When a man says he is ready/ interested

In marriage. How many years would you think they would give themselves to actually be ready for the real thing, aka proposal and marriage?
I ask this because there seems to be a similarity amongst the menfolk. I would say a few years at least 2-4 yrs? I mean this is opposing to someone who is totally against the idea. I hope it us clear. My answer would be a time lapse of give and take 3 years from the time they think about it to the time when he gets mentally ready for it. What do you guys think? 🙂

Sorry for the typos - grammatical and spelling

I would preferably like to hear from a male who is married, is going to marry, or, best of all, just married. 😄

For those who are allergic to marriage, you may stay at the door hehe

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Any old answer would do at present lol 🙂

What do you mena?

Posted by everevolvingepithet
I'm not being mean, just a lil shit bag.
I'm not married so I'm sat at the doorstep 🙂

Was it chilly out?

😛

Posted by everevolvingepithet
So you're just going to leave meh sat hear ?
(Haven't been to the shop yet, it only opened a short while ago so I'll let the tools rush in 1st 😛)

So you were sayin', you wanted to traverse the proverbial door? You shure? Have you asked those who have gone in if they regretted their foolish move?

Well but you could hazard a lil guess at the question too, righto? I figured it took a man at least 3-4 years from the time they want to marry to the time where they actually can see it happening (i.e. mentally prepared and not backing out)

How about like they've been with each other for some time, but Exhibit A (man) doesn't want to get married. Then suddenly (or so it seems in the external world) that word seems to pop up a bit, sort of like Exhibit A is toying with that idea. It is definitely from that thought onwards that the 2-3 yrs (minimum) is counted, right?

Posted by everevolvingepithet
but I think no man wants to get married lol but would marry the right woman kwim ?
..I meant 2-3 years of dating/being together as a couple before even thinking about marriage, so maybe I dunno another 2-3 years on top of that to get used to the idea ?

yes exactly. Thanks alot
Enjoy your trip to the supermart. 😉

Lol 😛
doesn't make sense to wear a tuxedo to the spurmart 🙂
Timewise.. yes it makes sense.

I don't think relationships should be on a time clock. Point blank, you shouldn't be getting married until you've fully gotten to know the other person (& vice versa) & yet STILL wanna spend the rest of your life with them. Once you've passed that point, THEN talk about marriage.

For some couples, getting to that point takes 9 months, for others 2 years & for some 5 years.

As a rule of thumb, I think it takes the average couple a few years before they can actually claim that:
1. They both thoroughly got to know eachother 2. They've been together long enough to have been able to go through certain trials/tribulations/challenges in order to even be able to determine whether or not the relationship is even still worth it

Posted by LoveBucket
If he's ready or interested in marriage then I'd say whenever that marriage material girl comes his way, like if he meet someone today and come next week already he knows she's the one, in 6 months time they could be married by then.

I agree with you. It's like a whirlwind that has no direction but up. But I wonder do they pause to think or just let their emotions get the better of them, and then settle everything else after marriage. Some people are just so compatible that everything works.

Posted by krysrenee7
I don't think relationships should be on a time clock. Point blank, you shouldn't be getting married until you've fully gotten to know the other person (& vice versa) & yet STILL wanna spend the rest of your life with them. Once you've passed that point, THEN talk about marriage.

There's no such thing as FULLY being able to know someone. Life is a learning journey. If you don't FULLY know yourself, how can you hope to FULLY know a partner?
I'd hazard a guess and say you THINK you FULLY knew your partner before you married him and vice versa. I hope he doesn't surprise you, then.

To me, marriage is best to be about compatibility, not FULL knowledge of someone. Sometimes, some knowledge of the partner can spoil or even destroy a union. It depends on how compatible they are, to not use the knowledge against each other.

Posted by krysrenee7


As a rule of thumb, I think it takes the average couple a few years before they can actually claim that:
1. They both thoroughly got to know eachother 2. They've been together long enough to have been able to go through certain trials/tribulations/challenges in order to even be able to determine whether or not the relationship is even still worth it

You married a Scorpio, right? I can safely say you don't FULLY/ THOROUGHLY know that person. To say you do is foolish and quite beyond oneself. Apart from that, I agree with your point No. 2 that trials and tribulations are necessary, best done before marriage and not after.

Posted by spica

Posted by krysrenee7


As a rule of thumb, I think it takes the average couple a few years before they can actually claim that:
1. They both thoroughly got to know eachother 2. They've been together long enough to have been able to go through certain trials/tribulations/challenges in order to even be able to determine whether or not the relationship is even still worth it

You married a Scorpio, right? I can safely say you don't FULLY/ THOROUGHLY know that person. To say you do is foolish and quite beyond oneself. Apart from that, I agree with your point No. 2 that trials and tribulations are necessary, best done before marriage and not after.

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I didn't mean "fully" as in literally knowing someone 100% . You're right, most of us spend an entire lifetime trying to fully get to know ourselves, let alone others

But you know exactly what I meant. Besides compatibility, getting to know someone as BEST/MOST as you can is very important. After all, how can you even calculate compatibility unless you've been getting to know them?!

You can't claim to be compatible with someone & yet barely know them b/c there's a huge chance that had you taken out enough time to get to know them, you may discover that you 2 aren't as compatible as you thought.

That's why alot of women/men say "If I had've waited" or "Had I know this about him/her, I would've never..." And if you notice, the things people discover after the fact aren't always hidden personality traits/behaviors that just so happen to resurface 10 years later. Half of the time, had he/she just waited a little bit longer & quit rushing everything, they "would've known" or would've seen the very thing that could make/break whether or not they considered themselves compatible with the other person