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OK I realized what the issue is with my friends...
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I actually had this the other way around. I’m footloose and fancy free but my old set of friends are all married with kids.
They never stuck to plans or would break them last minute. They’re no longer interested in partying anyway.
Lol @ foot loose and fancy free.... haven't heard that since my grandma 😂😜
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I actually had this the other way around. I’m footloose and fancy free but my old set of friends are all married with kids.
They never stuck to plans or would break them last minute. They’re no longer interested in partying anyway.
Yeah opposite but still same.
Idk like i miss friends, but not necessarily them, they are so different now.
I'll go out and have a good time, but i nees to know in advance not an hour before.
Im not as spontaneous and cant just drop what I'm doing.
Ive also been soing alot of work on myself and im not as co dependent on friends and family...and im liking my alone time thwse days...where that was NEVER the case before.
I hate feeling obligated and like I owe them time.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I actually had this the other way around. I’m footloose and fancy free but my old set of friends are all married with kids.
They never stuck to plans or would break them last minute. They’re no longer interested in partying anyway.
Lol @ foot loose and fancy free.... haven't heard that since my grandma 😂😜click to expand
Plot twist, he is your grandma...
Or he's just a grandma
Posted by LethalFantasia
If your "friends" don't put any time or effort into you, they are not worth your time or energy bb.
Maybe start meeting other couples like you two who are in serious relationships or something? Hang out with a neighbor? Who cares? Hang out with people who want to hang out with you! My current friend right now is my 70-something year old Aries lady neighbor who's known me since Grade 3. lolz.
xoxoxoxxo
Yeah i do have other unconventional friends...but its sad that my relationahip with my close friends for the last several years is fading
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I actually had this the other way around. I’m footloose and fancy free but my old set of friends are all married with kids.
They never stuck to plans or would break them last minute. They’re no longer interested in partying anyway.
Yeah opposite but still same.
Idk like i miss friends, but not necessarily them, they are so different now.
I'll go out and have a good time, but i nees to know in advance not an hour before.
Im not as spontaneous and cant just drop what I'm doing.
Ive also been soing alot of work on myself and im not as co dependent on friends and family...and im liking my alone time thwse days...where that was NEVER the case before.
I hate feeling obligated and like I owe them time.
I’m the same, I need to have a plan in advance. Have you been friends a long time? People do grow apart.
I’d still give them a chance but I’d let them come to you. If you don’t mind the alone time you have nothing to lose.click to expand
Thats sort of what ive been doing the last month or so...letting them come to me.
Several years...like 6 or so
And tbh a few nonths ago i was not okay...and no one reached out to ask if i was okay.
And that kind of hurt me, because i was always there for them through their darker days and all their recent breakups.
Im just over doing things for others and focusing on me.
And that kind of hurt me, because i was always there for them through their darker days and all their recent breakups.
Im just over doing things for others and focusing on me.
Posted by LethalFantasiaPosted by Boots1313Posted by LethalFantasia
If your "friends" don't put any time or effort into you, they are not worth your time or energy bb.
Maybe start meeting other couples like you two who are in serious relationships or something? Hang out with a neighbor? Who cares? Hang out with people who want to hang out with you! My current friend right now is my 70-something year old Aries lady neighbor who's known me since Grade 3. lolz.
xoxoxoxxo
Yeah i do have other unconventional friends...but its sad that my relationahip with my close friends for the last several years is fading
People come and go out of your life, even the ones you'd thought stick around forever... It is a tough concept to grasp or understand, especially since you've probably experienced some really cool and memorable and lahving times with your friends. But sometimes people just end up on different paths. Sux but true. Other people will come into your life, it's kind of the cycle of it and how it goes. Still a sucky situation. Sending you good vibesssss, lean on your bae for support xoxoxoxclick to expand
Thank you ❤
Posted by Boots1313
And tbh a few nonths ago i was not okay...and no one reached out to ask if i was okay.
And that kind of hurt me, because i was always there for them through their darker days and all their recent breakups.
Im just over doing things for others and focusing on me.
I went through this as I got older and became more interested in focusing on what I needed to do for me. It happens and it's a process of maturing. Yes, the lack of planning spontaneous things got me too lol but I hung in there and found a few different friends that were more on the same plane. I still spoke to the old friends but they sort of faded in and out and then years later, I didn't even notice that they were missing from my life. I became much more able to be spontaneous when I got married and he wanted to travel all the time. He said, grab your bag, we're going and off we went and had a good time. Of course I needed space at home and I didn't want to go go go every weekend but when we did go it was always fun.
Posted by Impulsv
When you were single would the call you an hour before but you were up to it?
Yes, i was 2 years younger and more co-dependent then
Posted by Boots1313
And tbh a few nonths ago i was not okay...and no one reached out to ask if i was okay.
And that kind of hurt me, because i was always there for them through their darker days and all their recent breakups.
Im just over doing things for others and focusing on me.
Sorry to hear that. Well maybe see it this way: cherish the time you HAD with them and all the memories, but move on and be open to new people who might become new friends for you 🌷went through this as well. There are new people to enter your life you don‘t know about yet. Kiss the past goodbye
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Fine...thats their perogative.
However, i try making plans with them a few days prior like "hey what are you doing friday?"
I cant ever get a straight response it's always "idk yet hmu on friday".
Friday rolls around...friend texts
"oh hey im going out to Brooklyn for a 10pm *inset local band* set, want to come?"
No i have work tomorrow i can't travel and hour into brooklyn.
And thus we don3t see eachother for days on end.
The other situation that happens often is.
I had a long day at work, i already have plans with my bf to have a quiet dinner...it's 530pm "hey doing anything tonight?"
"Yeah Zee and I are having dinner, what are you doing tomorrow?"
No response.
Its the lack of planning and communication. THATS the problem.
(Yes these are the same friends ive been writing about for a year here)
Do i need friends? Real question, becaue im tired of this.