jealousy

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by merima on Wednesday, April 13, 2016 and has 8 replies.

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@merima
10 YearsAquarius

what's your op? people are jealous because they are insecure or cause they have a good reason for that?I'm thinking of jealousy in relationships.My ex always accused me for being jealous on other women,but I was right about that because I later found out that he cheated on me.My husband was jealous in his former relations,how he explained to me,because those girls loved to provoke him with other men.When we started a relationship,after a while,I asked him is he jealous.He answered me "No,cause you aren't giving me reason for being jealous"

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Posted by blackphase
I tend to agree with what you are saying. I am an insecure person, which leads me to become jealous easily if I feel that my partners interest has shifted elsewhere or if he were to give an abundance of attention to another female. If I can trust someone and know how they feel about me without a doubt (like you said about your husbands response, No, cause you aren't give me reason to be jealous) then the jealous feelings don't arise all that often, if at all.

i agree. for me personally it has a lot to do with my so's behavior and whether they themselves are behaving in a way to attract unwarranted attention to themselves. if they are naturally flirtatious or entertain the flirtatious behavior of another woman. if they are secretive and perhaps in a really sadistic way enjoy a bout of jealousy from you. if my partner has good character and would do what they can in their power not to entertain another womans advances in any way then i would have no reason to be jealous even if they get attention, as long as they do nothing about it.

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@merima
10 YearsAquarius

Posted by blackphase
I tend to agree with what you are saying. I am an insecure person, which leads me to become jealous easily if I feel that my partners interest has shifted elsewhere or if he were to give an abundance of attention to another female. If I can trust someone and know how they feel about me without a doubt (like you said about your husbands response, No, cause you aren't give me reason to be jealous) then the jealous feelings don't arise all that often, if at all.

I was jealous not because I an an insecure person,but because his behaviour was wrong!He was hurting me flirting with other women..if he really loved me,than he wouldn't do that.

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@merima
10 YearsAquarius

Posted by LibWman

Posted by blackphase
I tend to agree with what you are saying. I am an insecure person, which leads me to become jealous easily if I feel that my partners interest has shifted elsewhere or if he were to give an abundance of attention to another female. If I can trust someone and know how they feel about me without a doubt (like you said about your husbands response, No, cause you aren't give me reason to be jealous) then the jealous feelings don't arise all that often, if at all.

i agree. for me personally it has a lot to do with my so's behavior and whether they themselves are behaving in a way to attract unwarranted attention to themselves. if they are naturally flirtatious or entertain the flirtatious behavior of another woman. if they are secretive and perhaps in a really sadistic way enjoy a bout of jealousy from you. if my partner has good character and would do what they can in their power not to entertain another womans advances in any way then i would have no reason to be jealous even if they get attention, as long as they do nothing about it.

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true!!

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@merima
10 YearsAquarius

Posted by merima

Posted by blackphase
I tend to agree with what you are saying. I am an insecure person, which leads me to become jealous easily if I feel that my partners interest has shifted elsewhere or if he were to give an abundance of attention to another female. If I can trust someone and know how they feel about me without a doubt (like you said about your husbands response, No, cause you aren't give me reason to be jealous) then the jealous feelings don't arise all that often, if at all.

I was jealous not because I an an insecure person,but because his behaviour was wrong!He was hurting me flirting with other women..if he really loved me,than he wouldn't do that.

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I mean,he was doing that because oh my God,he needed the attention so much,like I wasn't giving it at all!!! Ego,ego...and a litlle more ego ...

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@merima
10 YearsAquarius

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by someoneeee
I also have never been jealous without a reason. Every time I have became jealous, I have found out sooner or later that something was up.

Isn't that inevitable? One is logical follow-through from the other.

Yes, but I just hate it when a guy tells me I'm being jealous without a reason and then I find out that my instincts (the red flags I saw) were true.

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Couldn't agree more!!!!!

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
12 Years10,000+ Posts

Oh yeah that gut feeling I often let go because I give chances because no on is perfect but damn it's too much energy and effort wasting away but opens up new experiences and what is acceptable or not.

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