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Would you attend a friends wedding with out your significant other?
Attending a Friend's Wedding Without Your Significant Other
Deciding whether to attend alone depends on your relationship and comfort level. It is common to attend social events solo if your partner chooses not to go. Communication with your partner and understanding your own feelings are important to ensure both of you are comfortable with the decision.
Why isn’t he going?
Attending wedding's make me uncomfortable so I'd love to have my so with me. I'd probably be a bit disappointed if they wouldn't accompany me (if they had nothing major going on). But if it's important to a good friend I'd go alone.
Sure especially if I have friends there.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
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Does he know the people getting married? I would feel awkward going if I didn’t.
Also weddings are lame so I wouldn’t want to go.
He does know them. The girl is his best friends ex. So out of solidarity for his friend he isn't going.
I'd go without him and no grudge-holding. I went to a handful of weddings without my ex-Gem while we were together, bothered me once or twice but I got over it and I'm not gonna make someone do something they don't want to. I enjoy having my life, my S/O has theirs, and we have a life together - I don't need to be with them 24/7.
All my closest friends will be there so I'll be fine without him. I'm just getting others opinions/perspective.
My other friends whom are going think his reasons are stupid...I get it tho
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Does he know the people getting married? I would feel awkward going if I didn’t.
Also weddings are lame so I wouldn’t want to go.
He does know them. The girl is his best friends ex. So out of solidarity for his friend he isn't going.
I personally think that’s a good reason, respecting his friend.
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Yes, especially since his friend did the same when my boyfriends ex got married. He didnt go to her wedding
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
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Ok I 100% get him.
It would suck to open social media and have to scroll past pics of his friends laughing and having fun at an ex’s wedding.
Your bf gets a pass. This time.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
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ya that's a tough one for him to be in. Was she also friends with you guys or she more of a friend via the bestfriend of his? ex's and weddings and loyalty to buds just makes it all around ikky.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
Ok I 100% get him.
It would suck to open social media and have to scroll past pics of his friends laughing and having fun at an ex’s wedding.
Your bf gets a pass. This time.
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I agree. And I know from expiernece with my ex how shitty that is. To see that on fb/instagram.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
ya that's a tough one for him to be in. Was she also friends with you guys or she more of a friend via the bestfriend of his? ex's and weddings and loyalty to buds just makes it all around ikky.
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She's my friend totally unrelated to my bf. I started dated my guy and we realized we have an overlapping social group
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
ya that's a tough one for him to be in. Was she also friends with you guys or she more of a friend via the bestfriend of his? ex's and weddings and loyalty to buds just makes it all around ikky.
She's my friend totally unrelated to my bf. I started dated my guy and we realized we have an overlapping social group
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Gothca, I still think him supporting his bestfriend is admirable.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
ya that's a tough one for him to be in. Was she also friends with you guys or she more of a friend via the bestfriend of his? ex's and weddings and loyalty to buds just makes it all around ikky.
She's my friend totally unrelated to my bf. I started dated my guy and we realized we have an overlapping social group
Gothca, I still think him supporting his bestfriend is admirable.
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I do aswell. Especially since his friend did the same when my bfs ex got married.
My friend doesn't get it, but oh well
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
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You have your loyalties and he has his. Go to your friend's wedding without him.
SO has a reason not to go. Ifnit was just ‘I don’t wanna’ I would put a leash on him and make him go.
But him not going out of a loyalty to his friend - different story. Let him be and maybe he want to spend time with a friend on that day.
Nothing else would be ok for me to let him not to go. This I can understand.
Kind of childish but sweet at the same time.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
You have your loyalties and he has his. Go to your friend's wedding without him.
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Agreed.
SO has a reason not to go. Ifnit was just ‘I don’t wanna’ I would put a leash on him and make him go.
But him not going out of a loyalty to his friend - different story. Let him be and maybe he want to spend time with a friend on that day.
Nothing else would be ok for me to let him not to go. This I can understand.
Kind of childish but sweet at the same time.
Yes exactly. And I think he is planning on doing something with his friend that day.
His friends sister is going...I find that kind of funny. To each their own..
SO has a reason not to go. Ifnit was just ‘I don’t wanna’ I would put a leash on him and make him go.
But him not going out of a loyalty to his friend - different story. Let him be and maybe he want to spend time with a friend on that day.
Nothing else would be ok for me to let him not to go. This I can understand.
Kind of childish but sweet at the same time.
Yes exactly. And I think he is planning on doing something with his friend that day.
His friends sister is going...I find that kind of funny. To each their own..
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Girls vs boys...she is feeling like going. He doesn’t. Sometimes friends are closer than siblings. You know...
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
Ok I 100% get him.
It would suck to open social media and have to scroll past pics of his friends laughing and having fun at an ex’s wedding.
Your bf gets a pass. This time.
I agree. And I know from expiernece with my ex how shitty that is. To see that on fb/instagram.
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Remember before social media when you could do the full fade and never have to deal with that person again? I miss those days.
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
Ok I 100% get him.
It would suck to open social media and have to scroll past pics of his friends laughing and having fun at an ex’s wedding.
Your bf gets a pass. This time.
I agree. And I know from expiernece with my ex how shitty that is. To see that on fb/instagram.
Remember before social media when you could do the full fade and never have to deal with that person again? I miss those days.
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I hate social media more and more everyday. The older I get the less use I have of it. My bf deleted everything but his fb...and I'm thinking of doing the same. It's just to easy to feel insure and compare your life. Not to mention feel like you have to keep up with the Jones's. Also it's too easy to keep in contact with someone...good and bad.
Le sigh...
Why isn’t he going?
The girl getting married is his best friends ex who his best friend is still heartbroken over. So he thinks its disrespectful to his bff if he went.
I get his reasons, I'm a little upset to go alone. But this is something I'm not making a big deal out of. He has his reasons. Chose my battles
Appreciate that your partner has integrity and is trying to do the correct thing in a moral sense. He deserves recognition for that and not a guilt trip.
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I'm not guilt tripping him at all. I hear him 100% . Likeni said I'm a lil sad but I didnt Express that to him because I do feel he is doing the right thing. I commend him tbh. Like you said he has integrity. One of the reasons i decided to date him.
So general consensus... unless there is a good reason (ie: my boyfriends) then you would make him go?
For future reference for when his bestfriends ex isn't getting married 😉 lol
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They are indeed invited just they dont want to or choose not to go. Would you be upset? Would you not go at all? Would it not matter to you?
Asking this in advance to an upcoming engagement party/wedding that I already know my s.o won't attend (bros before hoes deal- bro code)