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Black & White or Grey...
Depends
haha, P. I accidentally pushed the wrong button but then I lost my train of thought!
Me I am so totally Black or White with all my decisions once I come to reach them. Grey is never an area for me, I don't like fence sitters!
It came about after a dinner with my ex-husband who is in another situation and is still sitting on the fence as he has always done and we talked about why he is where he is!
How are you anyway, and what has been happening in Dxp world? Bet you still holding your own 🙂
Hey triple E,
Why does grey matter? Interested as you are Leeb too and grey is in my head but black and white is what I decide!
I'm very grey in all things as I muddle through the points and information in my mind ... then once the situation has been logically concluded = extremely black and white
Me I am so totally Black or White with all my decisions once I come to reach them. Grey is never an area for me, I don't like fence sitters!
It came about after a dinner with my ex-husband who is in another situation and is still sitting on the fence as he has always done and we talked about why he is where he is!
It could be that he wouldn't necessarily be sitting on the fence, if you weren't so rigid.
I'm not saying I think it's a bad thing to not have grey areas, I'm saying maybe he thinks so.
For example .. my husband is very quick to make a decision, and often times after I've forced him into talking about it, he realizes he was hasty, and could indeed see grey. And often times, I wanted to come to his original conclusion that he jumped on without thought, but, sat on the fence BECAUSE his haste caused him to not see the whole picture.
So, what I mean is .... maybe your ex would want to consider your decision as conclusive, but, feels that you made the decision without taking all the variables into consideration ... so he's sitting on the fence, waiting for you.
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I'm very grey in all things as I muddle through the points and information in my mind ... then once the situation has been logically concluded = extremely black and white
That's me too! No one hears my greys....not really because I only speak/act on my black and whites.
I've found life can be such a mess with fence sitters. My ex is in turmoil because he hasn't the conviction to get off the fence and make a stand! Instead he publicly sits on the fence where people force their opinions upon them!
Me I am so totally Black or White with all my decisions once I come to reach them. Grey is never an area for me, I don't like fence sitters!
It came about after a dinner with my ex-husband who is in another situation and is still sitting on the fence as he has always done and we talked about why he is where he is!
It could be that he wouldn't necessarily be sitting on the fence, if you weren't so rigid.
I'm not saying I think it's a bad thing to not have grey areas, I'm saying maybe he thinks so.
For example .. my husband is very quick to make a decision, and often times after I've forced him into talking about it, he realizes he was hasty, and could indeed see grey. And often times, I wanted to come to his original conclusion that he jumped on without thought, but, sat on the fence BECAUSE his haste caused him to not see the whole picture.
So, what I mean is .... maybe your ex would want to consider your decision as conclusive, but, feels that you made the decision without taking all the variables into consideration ... so he's sitting on the fence, waiting for you.
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Oh hun, NO! I can see what you are saying and yes I agree that he is sitting on the fence because he is unsure but he is doing it publicly so everyone has an opinion!
He is in fact courting someone else, possibly to marry. (they are very religious) We are great friends but I have just helped him tonight by giving an outsiders opinion on what is going on.
Perfect Leeb assumption Triple E 🙂
My ex is in turmoil because he hasn't the conviction to get off the fence and make a stand! Instead he publicly sits on the fence where people force their opinions upon them!
He is in fact courting someone else, possibly to marry. (they are very religious) We are great friends but I have just helped him tonight by giving an outsiders opinion on what is going on.
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He's wanting people to tell him about his relatinship with his new woman?
He's wanting people to tell him about his relatinship with his new woman?
Firstly, he is still sorting through whether she is right for him or not...in his mind she has to fit with our family. He and I get on and are great friends, although that isn't the most important thing. He has to know that she is willing to except his (our) children too.
But also, with their religion they have started off on the wrong foot...so therefore they have many opinions from his friends. I simply ( in my mind) pointed out if he wasn't sitting on the fence would have avoided most of this...except our daughters. They would always find it hard him replacing their mother.
This is where I feel his grey are has caused more harm than good all round!
This religion is real family orientated and yes most will have their opinions and even though they might not want to hear it, they will!
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