15 Dating RedFlags

Again, from "The Rules".

While none of the items on this list should be considered conclusive on their own, they all point in varying degrees towards "player" or "he doesn't like you enough," and should be recognized as red flags. Watch out for them.

You can be sure that he isn't interested enough, or that he is just trying to have sex with you, if three or more of the following are true:

1. He only invites you to go out with him to bars/clubs, or other places that involve drinking. If he liked you for more than sexual reasons, he would ask you to hang out with him in a normal environment that gives you an opportunity to get to know each other.

2. He contacts you sporadically, and often goes silent for days on end. If a guy is genuinely interested in you, he will crave interaction with you. As long as you are giving him positive feedback when he contacts you, he will maintain or even escalate the amount of contact. A few guys know a little about "game" so his sporadic texts could actually be a poor attempt at attracting you; but men that use "game" tactics heavily are probably just trying to bang you anyway - so your conclusion will be the same regardless.

3. He is overly protective of his cell phone. For example, if you are looking at a photo, he will get up to stand over your shoulder to make sure you aren't looking through his photo gallery; or he will never let you hold his phone. Unless he has something to hide, there should be nothing wrong whatsoever with you looking through his photos or even his texts. Although you should never look through his phone when he isn't around, it wouldn't be a bad idea to see how he reacts if you try this in his presence (assuming you have reason to be suspicious).

4. He only contacts you by text or online chat. These forms of communication are low-investment because they don't require his devoted attention, leaving him free to do other things - including communicating with other girls. If you have what seem to be deep conversations but they only occur (for example) when he is chatting with you online while he is at the office, you should start to ask yourself questions and keep an eye open for other items on this list.

5. He frequently tries to escalate the relationship sexually, while making little or no efforts to get to know you personally. Guys who are interested in you as a person are probably just as horny as guys who have no desire to spend time with you outside the bedroom. But the guy

"he isn't interested enough, or that he is just trying to have sex with you, if three or more of the following are true?"

I would say he's not interested enough if only one or two were true!

If its common sense why do women ask about that shit all the time ^.^

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
If its common sense why do women ask about that shit all the time ^.^

I agree. Men have been trying to school us on these things since the beginning of time lol

Women allow their feelings for a man to override their common sense b/c although women are known as great listeners, we're really not all that great of listeners when it really matters! lol

We'll listen to a baby cry all day or our friends vent to us or be a counselor/listener for a man when he's being emotional on a rare occasion, but we suddenly lose our ears/common sense when a man shows you that he's not that into you. And oh God, it's even more cringe-worthy for me when I see that some of these guys are actually telling these women that they're not that interested & yet they pursue him with high expectations anyways!

Sometimes I just wanna shake ladies & be like wake up, if you're not that stupid then quit acting like it!

Krysrenee: I have been telling women this from a mans point(the OP) and yeah they won't listen. I finally stopped letting it drive me insane. It still amazes me thought the simplest corniest nonsense that even men say are bull that women fall for

*original post*

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Krysrenee: I have been telling women this from a mans point(the OP) and yeah they won't listen. I finally stopped letting it drive me insane. It still amazes me thought the simplest corniest nonsense that even men say are bull that women fall for

Lol I feel ya!

When women tell other women this, they get argued with. When men themselves tell women these things, they get argued with lol

That explains why so many women are single...it doesn't have to be that way, but women don't listen o pay attention.

Women love analyzing the actions of a man when he's showing he's into them but they suddenly have hearing/memory loss when it's time to observe the actions of a man who is clearly showing that he's NOT that into them. We call that "convenient thinking"

I blame estrogen. It makes women absolute morons at times. Just like testosterone does for guys.

I'm sorry. I didn't get them all copied. I didn't even realize this page posted. I had thought DXP had shut down when I was trying to post it.

lol I notice a pattern

The kinds of women who are constantly making excuses for men or argue with the "Red flag" theories are usually always single, in horrible relationships OR are getting played but don't realize they're getting played

Yes, there's always that 1 guy who wasn't cheating even though he came home with lipstick on his collar, but those odds are SMALL!

Yes, there's always the 1 guy who is madly in love with you even though he only calls you once a month lol but those odds are SMALL!

Yes, there's always the guy who really wants you even though he only calls you after midnight, but those odds are SMALL!

Get my point?! Just listen & pay attention ladies! Damn! lol

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
If its common sense why do *some women ask about that shit all the time ^.^

Fixed. And the answer is embedded in your question.

Posted by cunninglinguist

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I blame estrogen. It makes women absolute morons at times. Just like testosterone does for guys.

Yea, it's a hormonal thing, I bet. Except I suspect that for women, oxytocin is the culprit. It causes irrational attachment.

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That too.

big red flag , he ask you for money and y'all really don't know each other like that.....no gawd! just turn around and run like hell the other way, gurl

Men are suppose to be the providers mostly, and if you help them out financially, he will always have a deep seething resentment , with you, for it

Posted by cunninglinguist

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I blame estrogen. It makes women absolute morons at times. Just like testosterone does for guys.

Yea, it's a hormonal thing, I bet. Except I suspect that for women, oxytocin is the culprit. It causes irrational attachment.

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^^^
It's sex before any relationship has been established.

Posted by starlover
Apologies if this has already been mentioned

Mommies boys!! Oooohhhhhh be careful and check the chart ladies!!

They say an overly close r/ship with a mother can be as bad, if not worse, than a guy having other women in their life

I am living proof

Weird!!

Truth.

If you happen upon one of these, send him right back to his Momma-- she is the ONLY one who will ever be good enough.

@starlover-- what do we check the chart for, though?

Posted by krysrenee7
lol I notice a pattern

The kinds of women who are constantly making excuses for men or argue with the "Red flag" theories are usually always single, in horrible relationships OR are getting played but don't realize they're getting played

Yes, there's always that 1 guy who wasn't cheating even though he came home with lipstick on his collar, but those odds are SMALL!

Yes, there's always the 1 guy who is madly in love with you even though he only calls you once a month lol but those odds are SMALL!

Yes, there's always the guy who really wants you even though he only calls you after midnight, but those odds are SMALL!

Get my point?! Just listen & pay attention ladies! Damn! lol

Lol.

The guy who comes home with lipstick on his collar might have come home from a family gathering and old aunts and grandmas with lipstick kissed him on the cheek and hugged him and while hugging the lipstick smeared.

the guy who calls after midnight has a fetish for midnight rendevzous.

the guy who calls once a month is working as a lobster and crab dangerous job in the anarctic and can't come in to port, for a long time, because those are big bucks out there.

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Posted by starlover
Apologies if this has already been mentioned

Mommies boys!! Oooohhhhhh be careful and check the chart ladies!!

They say an overly close r/ship with a mother can be as bad, if not worse, than a guy having other women in their life

I am living proof

Weird!!

Truth.

If you happen upon one of these, send him right back to his Momma-- she is the ONLY one who will ever be good enough.

@starlover-- what do we check the chart for, though?

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If Momma comes first, you know you're in the backseat for the rest of your life.