Who is in control?

A couple has an argument. They both say it's over and decides not to contact each other anymore. The woman decides to contact him anyway, even when he says leave him alone. Just to see if he would ignore her. She texted him and asked him questions. He replies with an emotional text. Then she doesn't reply back. Who now has control? Is this the mind games that some people play? Why?

Neither. They're both out of control, and need to mature a little.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Neither. They're both out of control, and need to mature a little.

yup

Not exactly saying control over the person, but over the situation. For example, push pull, ever heard of that?

I've seen it done plenty of times. The guy comes on to a woman strong. He gives her plenty of attention. He flirts and does whatever he needs to do. He keeps this up for about three days. Then she sees him after the three days and he acts like he doesn't know her. This brings up insecurities in a FEMALE. She starts to feel as if she's done something wrong. So, she chases him. Notice I said female, Not woman. Or when a guy feels he's not getting enough attention and he does something just so that he can get a reaction of the girl that he's into. This is why I said mind games. People who play mind games are immature and insecure. I know, but it happens.

Posted by Noreallynow
Not exactly saying control over the person, but over the situation. For example, push pull, ever heard of that?

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Neither. They're both out of control, and need to mature a little.

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People will play a mind game till the end of time; doesnt mean you have to play with them. you cant control other people, but you can control what you do and only what you do.

Rise above that shit.

All that internalizing will make you look like a nut job at the end of the day,

Posted by tiziani
Such a waste of time paying attention to all that shit really. When you look at the big picture, where does it get you? Life is short

exactly!

Think about this another way OP, who is your opponent really? is this a formidable opponent for you to even battle with? hell no.

Does this guy even match up with your level of intellect?
Does he hold a candle to your wit?
Can he even last in a physical and emotionally filled gauntlet with you?

Hell no.

Moving on. Not even a fair fight at the end of the day.

Posted by DMV
People will play a mind game till the end of time; doesnt mean you have to play with them. you cant control other people, but you can control what you do and only what you do.

Rise above that shit.

All that internalizing will make you look like a nut job at the end of the day,

Hold up. I asked a question. I don't play these games, but I'm very aware that it goes on.

Posted by DMV
Think about this another way OP, who is your opponent really? is this a formidable opponent for you to even battle with? hell no.

Does this guy even match up with your level of intellect?
Does he hold a candle to your wit?
Can he even last in a physical and emotionally filled gauntlet with you?

Hell no.

Moving on. Not even a fair fight at the end of the day.

And you're actually right, because they can't do any of those things, but one has played more than one of those games with me. I ended up shitting on him, because ignored until he eventually acted like he was hurt. He tried to get a reaction out of me by doing something very stupid. I called him out on his bullshit and told him I don't play games. He acted as if he didn't know what I was talking about so I pissed him off and he said don't contact him, so I didn't. We didn't speak for two weeks. Out of no where he just walks up to me hugs me and started kissing me.. In front of people. I was like wtf. I don't play games, because I wouldn't want somebody doing that to me.

Posted by DMV
Think about this another way OP, who is your opponent really? is this a formidable opponent for you to even battle with? hell no.

Does this guy even match up with your level of intellect?
Does he hold a candle to your wit?
Can he even last in a physical and emotionally filled gauntlet with you?

Hell no.

Moving on. Not even a fair fight at the end of the day.

Brilliantly put

Posted by fishinamaize
The one who wins mind games is the one who doesn't mind games.

Hahaha! I love this 🙂

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Posted by fishinamaize
The one who wins mind games is the one who doesn't mind games.

Hahaha! I love this 🙂

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Smh. I don't.

the control changes ... whoever is ignoring is the one in control