My partner tells me he's really attracted to me and that he loves and cares about me but I don't feel that for some reason. I hear him and listen to him attentively when he tells me he does but I don't get that feeling of reassurance at all. He tells me everyday if he didn't feel anything for me then he wouldn't be with me everyday but I don't know if that really proves anything enough. He's made tons of insulting statements regarding the way Iook and that's all I can and forever remember. Here are some examples of things he's said. "I want to get you pregnant so you can pick up some weight." "Maybe if you eat some more Chinese food you'll get bigger." "You are the smallest woman I have ever seen." "You are the skinniest woman I've ever dated you just look different than my exes." "Your breasts are saggier compared to my exes." And I thought to myself maybe it's because I breast fear for 11 months and had a baby. "Your breasts are little compared to my exes but I like yours better though." "Their breasts were round-shaped like watermelons and they use to stuff them in my face." "Yours are like cantaloupes but shaped like pears." I would **** Beyonc'e if I wasn't married to you." "Those leggings you got on make you look better- oops I take that back I meant to say they make you look thicker." " It looks like you picked up a few pounds you look more beautiful and sexier than before." He doesn't say insulting things like this about the way I look everyday but It's been going on for 13 months during our dating relationship and all throughout our marriage. I've never had any issues like this before with any other men. I am 5ft4 and 147 pounds and wear a 36D cup bra I don't have round-shaped boobs like his exes they are shaped smaller like almonds. I'm not desperately trying to get bigger than I already am. He keeps saying stop bringing this stuff up it happened in the past but he said I looked better in leggings by accident just a few weeks ago. He says he never meant to say any of these things to me but these insulting comments he keeps making about my body has not stopped. I ask him if he has a certain type or preference of woman he likes and he says no. He says he's confused and doesn't know why he's saying things like this. He says it's all an accident and that he's slow and had a brain injury that affects the way he talks and behaves and says he processes things slowly before he says them. But I can't tell if it's in his character or if it's really an accident. He went to counseling personally which didn't work. I've told how much his statements bother me on multiple occasions but it seems like he can't control himself stop. Everytime I bring up how the things he says bothers me he immediately gets upset on the defense and says leave it in the past and stop bringing it up.
