Technically single

What's up with that?

What's up with people using that line to justify why they slept with someone 5 hours after they got out of a relationship.

Yes, TECHNICALLY you're single, BUT the having the title for someone shouldn't be what keeps you loyal/faithful to them; it's the feelings you have for them that gives you incentive to be loyal/faithful.

And if you truly love a person, those feelings won't turn off/on like a light switch just b/c a technical break up happened.

I'm not saying that people don't have a right to move on quickly, BUT come on...sleeping with or looking to date someone else 2 days after getting out of a breakup? That's bullshxt! If your feelings for someone can turn off/on like a light switch, you were probably cheating on them anyways OR were just about to.

I hate when I hear people say, "Well TECHNICALLY we weren't together for those 2 hours, when I went & screwed someone else!"

I mean hey, if you're no longer in love with that person AND if you're no longer asking for them back or trying to give the relationship another chance, it's still a little fishy to go screw someone else the sec. you're officially single, BUT atleast it'll be more understandable.

I'm talking about the people who purposely use their "break" as a "Free to go screw someone else" card, knowing good & damn well that 1. Had someone done that to them, they'd be furious & wouldn't want to hear that line either & 2. That they still have feelings for & want to be with their partner.

1st off, I don't believe in "Breaks." Either you're willing to work out your problems together OR it's over. And if you DO believe in "breaks" simply for the purposes of being able to "Get yourself together" how in the hell do you justify screwing another person during that "break" & probably around the same time you're still calling your now-ex & telling them how much you still love them?

Screwing another person does NOT sound like you're at home "getting yourself together." Smh smh

Same goes with the "Technically, we're not together" line that some commitment-phobes say to women.

Sure the women oughta walk away from these types of men period, BUT for the guys who say those lines...even THEY know that it's bullshxt. If you're playing house, acting like 2 people in a relationship act & if you're professing your ever-dying love for someone, it's an INSULT to say, "Well technically we're not together" conveinantly around the time someone expects you to follow some standards/boundaries.

How would YOU feel if the very person who was in your face 24-7 used that line on you 1 day after you broke up? There's TECHNICALLY alot of things you can "do" once you're officially single, BUT I don't think titles has anything to do with whether or not you're single. It's the EMOTIONS you have for someone that dictate whether or not you'll be loyal/faithful to them.

If I see a man who is still in love with his ex, he's JUST AS OFF LIMITS as the guy who is already married or in a relationship. Sure "Technically" he's single, BUT if he's NOT emotionally available, it'd be the same as if he was taken.

@SweetLibra: And watch, had you & him actually hooked up, he would've went BACK to his ex girlfriend & justified the hookup by saying, "But baby, at that time I was TECHNICALLY single!" Smh SMH

Posted by SweetLibra
What did that person ever really mean to you if you can turn it off like a light switch.

That's exactly what I mean.

Yes, "technically" you are single 30 seconds after a breakup, BUT if you truly still love someone (b/c love doesn't go away over night just b/c the title is no longer there), why would sleeping with someone or moving on so quickly even cross your mind.

3 months later? One thing, but 2 days later? Bull, you either never loved that person to begin with, was already cheating on them OR was about to cheat on them soon.

I don't believe that you can truly be in love with someone, even after they've hurt you in the worst way, & yet you're over them with the quickness.

Granted, some people wanted out of the relationship a long time ago so I'm not ever surprised when I see those types of people hooking up with someone else 5 hours later. But for the people who are still crying, still harping, & still confessing love for their ex, there's NO way that they can so easily go hookup with someone else.

I tell ya, you can really see someone's true colors AFTER the breakup moreso than during the relationship! Even if I had no proof during the relationship that my man was cheating, I'd def. know the deal if he slept with someone right after we broke up. That would tell me ALL I need to know! And it'd be another incentive NOT to ever get back with that person again

Posted by TyDyed

But, even after I moved out, I didn't go whore-hopping the next day, week, or month. Out of respect for Her, and for what our marriage represented.

You just proved my point. Even though the relationship (meaning the feelings) were gone a long time ago, you still held a certain level of respect for her AND yourself before immediately hopping to the next person.

My point was, if you can easily hop to the next one like your previous relationship didn't just happen, that's a good indication that you weren't fully invested in the relationship to begin with. And if you weren't & move on immediately, that's fine b/c hey, that happens. But I'm talking about the folks who swear they were invested Monday & yet go sleep around Tuesday.

The title may go away b/c of the breakup, but feelings for someone don't turn on/off like a light switch all b/c the title is no longer there.

And it's hard to believe that 2 people who swear they still love eachother would have the guts to go "share" themselves with other people. But the keyword though was 2 people who STILL claim they love eachother.

It's the "love" that keeps 2 people loyal/faithful to 1 another moreso than the actual title. That's why even 2 people who are just dating may agree to stop seeing other people, even though they may not have the title yet. It's b/c once the feelings come, loyalty/fidelity becomes a natural instinct & desire