Real talk

1. It's NOT about the looks. If he's cheating on you it b/c the other women offer him much more than looks. And if you actually plan on taking the bastard back, atleast be aware of the REAL reason he strayed. You can't fix the problem unless you 1st know the real problem

2. Those extra details don't really matter. The big picture is much more important than the smaller ones that only end up stinging 10xs more & making it so that you're focused on the wrong thing

3. Men won't believe it until they see it. Just b/c you're physically beautiful doesn't mean that he's going to naturally assume that you're also "this or that." Unless you show him your other qualities, he's only gonna see what you show him & if that means he's only seen how good you look in a mini skirt, that's how he'll remember you. If you want him to see the "whole" you, show him.

4. No man accidentally ignores you. If he's not calling/texting you back, it's b/c he didn't want to. Trust me, oh he got your messages. YOU'RE the only 1 not getting the "message" that he's NOT that into you

5. Stop taking it so personal if the WRONG guys don't want you/treat you right. If all the RIGHT guys ignore/disrespect you, THEN panic! But then again, the right guys wouldn't do those things to you, now would they?

6. Oh men want relationships just like women do. Half of their hesitation sometimes is b/c they want to make sure that you're not more in love with the concept of love (vs. them as a person) & NOT b/c they're punks who are afraid of commitment

7. As selfish as this sounds, it's true so get with the program. What 1 won't do, another will. Love would suck & wouldn't be in such high demand if it was given to you w/o any work required. If you want it go get it. If not, know that at any given time there are always 1,000 other "just as pretty, just as witty, just as fun, etc" women out there who WILL fulfill his needs

8. How dare you claim that every man who doesn't want you must be dumb or wrong. That's unfair! No one makes you feel like a bad person when you reject half the guys who approach you/want to get to know you

9. Men don't fall out of the sky & show up at your door. Start approaching men & being the "Go getter" that you expect them to be.

10. Know that every guy won't be a prince. Isn't love that much sweeter when you find it especially after knowing that you had to go through 90 frogs to get to that 1 prince? People hold on tighter to the things that are rare

11. If it just "so happens" that all his "female FRIENDS" are ex's, F buddies & girls that are his "type" don't fall for that. They're NOT his friends. Even good guys are afraid to let go of their "plan b's" sometimes

12. So he's cheated on you...and now you wanna know every detail...what the other woman looks like, what she's got that you don't have, where the cheating happened, etc. But WHY? What difference do those small details make if 1. You've already decided that you can't forgive him & 2. That it'll stop you from seeing the bigger picture?

13. Men may not like doing all the chasing but they DO like doing some chasing. If you're all "give, no take" it's no wonder he's already moved onto the next one. Quit being so impatient & thirsty & let him win you over. When a man is chasing you, he pays more attention to you. And the more attention he pays to you, the more likely he'll end up finding things that he likes about you. And the more he likes about you, the more in his mind you'll be.

14. "If it's meant to be, it'll be" is the biggest crock of bullshxt I've ever heard. No, you've actually gotta FIX the problems in order for them to go away. There's NO magical fairy that's gonna come down & piece everything back together. And taking a "break" is running from the problem, not facing it. YOU & HIM have to fix it before things go back the way they were, if that's even possible

15. If after/during every argument he's got his mom/outsiders on speed dial/line 1, run! Trust me, you'll end up dating his mother's personality & problem-solving, not his.

16. Don't necessarily run just b/c he told you up front that he may not get married. Just like with women, men sometimes talk out of anger & bitterness from the past. Plenty of men end up changing their minds ONCE they make the decision to AND once they find the right girl

17. Stop making excuses for him. Give him more credit than that. Assumes that he does everything he does b/c he truly wanted to (even if just in the moment) & also assume that he doesn't do certain things b/c he truly didn't want to.

18. It's true. The most accusatory person in the relationship is usually the one doing the wrong. A guilty conscious can make you do/say/accuse crazy things

19. If he's using the "I'm a natural flirt" line to justify cheating or engaging in inappropriate behavior, run like hell! Not only is he in denial but so would you be if you actually believed that crock of bullshxt

20. So you're hurt & wondering "How could he do this to me?" Well, are you sure that knowing the real reason/explanation would even make you feel better? Now that you know he doesn't have a conscious, run.

21. If he's ok with knowing that you're with him for all the wrong reasons, it's b/c he's NOT that into you & is probably with you for all the wrong reasons to. Women use men for shallow reasons just like men use women for shallow reasons, even if those reasons don't seem so "shallow" at the time. After all, who wants to spoil their own fun when their needs are being met in the moment? That's why most people only conveinantly "wake up" once their needs stop being met, even though the truth was there from the beginning

22. Sometimes outsiders are hating on you. Other times, they just don't support your relationship b/c they know something you don't. And they damn sure won't support your relationship if they know that YOU know you're in the wrong one. No one respects a person/relationship that has no true future, so stop expecting them to just to feed your ego. Just b/c you're in denial doesn't mean that everyone around you is too

23. When he says "I need space," that's NOT code for starting up a 2 hour talk on why, who, what, where & how. You'll find all that out later. In the meantime, give the man what he asked for!

woah, dating a man sounds exhausting 😛

Posted by krysrenee7


4. No man accidentally ignores you. If he's not calling/texting you back, it's b/c he didn't want to. Trust me, oh he got your messages. YOU'RE the only 1 not getting the "message" that he's NOT that into you

My guy has done this before. But it wasn't that he wasn't into me... he was just being an idiot lol.

But yeah, I agree. All of this sounds so exhausting...

Posted by Candeh15

Posted by krysrenee7


4. No man accidentally ignores you. If he's not calling/texting you back, it's b/c he didn't want to. Trust me, oh he got your messages. YOU'RE the only 1 not getting the "message" that he's NOT that into you

My guy has done this before. But it wasn't that he wasn't into me... he was just being an idiot lol.

But yeah, I agree. All of this sounds so exhausting...

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I'm going to have to concur with this because my guy has also done this before...I have too. Doesn't mean we're not into each other...

Posted by RealTalk

Posted by Candeh15

Posted by krysrenee7


4. No man accidentally ignores you. If he's not calling/texting you back, it's b/c he didn't want to. Trust me, oh he got your messages. YOU'RE the only 1 not getting the "message" that he's NOT that into you

My guy has done this before. But it wasn't that he wasn't into me... he was just being an idiot lol.

But yeah, I agree. All of this sounds so exhausting...

I'm going to have to concur with this because my guy has also done this before...I have too. Doesn't mean we're not into each other...

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also have to agree. the guy im with now ignored my texts/calls but it was because he wanted to make sure he fully knew what he wanted before getting back with me. he still cant explain why he ignored me just that he is sorry for doing it, men are weird :p

If a guy ignores you a few times, sure he's probably busy, in a bad mood or whatever. But if he makes a habbit to ignore you & not make you a priority, I don't see how any of you could come to a different conclusion other than he's just not that into you

And I agree that cheating is the result of a problem. And finding out why he cheated may be important to some & not to others.

Someone like me doesn't really care why you cheated simply b/c cheating itself regardless of the reason is not acceptable. A man's explanation, true or bull, wouldn't change the fact that him cheating period is a deal breaker

If I tell a man BEFORE he cheats that if he does, I'd leave him, that wouldn't change after he cheats, therefore any explanation on his part may add more clarity to my constantly running imagination, BUT it wouldn't change the outcome that I'd promised: I'd leave him

Once a person is given too many details, it's alot easier to get off course & start worrying about the wrong/little things instead of the big picture.

Plus half of the "explanations" men give for why they cheat aren't really true anyways so technically what "closure" would I get if what I'm being told isn't even true? That makes no sense

Posted by Nemesis
krysrenee, are you in a relationship?

I'm happily married =)

Posted by krysrenee7
If a guy ignores you a few times, sure he's probably busy, in a bad mood or whatever. But if he makes a habbit to ignore you & not make you a priority, I don't see how any of you could come to a different conclusion other than he's just not that into you

I think it's more the scenario/who you are with than the principle. Sure, I would think this if I was trying to go after a guy I wasn't with or even if I was in a relationship and it was reaching its end. And I'm not saying that what you said is wrong, either. It's a good little bit of advice to know, but all the same, you have to look at the whole situation before jumping to that conclusion.

If that were the case, I'd think there'd be a few missed opportunities and misunderstandings here and there. We aren't mind readers, and while it's understandable if the guy isn't into you, I think it's safe to test the waters a little before finally deciding on the "He's just not that into you."

Posted by krysrenee7
If a guy ignores you a few times, sure he's probably busy, in a bad mood or whatever. But if he makes a habbit to ignore you & not make you a priority, I don't see how any of you could come to a different conclusion other than he's just not that into you

However; I do agree with this. If he/she does ignore your calls/texts continuously, all the time...I mean come on, that should be a sure indication that he or she is not into you at all. I have done this as well. Sure, I mean when I don't call/text my guy back doesn't mean I don't want to be bothered with him...but if I don't EVER recipricate contact, then well yeah, I DON'T want to be bothered. Plain & simple.

yeah i still disagree with the whole "if he's ignoring you, he's not into you" thing. from my experience i was ignored because he was too into me! the fear of me one day hurting him made him try to stay away from me and ignore me. obviously everyone is different but I too have done similar, maybe its a libra thing :p

*reciprocate

Posted by libra sun
yeah i still disagree with the whole "if he's ignoring you, he's not into you" thing. from my experience i was ignored because he was too into me! the fear of me one day hurting him made him try to stay away from me and ignore me. obviously everyone is different but I too have done similar, maybe its a libra thing :p

You know, I guess it all balls down to that particular individual. One would usually equate no contact with someone as "I'm not interested", but it's different strokes for different folks. Maybe it's within a timeframe to assess someone's interest? IDK...but me I know if I contact a guy & he doesn't respond within a month or so, I automatically assume he is not interested. I just believe if you are truly interested in someone, it shouldn't take that long to respond. I totally get being caught up, being busy but when you're really interested, you put forth an effort.