Question For The Ladies

Have you ever gone back to a man when you treated him wrong?

I guess its different for men than it is women. When we do wrong, were expected to make amends somehow or admit we're wrong. I've just noticed its different when its the other way around.

If I've ended a relationship then I'm not ever coming back but if he ended it because I did him wrong then most likely I'm still pining and will try again if I'm feeling it and he's doing all the right things

But I'm not talking about him being douche, I'm talking about him being a good man and the woman is the bad one.

The ones i treat bad are the ones i dont care for or no longer want anymore, so I doubt I'll ever crawl back to any of them. Eww!

BS, I was touched by a post you wrote at the libra forum about you and your ex... Have you ever made a thread about you guys, which forum and whats the name?

The topic has nothing to do with me specifically. It's just something I've noticed over my life and here's what I'm saying. If a man screws up through mistreatment, cheating, etc😉 he's the one who is expected to try to set thing right if he wants the woman back. To make his case and give her the choice of taking him back. But I rarely see it done when its the other way around. I rarely see women try to make amends for mistreating a good guy wrong. Maybe it's just me.

Didn't mean for the wink lol

I'm going to assume "treated him wrong" is some sort of deep betrayal...I would be way too ashamed to go back. And I would be even more ashamed if he wanted me back. I would humbly accept the consequences, sincerely apologize and then disappear.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Have you ever gone back to a man when you treated him wrong?

instead of gone back, i will use reconnecting. sure, ive reconnected with men ive been a major bitch 2.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
The topic has nothing to do with me specifically. It's just something I've noticed over my life and here's what I'm saying. If a man screws up through mistreatment, cheating, etc😉 he's the one who is expected to try to set thing right if he wants the woman back. To make his case and give her the choice of taking him back. But I rarely see it done when its the other way around. I rarely see women try to make amends for mistreating a good guy wrong. Maybe it's just me.

on one hand, what came first? chicken or the egg? her misbehavior could have been the direct result of his mistreatment. even is he is delusional that he did the right thing.

i have seen a women plead for a man to take her back...in the movies

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
But I'm not talking about him being douche, I'm talking about him being a good man and the woman is the bad one.

I can't really relate to the OP since I've never treated a guy I was seeing badly. But out of curiosity, why would you want her to come back if she treated you so badly? Don't you think you deserve better than that? Why do you think you still have a vested interest in someone who treated you badly?

Or are you just waxing nostalgic and we are reading too deeply into the OP? Did she treat you badly, really mistreat you? Or did you two just have some misunderstanding that has you viewing her in a bad light? How do you know she feels like you treated her greatly? Maybe she feels like your the bad one?

I know that's far fetched for any of us to believe given your posts around here, but idk. Please elaborate a little on the situation so that you may receive more accurate responses.

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given that saggis are always right and never in the wrong...wouldnt be too far ao stretch to blame the other person and expect them to come crawling back.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
But I'm not talking about him being douche, I'm talking about him being a good man and the woman is the bad one.

I can't really relate to the OP since I've never treated a guy I was seeing badly. But out of curiosity, why would you want her to come back if she treated you so badly? Don't you think you deserve better than that? Why do you think you still have a vested interest in someone who treated you badly?

Or are you just waxing nostalgic and we are reading too deeply into the OP? Did she treat you badly, really mistreat you? Or did you two just have some misunderstanding that has you viewing her in a bad light? How do you know she feels like you treated her greatly? Maybe she feels like your the bad one?

I know that's far fetched for any of us to believe given your posts around here, but idk. Please elaborate a little on the situation so that you may receive more accurate responses.

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Cowgirl...why do I get the strange feeling your trying to pick a fight with me? Court's not in session counselor 😛

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
The topic has nothing to do with me specifically. It's just something I've noticed over my life and here's what I'm saying. If a man screws up through mistreatment, cheating, etc😉 he's the one who is expected to try to set thing right if he wants the woman back. To make his case and give her the choice of taking him back. But I rarely see it done when its the other way around. I rarely see women try to make amends for mistreating a good guy wrong. Maybe it's just me.

on one hand, what came first? chicken or the egg? her misbehavior could have been the direct result of his mistreatment. even is he is delusional that he did the right thing.

i have seen a women plead for a man to take her back...in the movies

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Lol...in the movies.

Another reason I asked this question is that we were discussing social dynamics in divorce cases in one of my classes earlier thus week. Outside of marriage and the court of law its mostly the men even if they're not at fault for the break up. But in the case of marriage and divorce, its more evenly divided.

Posted by WaterCup
The ones i treat bad are the ones i dont care for or no longer want anymore, so I doubt I'll ever crawl back to any of them. Eww!

BS, I was touched by a post you wrote at the libra forum about you and your ex... Have you ever made a thread about you guys, which forum and whats the name?

Our relationship was the reason I came here and its in the libra forum. Heck that was around May of last year and seems so long ago. I can't remember the title but you probably can find it in my post history.

Lol, you know me...I'm direct 😉. Plus, my life is not a show called Scandal 😛 No worries

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Have you ever gone back to a man when you treated him wrong?

Absolutely not. If I come to a place whereas I'm treating the guy I'm with wrong, there was obviously something WRONG with the relationship & I will rid myself of it. I have no interest in revitalizing what once was.