multiple partners?

i've been feeling so on and off about this lately and i'm just questioning where my morals stand because i don't really feel like talking to anyone close to me about this for fear of being judged.

but basically, i have been sleeping with one guy, the leo with the same birthday as me.
this relationship has been purely sexual from the moment it began, which was last summer. slept together twice. then this summer started booty calling eachother on a more regular basis.

at the same time, there is this gemini with whom i have a really nice kinda sweet relationship with.
we've been one and off for about three years, the relationship started as being purely sexual, but has evolved over time and we have built comfort and attachment to one another.

i'm at a point now, where both males are texting me to hang out.
i know the leo is really just to bang, and the gemini is so that we can chill and talk and have fun and also most likely have sex, caus well, we're sexual beings.

but i am so torn.
because i have this carnal attraction to the leo, who intrigues me because of our identical charts (minus the ascendant.. sorry for throwing in astrology here a little, i can't help it. but it's not the main issue.)
and i like the booty calls. it's quick and satisfying and we always chat a little and i like getting to know him.
however, i really do get the vibe i'm not the type of chick he'd ever date, which is fine, and i accept it. he Is kind of a dousche anyways. but something still attracts me, but like i said; carnal.
and then i like want to hang out with the gemini, but sometimes the leo texts me first, and it's like, someone i have to tell one of the two no, and i feel bad for telling the gemini i'm not able to chill caus i'm actually going to go bang this other dude.
i feel bad but not bad enough to stop. and the gemini doesn't know, and it's really not serious or anything now, and in a weird way i WANT to commit to him and be with him and develop a real relationship with him, but i'm not ready to stop boning the leo so i know i can't do that.

ugh. i don't even really have a real question here, i just had to share my feelings because it's like, what am i doing?
do i care? should i care?
i don't know.

any opinions would be appreciated a guess, or personal experiences.

i would appreciate refraining from calling me a skank though. thanks.

:S

oh man, sorry for all the typos.

Sounds to me that the Gemini is the only one that doesn't know what's going on and may have a change of heart if he were told. Correct me if I'm wrong...but if you feel any feelings at all for him then enlighten him and at least give him the choice of whether or not he wants to be apart of this.

Also, hope you are using precautions, the Leo is probably fucking all over town!

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Posted by Crabmoon
If you allow me to be honest, I don't think you like the Gemini or the Leo one because if you do like the Gemini you wouldn't be banging the Leo right? So if none of you have feelings for each other and is all about sex you should be ok no bad feelings( you're all in the same page right? No exclusivity). Do what makes you feel better, just try not to hurt yourself or the Gemini. Good luck

I agree, she could get serious with a completely different guy altogether, since she may not be head over heels for either of these. Very true.

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oh man that's so true.

thanks for imput everyone.

i feel like i really am not head over heals for either of them, i guess they are in a way keeping me busy until someone really mind blowing comes along.
but i dont know, the gemini's got something.
i know i like him, and i've been head over heels for him before.

i am so back and forth! ahhh!!!

that's the problem with me in the first place!
i get so into someone in the begining and i get crushes on like everyone, and then it fades so fast and i get bored and uninterested!
so i actually watch myself when i'm head of heels for someone, because i know in like a month i might feel completely different.
ugh. it's so frustrating.

Posted by laurathealien
i feel like i really am not head over heals for either of them, i guess they are in a way keeping me busy until someone really mind blowing comes along.
but i dont know, the gemini's got something.
i know i like him, and i've been head over heels for him before.

i am so back and forth! ahhh!!!

that's the problem with me in the first place!
i get so into someone in the begining and i get crushes on like everyone, and then it fades so fast and i get bored and uninterested!
so i actually watch myself when i'm head of heels for someone, because i know in like a month i might feel completely different.
ugh. it's so frustrating.

i can relate to being pulled in different directions by multiple men. your either just playing around or gauging them to see whose a better fit for you. nothing wrong with either one. another guy may come along to blow them both out the water. the sex tie breaker wont work because your still conflicted so how bouts getting in a little deeper with both while still be light and fun?

i say have fun and enjoy. do they both know about the other? imo, keep it honest as much as you can.

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Also, hope you are using precautions, the Leo is probably fucking all over town!

What kind of statement is that? I don't see any mention of either men cheating or sleeping around, so why the Leo? The Gemini could well be fucking out of town, too.

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touche

AH 3 some nothing like a female leo sitting on your face while an aires female sits on your wanger and makes out with her.

Posted by james tate
AH 3 some nothing like a female leo sitting on your face while an aires female sits on your wanger and makes out with her.

sounds fun.

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Posted by laurathealien
i feel like i really am not head over heals for either of them, i guess they are in a way keeping me busy until someone really mind blowing comes along.
but i dont know, the gemini's got something.
i know i like him, and i've been head over heels for him before.

i am so back and forth! ahhh!!!

that's the problem with me in the first place!
i get so into someone in the begining and i get crushes on like everyone, and then it fades so fast and i get bored and uninterested!
so i actually watch myself when i'm head of heels for someone, because i know in like a month i might feel completely different.
ugh. it's so frustrating.

i can relate to being pulled in different directions by multiple men. your either just playing around or gauging them to see whose a better fit for you. nothing wrong with either one. another guy may come along to blow them both out the water. the sex tie breaker wont work because your still conflicted so how bouts getting in a little deeper with both while still be light and fun?

i say have fun and enjoy. do they both know about the other? imo, keep it honest as much as you can.

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neither one of them know about the other, and i don't think they really have to.
although i was considering asking the leo whether if i was dating someone if he would care that we would still be hooking up.
i don't know why it should matter to him, i guess i'm less afraid of losing him over the gemini.

i can't really delve deeper with the leo, i know he doesn't want that.
and it's hard to stay totally light and fun with the gemini.. it gets deep on it's own, especially the sex. the sex is deep (no pun intended haha.. ew.)

Posted by acrabbycrab12
who cares? Just keep doing your thing and when your ready you'll be ready. Is your life a bit to busy right now for anything more serious, or even a better question do YOU feel like your ready to be in a relationship right now? The only reason I see you saying you like the leo more is merely because of his chart... this isn't a good enough reason to get serious with anyone no matter who the person is. If their chart is the only thing that draws you to them then a relationship with this person is sure to fail because yo

oops the bottom of that post got messed up but this is what i meant to put:

Posted by acrabbycrab12
who cares? Just keep doing your thing and when your ready you'll be ready. Is your life a bit to busy right now for anything more serious, or even a better question do YOU feel like your ready to be in a relationship right now? The only reason I see you saying you like the leo more is merely because of his chart... this isn't a good enough reason to get serious with anyone no matter who the person is. If their chart is the only thing that draws you to them then a relationship with this person is sure to fail because your not looking at their actions and attitude, which are far more important.

i do want something serious, i just don't want to start anything unless i know i'm 100% committed, which right now i feel like neither of them are really bringing that about. i don't want to force myself to be with someone just because i'd like to have a partner in crime.

and your totally right, i am really judging him by his chart. i met him in a bar through a mutual friend, and besides the fact that he was really cute, knowing we shared the same birthday was the main factor in me wanting to get to know him.
i was just really curious about what that meant, since he's the only person i've met with the same bday.
but while i was interested in getting to know him, he was interested in banging me so, here we are. and i'm okay with it. i'm still getting to know him in this way, and he really puzzles me just because we ARE so different. it's kind of like a science experiment as horrible as that may sound. i don't think he'd really care either way though.