How soon before you start fooling around?

Most people agree that having sex too soon makes a woman look easy.

But guys - do you think the same of a women who succumb to fooling around, like making out, taking clothes off, fondling, handjob/fingering...but not oral sex or intercourse?

When is the typically acceptable time to start fooling around, in your opinion - if the women wants to come across as girlfriend material versus just a booty call?

A) First date?
B) Second date?
C) Third date?
D) More than 3 dates, but before going exclusive (commitment to be bf/gf)? ELABORATE.
E) Only AFTER committing to an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?

Pick ONLY one. And be realistically honest. For example, IMHO, I think fooling around on Date 1 would put a woman in hookup/booty call category. My Aqua and I started fooling around only AFTER commitment.

Also, my definition of "fooling around" includes sexually suggestive texting, no matter how subtle.

E) obviously...

This cannot be determined by time .... only by feelings.

Posted by P-Angel
This cannot be determined by time .... only by feelings.

+1

Can't really choose from that list

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by P-Angel
This cannot be determined by time .... only by feelings.

+1

Can't really choose from that list

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Oh no. I knew people would start saying that.

I don't think feelings are reliable. Players are EXPERTS at making women have the right "feelings".

To me, time and effort is the better test.

But if you people insist on using the "feelings" benchmark -- then on average, how soon do you get those feelings?

The best way to describe it is if I feel it's mutual and honestly usually takes a few months up to a year for me it varies. But then again I'm the type that don't really get physically intimate until I get to that stage. I know heaps of other people that have no problem with it and instead might be their way of gauging longevity of the relationship.

I'll bite though 😛 If I really had to choose it would probably be E.

I've done all, except for E.

I have to know we have sexual chemistry before I make you mine.

I think women should worry less about how men see them and more about being honest with themselves and what they really want.

If you want him to stick around, give him a reason to.
If you just want to fuck...go for it...who cares how it makes you seem.

I rarely agree with P-Angel, but I think she has it nailed on the head. Some people you just have a connection with instantly and they feel the same and things progress earlier than some relationships. I know people who meet and got married within 6 months of knowing each other and have been married for years. I know people who lived together for years got married and then had a divorce within a year. It just depends on feelings on all areas of live, but I'm a pisces so I'm driven by feelings and vibes more than time tables.

I dont do fooling around its either full blown sex or nothing. I dont see how its more respectful to for example "just" have their unprotected dick in your mouth then it is to have sex with them.

I have sex if it feels right whether its a first date a 5th date or we bumped into eachother at the petrol station! I've had ex's who have waited a month or so and that wasnt me playing games or me conforming to society it was because I just wasnt feeling it.

I wouldnt buy a car without a test drive and I'm not going to commit to a relationship without one either. I need to be sexually combatible with someone to make a relationship work. They dont have to be an amazing lsy I dont mind teaching a guy whos eager and willing to learn how I like it but there has to be a connection.

Is there rules for this? I'll have sex with someone when I feel good and ready for it regardless of date number, and if the man was going to put me in a category of girlfriend vs booty call depending on when I slept with him then he's not worth my time and I wouldn't even give a glance backwards. Thank god I've only met men who are intelligent and confident enough in themselves not to categorise women like this. I actually didn't know that most people agree that sex too soon makes a woman look easy, what does it make a man look I wonder?

And just to say, my pisces and I slept together on the 3rd date, moved in together after 2 months and stayed together for 20 years.