Is romantic love just an illusion?

When we start to have problems in a relationship? is it merely the illusion starting to fade?

when we break up and when we mourn the relationship are we really sad that the relationship is over or are we merely sad that the fantasy finally died?

IDK. I've had loves that were very real and comforting and loves that were maybe borderline delusional. I mourned the loss of both. It's worse to lose what feels real and not illusory. But there's a little illusion in every relationship in the beginning. Sure we're sad when we've lost a future that we were planning and what I think we mourn, is the loss of what could have been. That's not always a fantasy.

Compatibility is underrated, apparently, and people tend to settle, just so they won't be alone.

Also, people mistake lust for love all the time.

Posted by VenusX

IDK. I've had loves that were very real and comforting and loves that were maybe borderline delusional. I mourned the loss of both. It's worse to lose what feels real and not illusory. But there's a little illusion in every relationship in the beginning. Sure we're sad when we've lost a future that we were planning and what I think we mourn, is the loss of what could have been. That's not always a fantasy.

i can't put into words how much this response moved me.

Posted by GuardianAnu

Also, people mistake lust for love all the time.

This is true

Real love has nothing to do with romance and lust and lasts a lifetime

It seems quite rare....I've experienced it, but not In a romantic sense.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

When we start to have problems in a relationship? is it merely the illusion starting to fade?

when we break up and when we mourn the relationship are we really sad that the relationship is over or are we merely sad that the fantasy finally died?

I feel most of the time the early phase is illusions, you can't truly and deeply love when you're not seeing someone for who they are vs who they want you to think they are. I believe real love comes when the facades come down and everyone is being real. Loving the easy side of someone isn't what I equate to real, loving someone inspite of their flaws and all is where you can feel safe, where you can grow to build stable foundation and deep trust that this person accepts me. That to me is real romantic love!!

Most people mourn the "what could've been" and the wonderful feel the illusion/rose colored glasses brings out in us. 😍😍😍

Posted by WateryGem

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

When we start to have problems in a relationship? is it merely the illusion starting to fade?

when we break up and when we mourn the relationship are we really sad that the relationship is over or are we merely sad that the fantasy finally died?

I feel most of the time the early phase is illusions, you can't truly and deeply love when you're not seeing someone for who they are vs who they want you to think they are. I believe real love comes when the facades come down and everyone is being real. Loving the easy side of someone isn't what I equate to real, loving someone inspite of their flaws and all is where you can feel safe, where you can grow to build stable foundation and deep trust that this person accepts me. That to me is real romantic love!!

Most people mourn the "what could've been" and the wonderful feel the illusion/rose colored glasses brings out in us. 😍😍😍

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agreed

Posted by Erinelda

My favorite love is the delusional kind, the more delusional the better lol.

Lol the definition of a water sign -water sign relationship