys seperated from spouses?
I get the Aqua/cancer thing, I really do, dated a few and I'm fuxking drawn to you guys like a moth to a flame... But still you need to fix your marriage man.
Yeah l think it's a thing...my in laws are actually Aqua-quadruple Cancer —
It's not that my marriage needs fixing, it's that the drag is so strong, and like unfinished business....we were too intense with eachother, we'd fight like crazy, then make up like crazy...we had to stop it! But now 20 years later we feel maybe we have a shot, we're more mature.
Posted by Soul
I feel it's likely the same. Some men and women get their hearts broke and quickly search for something else. Some don't know how to fix themselves then never try to love anymore and end up alone and use to it. I myself am the latter. Personally I also see this happen to men more then women.
I spent 7years pretty much alone...without hardly ever thinking about her...then l found a long term relat but it's quiet, not much sex, not much anything ?. I dont feel another partner would fix my heartache, like l dont get that. I could have had ten intense relats, it wouldnt take away the first real one.
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.So I'd say heartbreak is generally "more" frequent for men, but "more" enduring for women.
i agree, in general
of course, it depends on the individual. some men don't fall easily but when they do, it can be devastating if it ends badly
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Very true, this is all generalities. Men definitely fall hard when we are dumped. I think guys generally reach a point where we get angry/resentful about the pain that's been inflicted on us. This makes out heart harder. The more we're hurt, the colder we can become. So it also depends on when a woman meets up. I joke that all guys start off as "nice guys", then over time heartache makes us either cold or crafty.
Posted by justagirl
And I just saw your post about you both are married? ?What is up with this? You guys seperated from spouses?
I get the Aqua/cancer thing, I really do, dated a few and I'm fuxking drawn to you guys like a moth to a flame... But still you need to fix your marriage man.
Yeah l think it's a thing...my in laws are actually Aqua-quadruple Cancer —
It's not that my marriage needs fixing, it's that the drag is so strong, and like unfinished business....we were too intense with eachother, we'd fight like crazy, then make up like crazy...we had to stop it! But now 20 years later we feel maybe we have a shot, we're more mature.
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Ya I thought the same thing with my ex crabbie. Was great at first and well now he's an ex again this time he is blocked! Lmao that unfinished busniness might be better left that way.
Wish I had some advise... I would rather not speak and encourage any type of cheating, as I was cheated on and well I don't have high opinion on that whole subject.
Posted by bricklemark
I think my ex, that comtacted me during rhis venus retro, is pulling a teick on me, l havent heard back from her, and it feels like she's taking the relationship back, retroactively....??Are you drunk ?
Drunk people can type!
I do.
Are you discriminate against drunks?
Well...like you believe all this crap posted here by sober people? —?
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lmao no but in that particular moment I asked if he was haha not judging. I usually post when I'm high. ??
Posted by bricklemark
I think my ex, that comtacted me during rhis venus retro, is pulling a teick on me, l havent heard back from her, and it feels like she's taking the relationship back, retroactively....??Are you drunk ?
Drunk people can type!
I do.
Are you discriminate against drunks?
Well...like you believe all this crap posted here by sober people? —?
lmao no but in that particular moment I asked if he was haha not judging. I usually post when I'm high. ??
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How high!
Don't jump from the roof'
You could survive..,than you'll be sorry! Lol
Posted by justagirl
And I just saw your post about you both are married? ?What is up with this? You guys seperated from spouses?
I get the Aqua/cancer thing, I really do, dated a few and I'm fuxking drawn to you guys like a moth to a flame... But still you need to fix your marriage man.
Yeah l think it's a thing...my in laws are actually Aqua-quadruple Cancer —
It's not that my marriage needs fixing, it's that the drag is so strong, and like unfinished business....we were too intense with eachother, we'd fight like crazy, then make up like crazy...we had to stop it! But now 20 years later we feel maybe we have a shot, we're more mature.
Ya I thought the same thing with my ex crabbie. Was great at first and well now he's an ex again this time he is blocked! Lmao that unfinished busniness might be better left that way.
Wish I had some advise... I would rather not speak and encourage any type of cheating, as I was cheated on and well I don't have high opinion on that whole subject.
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Yeah l understand...but l've been with my partner 13 years now, and it feels like it's - next stop : the grave. So l'm kind of thinking what l could still do, in my life...
Do you have good synastry with your crabbies? Lol
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.So I'd say heartbreak is generally "more" frequent for men, but "more" enduring for women.
i agree, in general
of course, it depends on the individual. some men don't fall easily but when they do, it can be devastating if it ends badly
Very true, this is all generalities. Men definitely fall hard when we are dumped. I think guys generally reach a point where we get angry/resentful about the pain that's been inflicted on us. This makes out heart harder. The more we're hurt, the colder we can become. So it also depends on when a woman meets up. I joke that all guys start off as "nice guys", then over time heartache makes us either cold or crafty.
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it's not fair to punish the next one and yourself for what happened in the past though
'love like you have never loved before', every time lol - i think that's an awesome quality
Posted by Soul
I feel it's likely the same. Some men and women get their hearts broke and quickly search for something else. Some don't know how to fix themselves then never try to love anymore and end up alone and use to it. I myself am the latter. Personally I also see this happen to men more then women.I spent 7years pretty much alone...without hardly ever thinking about her...then l found a long term relat but it's quiet, not much sex, not much anything ?. I dont feel another partner would fix my heartache, like l dont get that. I could have had ten intense relats, it wouldnt take away the first real one.
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I'm pretty much on the same track. I just know love, sex, emotions, and the idea of time spent for nothing scares me. Because of that I stay away from relationships. The want for a woman's time and attention has always changed me. Made me stupid and distracted. Its also never worked out for me or them in the long run, so being alone just seems like the better option.
Posted by SeraphCuteness
Both men and women get their hearts broken.
Really?
What a breath of fresh air!
Posted by jeane
I think this could be true. Women get their heart broken as well but normally it is the men that don't see it coming. I think I read somewhere women are more likely to end their marriages than men are. I'm not sure if that is the same for all couples.So I'd say heartbreak is generally "more" frequent for men, but "more" enduring for women.
i agree, in general
of course, it depends on the individual. some men don't fall easily but when they do, it can be devastating if it ends badly
Very true, this is all generalities. Men definitely fall hard when we are dumped. I think guys generally reach a point where we get angry/resentful about the pain that's been inflicted on us. This makes out heart harder. The more we're hurt, the colder we can become. So it also depends on when a woman meets up. I joke that all guys start off as "nice guys", then over time heartache makes us either cold or crafty.
it's not fair to punish the next one and yourself for what happened in the past though
'love like you have never loved before', every time lol - i think that's an awesome quality
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Right exactly. I try to give everyone new person a clean slate, but I know I can never be as blindly open as I was with my first love, at least not in the beginning.
Damn dude you're always rambling about your ex and always reference her as superior to your current gf in most ways
That's pretty shitty and unfair to your current gf.
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Posted by brianafay
Damn dude you're always rambling about your ex and always reference her as superior to your current gf in most waysThat's pretty shitty and unfair to your current gf.
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Should l lie, and repress my feelings? And get cancer? Haha
Posted by Soul
I feel it's likely the same. Some men and women get their hearts broke and quickly search for something else. Some don't know how to fix themselves then never try to love anymore and end up alone and use to it. I myself am the latter. Personally I also see this happen to men more then women.I spent 7years pretty much alone...without hardly ever thinking about her...then l found a long term relat but it's quiet, not much sex, not much anything ?. I dont feel another partner would fix my heartache, like l dont get that. I could have had ten intense relats, it wouldnt take away the first real one.
I'm pretty much on the same track. I just know love, sex, emotions, and the idea of time spent for nothing scares me. Because of that I stay away from relationships. The want for a woman's time and attention has always changed me. Made me stupid and distracted. Its also never worked out for me or them in the long run, so being alone just seems like the better option.
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I mean love and sex are amazing...emotions come with it, inevitably, but it's hard to make it work long term, that's the problem, yeah?
Posted by brianafay
Damn dude you're always rambling about your ex and always reference her as superior to your current gf in most waysThat's pretty shitty and unfair to your current gf.
??♀️
Should l lie, and repress my feelings? And get cancer? Haha
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Nah but you gotta find a way to move on and I mean really let it go - not just "moving on" physically
Posted by justagirl
And I just saw your post about you both are married? ?What is up with this? You guys seperated from spouses?
I get the Aqua/cancer thing, I really do, dated a few and I'm fuxking drawn to you guys like a moth to a flame... But still you need to fix your marriage man.
Yeah l think it's a thing...my in laws are actually Aqua-quadruple Cancer —
It's not that my marriage needs fixing, it's that the drag is so strong, and like unfinished business....we were too intense with eachother, we'd fight like crazy, then make up like crazy...we had to stop it! But now 20 years later we feel maybe we have a shot, we're more mature.
Ya I thought the same thing with my ex crabbie. Was great at first and well now he's an ex again this time he is blocked! Lmao that unfinished busniness might be better left that way.
Wish I had some advise... I would rather not speak and encourage any type of cheating, as I was cheated on and well I don't have high opinion on that whole subject.
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I just thought what might bring the two signs together, it's the freedom, probably...Cancer escapes in the past, in his memories, and Aqua through the future, through his visionary genius and technology.
Posted by brianafay
Damn dude you're always rambling about your ex and always reference her as superior to your current gf in most waysThat's pretty shitty and unfair to your current gf.
??♀️
Should l lie, and repress my feelings? And get cancer? Haha
Nah but you gotta find a way to move on and I mean really let it go - not just "moving on" physically
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Move on from what? My ex? What if we're meant to be, and l was gonna break up in a few years anyway?
Posted by Soul
I feel it's likely the same. Some men and women get their hearts broke and quickly search for something else. Some don't know how to fix themselves then never try to love anymore and end up alone and use to it. I myself am the latter. Personally I also see this happen to men more then women.I spent 7years pretty much alone...without hardly ever thinking about her...then l found a long term relat but it's quiet, not much sex, not much anything ?. I dont feel another partner would fix my heartache, like l dont get that. I could have had ten intense relats, it wouldnt take away the firseal one.
I'm pretty much on the same track. I just know love, sex, emotions, and the idea of time spent for nothing scares me. Because of that I stay away from relationships. The want for a woman's time and attention has always changed me. Made me stupid and distracted. Its also never worked out for me or them in the long run, so being alone just seems like the better option.
I mean love and sex are amazing...emotions come with it, inevitably, but it's hard to make it work long term, that's the problem, yeah?
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I can see that. For me the women I chose never meet up to the idea I created in my mind. Then they end up too dominat or set in stone to change, so I go back to just being alone. The idea of wanting to change people to the way I want makes me controlling and manipulative in the first place, so I find it better to just be alone.
Posted by brianafay
Damn dude you're always rambling about your ex and always reference her as superior to your current gf in most waysThat's pretty shitty and unfair to your current gf.
??♀️
Should l lie, and repress my feelings? And get cancer? Haha
Nah but you gotta find a way to move on and I mean really let it go - not just "moving on" physically
Move on from what? My ex? What if we're meant to be, and l was gonna break up in a few years anyway?
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I'm not saying that's not a possibility - my fiancé was my ex several times. Sometimes people are the right people at the wrong time in your life, and when it's the right time everything falls into place....
...but still it's not fair to this girl for you to compare her to your ex and not really give her a real chance.
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I think my ex, that comtacted me during rhis venus retro, is pulling a teick on me, l havent heard back from her, and it feels like she's taking the relationship back, retroactively....??