The How Much Can I Get Away With Game

1. Guilty of playing it on someone else? Why?

2. Suffered through this from your partner? Why did you put up with it? (if you did)

3. Do you guys think this is an unavoidable/inevitable part of relationships?

I think a little more info is needed. Do you mean "get away with" sexually, or just in general?

In general. I've gone through it myself and I've seen relationships go to hell because one partner needs to constantly push the limits in every direction, sometimes sexually. Will this inevitably be a need in one of the partners whether male or female? Can't people just appreciate that they have a good thing going and try to keep it going? Or is there always some irresistible urge to see just what it takes to mess it up?

I sincerely think some are self defeatist in that regard. They set up tests and pitfalls for someone else to fail. If they are failed the person can say "It is as it has always been, no one does __________ right, or can live up to _______ expectation." It is game geared entirely for someone else to lose. The irony is the person doing this is the loser. They are ensuring time and time again that they are alone. Wrapped only in the cloak of self righteous thought.

Hmm, as usual a very interesting comment VB.

Now that you mention it, in my last negative experience she did from time to time let certain comments slip about men and her past relationships, and tended to victimize herself in this regard EVEN while she was getting above average good treatment! From this light your explanation makes plenty of sense!

Thanks for posting 🙂

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Yes indeedy do.

^ I agree to that too. Care about who and what I am, or step off. I be an amazing human. If you can't handle me or roll just as die hard as me, wad it up into a tight little ball and pack it up your poop chute.

LMAO Here's hoping no dairy has been involved.

Thanks everyone. Yes, I've had bad experiences with this. I was curious and all of your insights have been very helpful 🙂

I do not think this is unavoidable or inevitable. I end things quickly with women who tell me they weren't initially attracted to me(if they tell me...or after I ask and they tell me because I suspected this...likewise I don't "start" romantic or sexual or "friendly" relationships with women that I'm not initially attracted to either. I don't want to be molded or mold someone. Furthermore I don't want to romantically date a woman who "warmed" to me OR a woman who liked the "idea" of who she fantasized I should be. If she has to "warm" to me, that's sign to ME of a)manipulation b)settling...I'm a great guy, fawck you, ma'am or c)both. Leave me out of your ego novel, i'd much rather meet someone compatible.

Huh! I often warm to people, I find these relationships last longer with alot more substance (friends or lovers). Instant attraction is usually appearance. It takes time to truley get to know someone

i have done this in the past. it's a sign of insecurity and as stated above, becomes a self fulfilling prophecy every single time.

i've also been on the receiving end of someone trying to play headgames to get a result with me. it didn't work.

life's experiences have led me to believe that seeing how much you can get away with someone is a sure fire way of ending up in an unhealthy relationship...if it lasts long enough to get to that point.

dating should be a process of finding out about eachother with open and honest communication but often, it just deteriorates into headgames.