that claustrophobic feelin

i suck it up lol that's all i can do haha
and in my case i'm married so i can't just pack up my shit and go to spain for a year which is what i feel like doin these days lol i'm pretty sure my ass will be presented with divorce papers upon my return lol
i gotta take care of responsibilites first like paying the rent on time and shit lol so my freedom has to take a back seat for now.

but i feel like you're over-thinking it by calling it a problem though. i mean it ain't like you're causing anybody any harm by being secretly claustrophpbic lol
this is something that's going on in YOUR world, not theirs. they're not even noticing this shit lol
you just gotta make sure you're doing your part for the well-being of the relationship and the rest shouldn't really matter. thats the way i see it.

@NikkiMse1978

14 Years1,000+ Posts

I am the same and I am a Saggie myself

lol i guess u right.
a year in spain sounds good man i could use a vacation right about now.
hey i know this ain't any of my business but what the hell u doin bein married at 20 anyway?
i mean either u havin mind blowin sex or u muslim and this was an arranged marriage or some shit that u had absolutely no say in or u shouldn't be married. don't u have dreams and shit u wanna do in life?

@virgochick827

14 YearsVirgo

I get that feeling all the time. I am actually starting to prefer the single life, and unless some guy comes along and totally blows me away, I am planning on staying single for a looooong time.

@NikkiMse1978

14 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by virgochick827
I get that feeling all the time. I am actually starting to prefer the single life, and unless some guy comes along and totally blows me away, I am planning on staying single for a looooong time.

Posted by ruthlessfuk
lol i guess u right.
a year in spain sounds good man i could use a vacation right about now.
hey i know this ain't any of my business but what the hell u doin bein married at 20 anyway?
i mean either u havin mind blowin sex or u muslim and this was an arranged marriage or some shit that u had absolutely no say in or u shouldn't be married. don't u have dreams and shit u wanna do in life?

lol man, i'm trying to figure that out myself!! i guess it all boils down to my stupidity though. other than that i got no excuses for being married at this age lol well right now i'm working as a personal trainer but eventually i want to get into the travel industry. hopefully work on cruise ships. i have a decent amount of experience in hospitality and i'm taking tourism courses and shit so hopefully i'll be able to make that transition soon lol just taking it one day at a time for now lol

Posted by virgochick827
I get that feeling all the time. I am actually starting to prefer the single life, and unless some guy comes along and totally blows me away, I am planning on staying single for a looooong time.

yeh cuz when ur single nobody hassles u. ur free to do what u want when u want. u never realize how much of a luxury that really is until u lose it. maybe i've been with the wrong ppl....i dunno but the next person i get with should love their freedom as much as i do or it ain't gonna be fun for either of us.

Posted by Jesse91

Posted by ruthlessfuk
lol i guess u right.
a year in spain sounds good man i could use a vacation right about now.
hey i know this ain't any of my business but what the hell u doin bein married at 20 anyway?
i mean either u havin mind blowin sex or u muslim and this was an arranged marriage or some shit that u had absolutely no say in or u shouldn't be married. don't u have dreams and shit u wanna do in life?

lol man, i'm trying to figure that out myself!! i guess it all boils down to my stupidity though. other than that i got no excuses for being married at this age lol well right now i'm working as a personal trainer but eventually i want to get into the travel industry. hopefully work on cruise ships. i have a decent amount of experience in hospitality and i'm taking tourism courses and shit so hopefully i'll be able to make that transition soon lol just taking it one day at a time for now lol

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if u workin on cruise ships that means u gonna be away from home for long periods of time right?
how does ur woman feel bout that?

@virgochick827

14 YearsVirgo

Posted by ruthlessfuk

Posted by virgochick827
I get that feeling all the time. I am actually starting to prefer the single life, and unless some guy comes along and totally blows me away, I am planning on staying single for a looooong time.

yeh cuz when ur single nobody hassles u. ur free to do what u want when u want. u never realize how much of a luxury that really is until u lose it. maybe i've been with the wrong ppl....i dunno but the next person i get with should love their freedom as much as i do or it ain't gonna be fun for either of us.

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Exactly! I get spooked very easily when someone moves too fast. I like having freedom in a relationship, I like having an outside life. I am focused right now on so many things (and it's been that way for a while now (mostly with school), and the guys I date tend to not like that. They are all on-board when we begin dating, but soon enough it's "I want you to have more time for me", and when I spend more time with them, the other things suffer. Can't win either way lol. I agree, find someone that has just as much as of a life outside the relationship as much as you do. Good luck!

Posted by ruthlessfuk

Posted by Jesse91

Posted by ruthlessfuk
lol i guess u right.
a year in spain sounds good man i could use a vacation right about now.
hey i know this ain't any of my business but what the hell u doin bein married at 20 anyway?
i mean either u havin mind blowin sex or u muslim and this was an arranged marriage or some shit that u had absolutely no say in or u shouldn't be married. don't u have dreams and shit u wanna do in life?

lol man, i'm trying to figure that out myself!! i guess it all boils down to my stupidity though. other than that i got no excuses for being married at this age lol well right now i'm working as a personal trainer but eventually i want to get into the travel industry. hopefully work on cruise ships. i have a decent amount of experience in hospitality and i'm taking tourism courses and shit so hopefully i'll be able to make that transition soon lol just taking it one day at a time for now lol

if u workin on cruise ships that means u gonna be away from home for long periods of time right?
how does ur woman feel bout that?

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she's not entirely against it but she's not all for it either lol

don't tell me u got kids.

i don't have kids lol

good. make sure u keep it that way until u know for sure this is what u want for the rest of ur life.
u practically done once u have a kid at ur age. u can kiss ur dreams good bye along with ur freedom.....or what's left of it in ur case. cuz its like how u gonna take care of ur kids when ur away all the time? and ur woman will eventually get frustrated.

yeah i definitely see what you're saying.

how's the sex?

lol man i can't even remember the last time i had sex!! it was a long treetrunking time ago LOL we live under the same roof but we rarely see eachother cuz of our conflicting schedules.

...u serious dawg? so u just bascially go without?

pretty much. i don't have a fucking choice lol

how's that workin for u tho

it ain't working for me man lol

no offence dawg but ur marriage sounds unhealthy.

i know lol

Yes I feel that way too. I'm a capricorn so I dont know why I feel that way. I yearn for someone who I can love and who wont do the wrong thing by me yet I crave this freedom to do what ever I want. Its rather a strange mix and I am so over it. I am faithful when I know i am in a relationship like a proper one yet the very same thing scares the fuck out of me coz I end up wanting to get out of there and get away. Its really annoying.

I tend to be very wary of relationships yet at the same time I welcome them into my life coz I like to learn and its a rather intersting way of seeing if not many different things. Maybe I havent found the right one for me yet.

Well its more that I am friendly and try to be nice to ppl who go out of there way to talk with me yet I will not go out of my way to talk to anyone unless its something serious or important or I feel I must no matter what. I usually stay by myself and I like it that way yet sometimes I dont. HEHE I am complicated and need to sort myself out.

Posted by Jesse91
i know lol

time to confront that big ass elephant in the room.

yeah

just do what u gotta do

i'll see what i can do lol

@GreekBarbie

16 YearsCancer

I can relate to this. I'm not a commitment phobe or a cheater by any stretch of the imagination but being in a relationship at this particular stage in my life drains me like nothing else. Especially because most guys my age are still immature as hell and don't know what they want so they waste my time which I don't appreciate.

So yeah I'd rather just be alone right now. I choose freedom over heartache.

winterwrought, yes that to me is what most relationships are like, it like you end up being what the other person what you to do and end being the one that gets hurt emotionally etcetc yeh thats why I dont like to be in a relationship though I do keep my options open but just more prefer to stay by myself so I dont go through what I went thru with my ex I think I must myself from doing this to myself so it never happens again.