@VirgoCupcake
12 YearsVirgo
Do you think fwb can turn into ltr?
I am pretty sure it happens you just gave an example of when it does. The issue for me is the man is holding all the cards in these types of situations. The woman has no leverage. You have already given him all of you. He has your body and your heart because women cannot be intimate without catching feelings. It is impossible, I don't care how many woman scream I can at the top of their lungs. They only think they can.
The only time these situations seem to work out is when the man thinks he has found something worth holding on to. The woman is sitting around in between chop down sessions waiting to see what his next move is going to be.
I can't do it but I have Venus in Virgo. My Leo Sun also requires loyalty above all else. So if I want to go to the movies with MR. FWB and he says no that's not what we do and I see on FB or somewhere that he went to the movies with someone else, I would unsheathe.
If you had to keep one car for the rest of your life you would be careful about who you let jump in the passenger seat. They might rip the seat, spill something, break the radio. Try to view your life in the same way. Just be careful who you let ride shotgun in your life.
Yes and it's unfortunate.
Than you try date someone the normal way and they blow you off. It's rough out there....
FWB is a really stupid risk to take if you're looking for commitment. That said, there are always exceptional cases where the highly improbable happens. It's like playing the lottery with your heart. Anyone can win the lottery but you'd be smarter to play the odds and not the lottery when it's your heart on the line. I think women should have standards and wait for the man whose willing and able and ready to meet them. We cause our own pain by lowering standards and going after a man whose not "in it to win it." Think more of what you have to offer and say no to men who want to screw you but won't even give you a title or respect before their family and friends. Why's that so much to ask for? For me, that's the bare minimum and any many would be lucky to call me his girl. I know what I have to offer and I'm not settling for any crumbs or crumb bums.
Posted by Nala13
I am pretty sure it happens you just gave an example of when it does. The issue for me is the man is holding all the cards in these types of situations. The woman has no leverage. You have already given him all of you. He has your body and your heart because women cannot be intimate without catching feelings. It is impossible, I don't care how many woman scream I can at the top of their lungs. They only think they can.The only time these situations seem to work out is when the man thinks he has found something worth holding on to. The woman is sitting around in between chop down sessions waiting to see what his next move is going to be.
I can't do it but I have Venus in Virgo. My Leo Sun also requires loyalty above all else. So if I want to go to the movies with MR. FWB and he says no that's not what we do and I see on FB or somewhere that he went to the movies with someone else, I would unsheathe.
If you had to keep one car for the rest of your life you would be careful about who you let jump in the passenger seat. They might rip the seat, spill something, break the radio. Try to view your life in the same way. Just be careful who you let ride shotgun in your life.
I need to learn about My vensus and all that good stuff!!! But no you're right!!! You are so right!
Posted by Este8
FWB is a really stupid risk to take if you're looking for commitment. That said, there are always exceptional cases where the highly improbable happens. It's like playing the lottery with your heart. Anyone can win the lottery but you'd be smarter to play the odds and not the lottery when it's your heart on the line. I think women should have standards and wait for the man whose willing and able and ready to meet them. We cause our own pain by lowering standards and going after a man whose not "in it to win it." Think more of what you have to offer and say no to men who want to screw you but won't even give you a title or respect before their family and friends. Why's that so much to ask for? For me, that's the bare minimum and any many would be lucky to call me his girl. I know what I have to offer and I'm not settling for any crumbs or crumb bums.
Yup!!! It is def a chance *sigh*
You're either living in the moment, or just being patient until the real deal happens!
Posted by Nala13
I am pretty sure it happens you just gave an example of when it does. The issue for me is the man is holding all the cards in these types of situations. The woman has no leverage. You have already given him all of you. He has your body and your heart because women cannot be intimate without catching feelings. It is impossible, I don't care how many woman scream I can at the top of their lungs. They only think they can.The only time these situations seem to work out is when the man thinks he has found something worth holding on to. The woman is sitting around in between chop down sessions waiting to see what his next move is going to be.
I can't do it but I have Venus in Virgo. My Leo Sun also requires loyalty above all else. So if I want to go to the movies with MR. FWB and he says no that's not what we do and I see on FB or somewhere that he went to the movies with someone else, I would unsheathe.
If you had to keep one car for the rest of your life you would be careful about who you let jump in the passenger seat. They might rip the seat, spill something, break the radio. Try to view your life in the same way. Just be careful who you let ride shotgun in your life.
100% agree. Beautifully stated as well, Nala13.
Posted by VirgoCupcake
My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!
That's not FWB. That's an affair.
Posted by VirgoCupcake
My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!
That's not FWB. That's an affair.
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An affair means you're cheating on your spouse LMAOOOOO!!! Boyfriend and Girlfriend are man made. The commitment is the vow before God. Thats the one that really extremly counts!
I don't think most men actually respect the woman the FWB with. Therefore, if he doesn't respect her, he wouldn't take her seriously and he definitely won't marry someone he doesn't respect.
Could be that many women lose their self respect when they FWB. I'm sure it does mess with your self esteem and self confidence. Therefore, the men just may not be interested in these women who don't respect themselves, lack confidence and have low self esteem.
Honestly, I think an offer of FWB is an insult. It says you're good enough to screw, but not good enough to date.
You're either living in the moment,
or just being patient until the real deal happens!
Nooo..you're either desperate & a ho or you are a lady.
Is that what society is saying about fwb to make women feel good now? "living in the moment"? ..smh
Posted by VirgoCupcake
My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!
Look at the statistics of this and get back to us.
Nope.
Only fools think it'll lead to an ltr.
Can it happen? Sure. Will it? Not likely. If you're hoping for a fwb to turn into a ltr, you shouldn't be doing fwb.
Posted by VirgoCupcake
My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!
Anything is possible I suppose. However, your friend is not the norm. One shouldn't waste their time if that isn't what they really want.
If you want more, don't settle for less. All the time, energy and attention you are putting into this FWB you are taking away from a person that could be more and give you more. While you're out with this person, pretending to be in something real, you're giving the world the impression you are an item. Any potential suitor is seeing you and is standing on the sideline thinking you are taken when you aren't. No one has claimed you and no one will because Joe Blow is occupying a space a real suitor would fill.
Idk. It feels like a waste if energy---IF you really are looking for more.
I agree with this ^^.
You'd be spinning your wheels with something that's not ever going to be more, meanwhile not noticing and inadvertently passing up someone who could be the one, the perfect relationship, and/or your future husband.
You're either living in the moment,
or just being patient until the real deal happens!
Nooo..you're either desperate & a ho or you are a lady.
Is that what society is saying about fwb to make women feel good now? "living in the moment"? ..smh
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+100% You make a lot of sense in your posts, LetItB.
Posted by VirgoCupcake
My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!
Anything is possible I suppose. However, your friend is not the norm. One shouldn't waste their time if that isn't what they really want.
If you want more, don't settle for less. All the time, energy and attention you are putting into this FWB you are taking away from a person that could be more and give you more. While you're out with this person, pretending to be in something real, you're giving the world the impression you are an item. Any potential suitor is seeing you and is standing on the sideline thinking you are taken when you aren't. No one has claimed you and no one will because Joe Blow is occupying a space a real suitor would fill.
Idk. It feels like a waste if energy---IF you really are looking for more.
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Good stuff!!!! I agree all the way!!! Thats so true! It is easy for someone to see u just standing on the sides, while your time is being held up with someone else!!
You're either living in the moment,
or just being patient until the real deal happens!
Nooo..you're either desperate & a ho or you are a lady.
Is that what society is saying about fwb to make women feel good now? "living in the moment"? ..smh
+100% You make a lot of sense in your posts, LetItB.
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Thanks... Unfortunately the truth and logic gets my threads/or threads with my posts in them deleted.
Doesn't stop me for a second, and I'm still here. 😉
If you want a LTR why on earth are you lowering yourself to a fuck buddy.
Shut them legs and stop thinking with the itch, get out and meet people.
And stick by your principles.
I have grappled with this in my mind.
I really want a LTR, but I have physical and emotional needs.
I had to tell myself, don't settle for less; you won't be happy anyway.
And no, a strong attraction is no excuse to engage in this king of relationship.
Posted by LunarMaiden
If you want a LTR why on earth are you lowering yourself to a fuck buddy.
Shut them legs and stop thinking with the itch, get out and meet people.
And stick by your principles.I have grappled with this in my mind.
I really want a LTR, but I have physical and emotional needs.
I had to tell myself, don't settle for less; you won't be happy anyway.
And no, a strong attraction is no excuse to engage in this king of relationship.
There are always batteries! 😉
*buys stock in Eveready*
It happens. A lot more than people think. And a lot less than people think at the same time too.
It's all a risk.
Sometimes the worst thing you can do is establish a FWB situation with a person that just so happens to be your 'type, i.e. the type of person you'd be in a relationship with. It makes it a lot harder to let go of expectations once feelings get involved. When they reject you literally or by way of never committing to you, the sting is greater. It's always greater when 'your type' rejects you.
However, it's a smart move sometimes too to establish FWB relations with someone that has qualities that you'd want in case a relationship were considered. If feelings develop & if you both established compatibility in all other areas (other than just sex), it's a lot more likely that a relationship will develop...a relationship that actually has a chance.
To be honest, you might as well pick your FWB like you sort of would those you'd want to be in a relationship with. Hell, if you're gonna give someone such an intimate side of you + expose yourself to condoms possibly breaking + the consequences of that, it BETTER be with someone that you can at least see yourself walking off into the sunset with!!!
If you're gonna take those sexual, physical and emotional risks, it oughta be with someone who's a helluva lot worth more than just an 'easy lay!' That easy lay may share a child or an std with you 1 day
Again, it's still a risk either way. If that person is emotionally-unavailable or can't see you as more than a disposable sexual object, it won't matter how good of a catch you or are how in love with them you are. They won't budge.
For your own protection...'just in case'...gage whether or not they are emotionally available before you sleep with them. Do your homework. Thinking & observing is FREE!!! lol That way, you'll be prepared or ready for any outcome.
Posted by VirgoCupcake
My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!
That's not FWB. That's an affair.
An affair means you're cheating on your spouse LMAOOOOO!!! Boyfriend and Girlfriend are man made. The commitment is the vow before God. Thats the one that really extremly counts!
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My friend her and her husband started off as "fwb".
They were both dating someone at else at the moment when they met!
Now they have kids and they're happy!!
Just wanted to know from your experience, do you think its possible?
Or can really work out!