Maury Relationships

Oh shut up...don't act like we don't live in a world where girls are freakin' scandalous, because they are!!

So....do you think it's fair for a man to automatically get a DNA test on a child when it's 1st born, to remove all doubt, even if there is none? And even if they're married or in a serious relationship??!!

I say yes!! What's to hide?!

I get that asking for a test somewhat implies lack of trust, BUT let's be real, there's nothing wrong with protecting yourself just to be sure!! And as long as the guy brings it up in a civil, non-accusatory way, I don't understand why some women would completely flip & start acting crazy!

A little confusion, disappointment & anger is to be expected, but full flown defensiveness? Hmmmm that's the kind of stuff that'd make a man who never even questioned it before, start to question it now!

I still say YES, get them tested!

lol @ Fox

This topic breeds the same emotions that asking for a Pre-nup does. People think it's about lack of trust when it's really about protecting self. It's like insurance...no one is saying that it will happen, BUT in the case that it does, you're protected

Plus, people tend to get very ugly when a divorce/breakup happens. All of the sudden, it's "Well that baby technically doesn't look like me" lol

Some women are really nasty, so I don't blame a guy for wanting a DNA test done. Usually girls like that have bad taste in men & only sleep with no job hoodrats who don't have two pennies to rub together. So when they do get knocked up, they PICK the one who has the most money (even if it's in a piggy bank lol) & can at least provide...it doesn't even matter if he is the real father or not. I've seen it happen in real life too.

Posted by tiziani
I think if someone needs protection against their own wife, seek help. I don't want to walk through life looking at a map for directions.

I get it, but understand that it's about protecting yourself that 1 time so that you don't/won't ever have to doubt it!

In the real world, some women lie, some women cheat, some women make 1-night mistakes, some women won't tell the guy out of the fear of losing him, some women may have gotten pregnant before the marriage even took place and/or before she was ever committed to the guy, etc.

I get it. Always looking over your shoulder in paranoia gets old & takes the fun out of life/love. BUT being naive or accepting of the fact that these things can AND are happening is a bad move too

Posted by WaterCup
Some women are really nasty, so I don't blame a guy for wanting a DNA test done. Usually girls like that have bad taste in men & only sleep with no job hoodrats who don't have two pennies to rub together. So when they do get knocked up, they PICK the one who has the most money (even if it's in a piggy bank lol) & can at least provide...it doesn't even matter if he is the real father or not. I've seen it happen in real life too.

If cheating/infidelity is a possibility in any marriage (which it is...just look at the #2 reason cited in divorces...the statistics validate that), then comes with it the possibility that there could be deception about other things too like this topic

I think it's funny that people start forgetting that women can be just as unfaithful during marriage as they can be scandalous when they're single, when this topic comes up! If it's even a possibility, then go get the testing done to remove all doubt JUST IN CASE the thought ever pops up in your mind, even if it's 10 years or 20 years later

My sister is a perfect example of this...She is NOW married & HAPPILY married & has an amazing family BUT...

When she 1st got pregnant, they'd only been dating for 4 months. She didn't know she was pregnant until she delivered. She suspected that she may have been pregnant & took 4 home pregnancy tests (which she kept as proof that) AND got a blood test from the hospital done that was negative too. She was on birth control at the time of conception too so eventually she just chalked up the pain, discomfort & sudden weight gain as birth-control related

Well when she delivered my nephew, his family pushed him to get a DNA test & I can't blame them!!! Why pretend like your trust for someone so early on would be the same level of trust it'd be persay she'd gotten pregnant 10 years into the relationship?!

Yes he trusted her & yes he loved her & yes he had every intention on sticking around regardless, BUT he wasn't stupid or naive either. Even though his son came out looking like his spitting image, he was still smart & got the DNA test done!

Yes, the DNA results were that it was his kid, but not once did my sister ever get offended, get nervous or feel slighted b/c he asked for one. She knows how women are & she wasn't naive to that fact.

Now they are a great family & happily married!

@Tizani...well you can't really predict someone's reaction until you're actually there in that moment.

That's why it's not until a man asks for a test & sees her strange reaction that he THEN starts to have doubts even if he went into it without having any real/major doubt to begin with

A lot of times, a woman's reaction will tell the story. As with anything, too much defensiveness could be a red flag & a green light to have your antennas up.

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Posted by krysrenee7

All of the sudden, it's "Well that baby technically doesn't look like me" lol

It's a good point Lol last week my neighbor was shouting at his wife in an arguments and he generated the same fantasy ''Oh its not my child his nose even doesn't look alike me ''

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Or like the situations where 2 people split, get into relationships with others & then ALL OF THE SUDDEN the new girlfriend/wife starts doubting the paternity of his child that he conceived in another relationship. Other people can def. have a HUGE influence on paternity doubt. Poor guys.

Once a man's new partner, friends, or family start that buzz in his ear, it's realllllly really hard for him to get those implanted-seeds of doubt out of his head!

@krysrenee7

I wish all girls would think like this... these days it is crazy... yes men and women both cheat... but men don't have a choice possibly about when a woman has a child. In fact a woman can actually put down any mans name... and they have 30 days to take a blood test... if not they end up paying child support if she files all the right paper work... I am not even sure if he gets notified but say he is out of the country...

There is actually a guy that is trying to change the laws on this... as a lobbyist for male rights... as once the date has passed the government collects... even if he proves it is not his... there have been case where the money is still taken out of their check because they are happy someone is paying... they also get funding based on how many men they collect from...

It is amazing how many women sleep with so many different men that they can't or don't even know who the father is... that is just sad...

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Posted by Arietteheart
How about preventing pregnancy in the first place? Men do have a choice to wear a condom or not engage in sexual activity with a woman you'd not want to have a child with.

We're not talking about the sl*ts here. We're talking about women who are married or in serious relationships. Things are different when marriage is involved. Or at least I'd like to hope that the level of trust is higher during marriage lol

The fact that there are more & more tv shows dedicated 100% to DNA testing says a lot. It shows that these kinds of things are happening every single day. And it's not always the typical sl*ts that are lying or being scandalous. It's married women. It's the women who appear to be trustworthy & faithful. It's the women who will cry, beg & scream like there's no tomorrow that the guy is 100% the father, even though she knows deep down that he's either not or that it could be a tie b/w her man & another man.

There's this false misconception that only sl*ts put men through this. That's NOT true. Your every day average/typical married woman can be just as guilty as DNA fraud lol

And my point is that men ought to know this & remember not to lose touch with reality just b/c they are in love. And if asking for a DNA test would ruin an entire relationship just based off of that request alone, then how can anyone defend that as a "good relationship" to begin with?

A man's entire finances could be affected for the REST OF HIS LIFE!!! There's a lot of long term responsibility that comes with being the "assumed" father!

All I'm saying is that if a woman is gonna expect for a man to sign over his wallet, his time & all of his energy for the rest of his life, the LEAST she can do is prove to him that the child is actually his!

It's like women nowadays don't have any empathy for the men who get done wrong in this way. It's like women are still trying to stick to their story in saying that men are the only gender who does scandalous things. That's not true. Women can be evil! And 1 of the most evil things a woman can do is to lie about paternity. Even the worst man imaginable doesn't deserve that

Posted by Arietteheart
If suspicions are raised within the relationship, sure...but to make it standard procedure, that is weird to me. Misogynistic women confuse me.

Sometimes you've gotta take all the emotion out of it.

Many people don't like signing their live over on the dotted line w/o knowing for a fact that whatever it is they're claiming is actually theirs.

I'm not saying that children are property lol but in a way they kind of are. They are the biggest investment in a person's life. All of your time, energy, emotions & hard work go into them. Given the fact that it's the biggest investment of anyone's life, why not make it a standard procedure??

Would you agree to buy a car or a house w/o seeing the deed or having the proof that it is indeed actually yours?!

Asking for a DNA test may make the woman feel uncomfortable, BUT men deserve some comfort too! Relationships aren't always about women & men walking on eggshells not to offend them. If a man trusts you but yet feels that he'd like to know for sure, why not just honor & respect that? If you have nothing to hide & if the test comes back that he's the father, how could that possibly ruin your relationship?!

Again, sometimes you've got to take the emotions out of it b/c situations like this are bigger than emotions.

There's a REASON some states make it standard procedure for a guy to get a DNA test before they require him to send 1 penny. Hell, some states even won't give you any state benefits unless the paternity of the father you're claiming is the father is actually the real father!

In Ohio, you can't get food stamps (for example) or cash assistance unless you prove that you've either requested a paternity test or signed him up for child support. Of course these cases mostly apply to parents who are not married, BUT I disagree with this b/c unmarried people aren't the only ones with some damn secrets!!

If the government doesn't even feel that you deserve $ 500 of assistance unless you prove paternity b/c they're not cool with forking out all this money, that should tell you something.

People go into it trusting their partner. BUT people also break up. And when some couples break up, the question of paternity may come up too. If the procedure was standard for everyone to begin with, there'd be no valid basis for someone to deny paternity!

Besides it's in the child's best interest to know for a fact who their father is for a slue of different reasons.

"Maury Relationships"


Now I get you. Puzzle/riddle solved.

LetitB, you're like obsessed with me. You're starting to creep me out O_O

Posted by krysrenee7
LetitB, you're like obsessed with me. You're starting to creep me out O_O

People tend to feel that way when outted Krys. Don't be creeped. I knew you were a fraud, and I figured out why. Hence riddle solved. Carry on

i thinks its stupid and insulting...if we are a union why the hell would he need a paternity test? I only plan on having children if im married why the hell would my husband think it isnt his child? and if i adopt then i wont have those issues.

Posted by LetltB

Posted by krysrenee7
LetitB, you're like obsessed with me. You're starting to creep me out O_O

People tend to feel that way when outted Krys. Don't be creeped. I knew you were a fraud, and I figured out why. Hence riddle solved. Carry on

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No people tend to feel that way when someone who does nothing but complain about them, somehow always seem to appear everywhere they go. That's what creeps do! They talk a bunch of sh**t, never have anything constructive to say, find themselves in your threads with some smart azz remark, then call you an idiot w/o realizing that they themselves must not be the smartest cookie if they're constantly entertaining themselves with something they consider stupid. Internet thugs are just as pathetic as they try making others look.

I'd lovvvvvvve to hear how I've been outed! Don't say something unless you can back it up with facts! What's my 1st & last name?! Where do I live? How old am I? How many fingers am I holding up?! I bet you can't answer any of those questions b/c you don't know diddly squat about me. You think your opinion is fact, even though you have no evidence to back up your claims. All you're left with is a bunch of name-calling towards some anonymous internet user you've never seen/met a day in your life!

I don't give a damn what you THINK you know. Know your place. Stay in your place. You're just an anonymous creep who can't bring anything constructive to the table. That's why you can't stay away from my threads...you are extremely bored & have no other ways to feel "heard" or to excessive your power unless you get on the internet & act like you've got big balls, when in fact the fact that you even keep showing up in my threads speaks more volumes about YOU than it does me.

I am done arguing with you. And yes, you're still a creep. GOOD DAY!

Posted by krysrenee7

I don't give a damn what you THINK you know. Know your place. Stay in your place. You're just an anonymous creep who can't bring anything constructive to the table.

I am done arguing with you. And yes, you're still a creep. GOOD DAY!

If calling out half of the b.s. you post and try to push onto people who don't know any better makes me a creep, I'll own it. If I see bullshit, smell bullshit, I'm going to call it bullshit, because I can. Nothing anonymous about it or me, I'm consistent. You should know that by now. Doesn't take balls either, eyes wide open, good ole common sense with an awesome built in bullshit detector. Either get better at the bullshit or learn to deal when the bullshit is flung back at you.😢

Oh & I'm still waiting on the answers to my questions. What's my 1st & last name? Where do I work? How old am I? Where do I live?! By the way you SWEAR you know me inside & out, I figured in the least that you'd at least know the very basic things about me. But as usual, you'll just go on to skip those questions. Figures.

Don't worry I'll wait......

Anywho, moving on

LOL

You're like a child who stomps into a room, says he hates his home, but yet finds his way back every single time. You think throwing a fit, repeating yourself over & over again & screaming as loud as you can will disguise the fact that all you really want is attention.

I'm going to ignore you from now on. Ignorant internet thugs who thrive on attention can't stand to be ignored. I'm going to enjoy watching you sweat. As much as it's flattering to me to see how consumed you are with my posts, I am officially checking out & would prefer only to listen to the folks who actually have something constructive to say. Enjoyed the "talks," but I am going to take my own advice & turn my head to anybody who comes to my posts to talk about everything BUT what the post was supposed to be about. Since you insist on telling me how you feel about me every single day as if I didn't hear you the 1st time, I suggest that you invest in a diary or personally inbox me. Now THAT would be constructive.
TOODLES!

This issue is really a cultural thing in some areas...

You know, your little tag says to Google you.

Out of curiosity, I Googled your username and I find it amusing that the username was linked to someone who got knocked up by some dude and was having babydaddy issues.

Now I see this thread and it makes me lol.

I have no idea if the names are related, but I'm starting to wonder with all your random fuck threads about this shit and your slut shaming.

Just sayin'.

Also, you watch too much trashy TV if you think this shit is THIS prevalent in society, hence my "cultural" comment.

There's definitely a socio-economic tie of all the guests on Maury. To jump to a conclusion that it happens as much as you're implying is a bit ignorant on your part. Being oh so scholarly, you should know better. Your assumptions are nothing but speculation based on no statistical data and you're just using trashy TV shows to prove your point, which speaks volumes about the subject and its validity.

Posted by krysrenee7
Oh & I'm still waiting on the answers to my questions. What's my 1st & last name? Where do I work? How old am I? Where do I live?! By the way you SWEAR you know me inside & out, I figured in the least that you'd at least know the very basic things about me. But as usual, you'll just go on to skip those questions. Figures.

Don't worry I'll wait......

Anywho, moving on

You missed the "I don't give a rats ass" memo. You and I have an understanding that I know what you are, nothing else matters.😢

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You know, your little tag says to Google you.

Out of curiosity, I Googled your username and I find it amusing that the username was linked to someone who got knocked up by some dude and was having babydaddy issues.

Now I see this thread and it makes me lol.

I have no idea if the names are related, but I'm starting to wonder with all your random fuck threads about this shit and your slut shaming.

Just sayin'.

Also, you watch too much trashy TV if you think this shit is THIS prevalent in society, hence my "cultural" comment.

There's definitely a socio-economic tie of all the guests on Maury. To jump to a conclusion that it happens as much as you're implying is a bit ignorant on your part. Being oh so scholarly, you should know better. Your assumptions are nothing but speculation based on no statistical data and you're just using trashy TV shows to prove your point, which speaks volumes about the subject and its validity.

LOL!

You sound silly. There are over 6 billion people in the world, in which half of them use the internet. If you consider searching for someone's username to be legit research, then wow, you have no right trying to dictate whose the scholar here lol I may be the only person with this username on THIS site, but I am not the only person in the world with this username in general, dumbass. You're gonna have to come with something better than that!

IDK about you but I don't let the people who don't even know my first & last name (let alone anything else about me) tell me who I am. If you're gonna claim with conviction that you know who I am/what I am, I'd expect for you to at least know my name lol

If I am "trashy" all b/c I've watched an episode of Maury or Trisha then so is half the country! lol And you wouldn't know these shows were "trashy" unless you yourself have watched them. And if you haven't, why judge something that you've never seen for yourself?! Is that a scholarly thing to do?!

Contact your nearest DNA center & ask them if DNA testing is common or not. According to you it's not, but you have no means/facts/statistics/research to back up your opinion! You're just "guessing" that paternity tests aren't a reality for some women/men. And guessing doesn't count. Sorry. Try again

People are funny. They're always trying to accuse me of pulling shit out of my azz but yet their means for trying to do "research" on me are through non-credible ways & is their way of pulling something out of their azz.

I find it ironic that the people who are trying to make you look dumb, inadvertently make themselves look like the even bigger dumbazz when they come back with their half-azzed research!

Me saying that I got the idea for this topic from a TV show is in no way me saying that everything I know about this topic came from that TV show.

That'd be like you posting a status about love after listening to a Taylor Swift song gave you an idea. If I came to your post as an internet thug & said, "Omg, your overall knowledge of love came from Taylor Swift, eeew!" I'd look like an even bigger dumazz than I'm trying to make you look lol

And the reason my profile says, "Google me stalkers" is b/c you're not the 1st person whose ever tried finding out who I "really" am. When I wrote, "Google me" I went into it knowing that none of you know my real name, & I went into hoping that no one would be dumb enough to consider Googling a username to be valid/credible research!

Once again, my point has been proven! You're trying to tell me who I "really" am while at the same time admitting that you have no valid means of figuring it out & no real information about me to begin with to go about figuring it out! If I tell you to jump off a bridge to come find me, only a fool would actually do it lmao Idiots