Too Soon?..

I was having lunch with some old friends from high school. It really cheered me up since I havent been able to hang out with anyone lately for more than a short period of time.

As we were all catching up on personal lives, it was my turn to be under the microscope. They kept playfully digging for details on my current dating situation. (A little background on my pals - one is married, one just recently broke up with fiancee, and other is newly in a relationship.

I told them a few things. One, that I only get in serious relationships with women my age and up. Any girl thats younger is just casual and she will know that right off the bat. And last but not least, my pet peeve with dating quiet girls.

I basically told them of past dates where I had to carry the conversation. In conversing on a date, I dont talk about myself. I usually make comedic observations about non-controversial topics, look for any commonalities, talk about traveling, or just ask the girl about herself.

Ive been on dates where by the 4th one, a girl is still not saying much. I get frustrated at that point and just break it off. I usually tell them we're different people and it wouldnt work out.

I am understanding about how nerve wracking it can be for a girl on the first couple of dates. But by the third date she should start feeling somewhat comfortable and contribute more to the conversation.

I really go out of my way to make women comfortable on dates and make sure they have a good time. I shouldnt have to be carrying the conversation and her personal court jester after 3 dates.

Im not saying a girl has to be funny or anything. Just have the ability to carry a conversation. Otherwise it feels like a job to date them. I explained this to my friends and they were a little surprised.

BTW two of the friends are women. They didnt comment at all on that. But I could tell they disagreed with breaking it off if a girl doesnt start to open up and converse more after 3 dates.

I personally dont feel Im in the wrong on this. I think giving 3 dates is being very patient. Considering how draining it is for me to carry the conversation and attempt to be funny as well.

Do you disagree about not continuing to date someone after 3 dates if its like talking to a wall? Socializing on dates is easier if the other person is putting the same amount of effort that I am into it. Finished next post..

Do you think a guy should give his date more time than 2 of them to prove she can talk? Would like your feedback.

BTW I may not be able to respond for a week starting tommorow. I have to go to the clinic and have a doctor look at my leg. He has to decide if my surgical cut has healed enough to where he can avoid taking the metal plate out. So if you dont hear from me in this thread in a couple of days, talk to you in 1 to 2 weeks after leaving the hospital.

Three dates is more than enough time. I'd move on as well. I usually cut people off after one date. You either feel it/connect or you don't.

hmmmm i am a girl and i feel three dates is plenty i would for sure break it off after the second date sometimes even the first. You must meet a lot of insecure woman or have a curse hahaha jk you will know when you find the right one you just got to keep looking but then again you got to watch out for the ones who talk to much hahaha

three is the magic number.I don't even know if I'd make it to the third if nothing was happening by the end of the second to be honest.