What do you want in a relationship from your SO?

So my scorpio asked me to write to him what I wanted from our relationship, what I wanted the boundry lines to be, and what would be a healthy foundation for a relationship....

However I am drawing a blank here, so if the lovely people of dxp would be so kinda as to tell me

what you want in a relationship...
your boundaries...
what you feel is the foundation for a healthy relationship...

Hopefully this will help jump start my brain so that I can come up with my own ideas. Wish I could think clearly :/ Sadly my mind is so muddled right now. Please help! 🙂 Thanks

What you actually want should be pretty universal & common (fidelity, loyalty, trust, respect, great communication, a companion/best friend, great sex, etc.)

But what you're prepared to actually offer/give can sometimes be 2 totally different things!

Boundaries? Simple...Don't do OR say anything to another person that you'd get dumped for persay I was standing right there listening or watching. If that means cheating, so be it. If that means overly flirting, so be it. If that means allowing others to be in your business too much, so be it.

Boundaries...simple...don't cheat on me, don't disrespect me, don't say/do anything that you know would result in you losing me if you truly can't afford to lose me, etc.

Keys to a healthy relationship:
-Always agreeing to keep the other person's feelings in mind/consideration (talking instead of yelling--not letting your pride, emotions or anger get the best of you & allow you to say/do something you'll regret).
-Always agreeing to keep the lines of communication open during the good AND the bad, EVEN IF you're afraid, fear rejection or have to be vulnerable to accomplish this.
-Always maintaining a level of respect for the other person BOTH in front of AND behind their back.
-Keeping others out of your relationship's business.
-Waking up every morning & asking yourself, "What can I do to make his/her life better today?"
-Knowing when to accept the other person's flaws b/c they are not necessarily dealbreakers VS. knowing when to put your foot down & not "settle" when the other person is saying/doing or engaging in something that is not ok and/or that is ruining/compromising you, themselves or the relationship as a whole
-Always remembering to show affection, engage in intimacy & keep the romance alive despite life's obstacles & setbacks (work stress, financial problems, family issues, insecurities, etc.)

And MOST IMPORTANTLY, agreeing to do your very best in maintaining a certain sense and level of loyalty, dedication AND love to SELF, so that giving the same to the other person won't seem like such a challenge or like such a hard thing to do.

Those are just my boundaries & my list of expectations though. Everyone's "list" is different.

When giving him your list, try to be geniune. Don't worry about what he'll think of certain expectations or whether or not he'll see certain things to be as important as you feel they are. Just be yourself.

Really think to yourself, "What is it that I want?" Then ask yourself, "What is it that I deserve?" "What REALISTICALLY can I expect for him to give to me or show me?" "What is it that I can give to him, thus it's no wonder I expect him to give me the same thing(s)? "What is it that I need him to offer me that most others who are just my friends, can't?" (And vice versa)

"What are my deal breakers?" "What do I consider to be NOT ok no matter what?" "What is it that I'd fear to happen, but yet wouldn't necessarily leave him for persay it happend?"

Be honest with yourself. You'd be surprised--his list might actually match yours (or atleast come close to it!)

Thanks! I came up with my list and I had a lot of things you put down. I took into consideration some of the things like keeping the romance alive and waking up wanting to make the other persons life better. I'll probably keep adding to the list, but I like what I have so far and I want to be honest with him about what I want from the get-go so it's all or nothing with this list.