I think I'm gonna cry

if anyone has thoughts on the subject let me have it because I haven't spoken to anyone bout this

Despite the fact he's medicated and doing better leaving him with your mother is a bad idea.

All it takes is one sudden stressful event and hes bound to relapse.

You have way too much on your plate x
I would seriously consider if your desire to create a relationship with more meaning is actually a product of your loneliness and anxiety rather than love...
Lean on him as a friend and a person you can share the tough times with, but I advise against making it more for now.
You waited two years already to let him grow etc Take care your mama and follow your dream to move to the city.
If it's meant to happen he'll find you again.... in a better place and time maybe 🙂

Coming from someone who was in the same situation for the last 3 years (care taking for a parent with cancer), you really should hold off. You have too much going on, he's a liability, and you really need to make sure that you're not developing feelings because you're in the situation you're in.

I was the opposite- too fucking busy to bother. I did end up with a fwb, but that was during a down period between chemo and surgeries and the like. Otherwise, I didn't have the time nor the patience for dating/ a relationship.

From what you shared, this isn't exactly an ideal situation for a relationship- you "rescued" him and you need an escape from what you're going through. That's not a very good foundation for a healthy relationship.

...and agreed with above, don't leave him alone with your mom.

Thanks for your answers all are reasonable I just need people's opinions otherwise I'm not completely honest with myself and I need to hear the other side.

I'll continue to lean on him as a friend, he really is the best friend ever and I get overwhelmed with happiness that I think it's love....btw mums fine and the cancer hasn't spread she's just got no boobs anymore, it's time for me to leave so she can have her house to herself

But yeh thanks you guys I was having one of my moments xoxXoxXox

I didn't get to read your post, but....