Being Put On Hold

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by TMV on Tuesday, October 15, 2013 and has 20 replies.

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@DeeG
13 Years500+ Posts

Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass,that I really want, if it don't work out, I'll holla @ ya.

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@rockyroadicecream
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by DeeG
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass,that I really want, if it don't work out, I'll holla @ ya.

This.

I wouldn't wait around. It tells me how little he thinks of me if he's willing to make me wait while he's busy checking out other chicks. No thanks.

And if it's more "I'm not in a place to be in a relationship right now" whether it be emotional reasons or just doesn't feel he can fit in time due to career issues, fine. Not going to wait around. There is a such thing as just bad timing for two people, but it's not worth putting your life on hold for. They're continuing on with theirs and neither of you know if someone will come along and whisk either of you away.

It's not worth putting your life on hold for circumstances that are not in your control.

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@NotYourAverageAquarius
13 Years5,000+ PostsAquarius

^agreed
BUT I'd probably either just forget about them and move onto the next thing... WHY waste time? Of course IF I find them extremely intriguing I may decide to prove to them they made the wrong choice but I hate when Someone has that kinda effect on me when they don't feel them same even if Im motivated. But hell at the same time if you don't see nothing better guess its so much a waste of time 🙂

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@LilliLou
13 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by LilliLou
that kind of thing/ line makes me want to staple gun ears to desktops...

Agreed. It's such a selfish thing to do- expect someone to put their life on hold while you fuck around and get your shit together.

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Yup! A very wise person once told me that if you mean a lot to someone it is amazing how quickly they can get their shit together when they want to

My opinion TMV is is at best a flimsy excuse.

Where did I leave my staple gun...?

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@TMV
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Not long at all. I only met this person about two weeks ago. I'm just feeling torn about whether or not to pursue and needed some perspective from outside sources.

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@krysrenee7
18 Years5,000+ Posts

How would I deal with being put on hold? Oh that's simple. I WOULDN'T deal with it.

If a person is truly interested in you, that natural instinct in them (the 1 that everybody has when they see something/someone they don't wanna take the risk of losing) would bring out the "Do what you gotta do" instinct that's also in everybody...i.e. if something is truly important to you, you're not gonna let them/those kind of opportunities slip from your hand if you have any control

Every man knows that if he doesn't snatch you now, he's taking the chance of another guy snatching you. Men who truly feel they've found a Gem won't take that chance or let that happen

That's a philosophy that's true in every other aspect of life too. If you really want something, you will let NOTHING (not problems, bills, other people, other women, etc.) stop you. And if you let it stop you, you didn't want it ENOUGH. And if you don't want it enough, you don't deserve it, especially considering there are 1,000 people who are competing & DO want it bad enough

So if a guy puts you on hold, it means he's not that into you

Being put on hold = You're a Plan E. Not Plan B. Notice I didn't say "Plan B" as the 1st opinion b/c a man that even likes you enough to make you Plan B wouldn't be dumb/arrogant enough to tell you that he's putting you on hold lol

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@james tate
21 Years10,000+ PostsCapricorn

How do you handle being put on hold--as in someone wants to date you but not right now?

Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass

IN THE BOOK OF DATEING RULES IS THIS O.K.?
DO YOU BIRDS BITE INTO THIS?

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@TMV
12 Years1,000+ Posts

I don't know that I would call it a cop out exactly. The context is that I met this person online. I explained straight up that I'm a walking disaster area in relationships, fresh from a hard breakup, and that my head is in a bad place right now. Neither of us are looking for anything serious so we've just been talking, but there's this great connection.

Half of me is screaming PURSUE! CHASE! Slap on some war paint and get charming! And the other half is like, no, get your game together first before you screw up someone else's life.

I'm reluctant to let go because this feels like a potential catch of a lifetime at the moment but there have been some good points made here about how it would be selfish to put someone on hold while I get my own act together. And it wouldn't be fair to expect them to put up with my mess either so I guess I just have to burn it and deal.

*shrug*