Girl openly flirting with my bf on Facebook.

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by CappyGemmy on Friday, August 8, 2014 and has 18 replies.

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@CappyGemmy
12 Years

We are both at the end of our 20s,
My boyfriend graduated from university 2 weeks ago. While there, he's met a girl during his breaks in the same program he was.
He added her on Facebook about 2 weeks before officially graduating. She seem to be single.

She doesn't comment on everything. But here's 2 recent examples: A status was about him graduating. Her comment was "You'll look sooo good in your gown! Don't worry, you got the goods to fill it out 😉" Goods being his junk!

He posted recent pictures of him with his nephews. He was all smile on them, and she commented "see how cute you are when you smile? You need to smile more in the pics you send me 😉"

Pics being Snapchats, that he sends to everyone and what she sees on Fb, because she doesn't get any pics from him.

Should I comment under her comment and say "Right? My boyfriend's smile is the cutest!"

Just so she gets he's taken?

Opinions?

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@SunPiscesMoonGemini
15 YearsPisces

hard to say huh? Don't want to come off as insecure on a social network nor to your boyfriend anded especially with this extra friendly girl. If I were in your position, I would casually bring up to your boyfriend how she is trying to get his attention publicly and see how he reacts. The result would decide my next coarse of action.

Good luck CappyGemmy 🙂

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Lol @ Damnata. Right, though.

Neither you nor he can control what she does or says on Facebook. As long as he's not responding back, I wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe post a picture of the two of you on your page and tag him. She'll see it because it will post on his page too. 'Nuff Said.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by CappyGemmy

Her comment was "You'll look sooo good in your gown! Don't worry, you got the goods to fill it out 😉" Goods being his junk!

You don't know that ^^^ ... you make the assumption that she means his junk.

So, instead of actually talking to your own boyfriend ... you project insecurity, and in so doing to jump to conclusions that could be false.

How juvenile.

Posted by CappyGemmy

You need to smile more in the pics you send me 😉"

..... because she doesn't get any pics from him.

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You don't know that ^^^^

He could have sent her hundreds of pictures for all you know ... afterall, you've proven in the first quote that you aren't communicating with him about this .. so you don't know shit about the situation and could very well be talking out of your ass.

here's a thought ..... be a good girlfriend, and talk to him, rather than spreading unverified gossip on forums.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by SunPiscesMoonGemini

If I were in your position, I would casually bring up to your boyfriend how she is trying to get his attention publicly and see how he reacts.

If you are correct and this woman is trying to get his attention ... why wouldn't he know that?

Are you insinuating that her boyfriend is an idiot?

If she has to point this out to him ..... then he's moron.

That is ....... IF ....... this scenario has taken place exactly as she has stated, and is making the assumption that she hasn't embellished, at all.

Maybe you should not be to gullible.

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@highlyclassified
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by CappyGemmy

Her comment was "You'll look sooo good in your gown! Don't worry, you got the goods to fill it out 😉" Goods being his junk!

You don't know that ^^^ ... you make the assumption that she means his junk.

So, instead of actually talking to your own boyfriend ... you project insecurity, and in so doing to jump to conclusions that could be false.

How juvenile.

Posted by CappyGemmy

You need to smile more in the pics you send me 😉"

..... because she doesn't get any pics from him.

You don't know that ^^^^

He could have sent her hundreds of pictures for all you know ... afterall, you've proven in the first quote that you aren't communicating with him about this .. so you don't know shit about the situation and could very well be talking out of your ass.

here's a thought ..... be a good girlfriend, and talk to him, rather than spreading unverified gossip on forums.

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u had better be the relationship guru how u always comment so much on these types of threads lol

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@Montgomery
13 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by truecap
Lol @ Damnata. Right, though.

Neither you nor he can control what she does or says on Facebook. As long as he's not responding back, I wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe post a picture of the two of you on your page and tag him. She'll see it because it will post on his page too. 'Nuff Said.

I like this.

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@PhoenixRising
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Posted by CappyGemmy
We are both at the end of our 20s,
My boyfriend graduated from university 2 weeks ago. While there, he's met a girl during his breaks in the same program he was.
He added her on Facebook about 2 weeks before officially graduating. She seem to be single.

She doesn't comment on everything. But here's 2 recent examples: A status was about him graduating. Her comment was "You'll look sooo good in your gown! Don't worry, you got the goods to fill it out 😉" Goods being his junk!

He posted recent pictures of him with his nephews. He was all smile on them, and she commented "see how cute you are when you smile? You need to smile more in the pics you send me 😉"

Pics being Snapchats, that he sends to everyone and what she sees on Fb, because she doesn't get any pics from him.

Should I comment under her comment and say "Right? My boyfriend's smile is the cutest!"

Just so she gets he's taken?

Opinions?

If this comment needs to come from you he's not "taken". If he's not checking her, a few comments on FB aren't the problem here.

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@munchkin
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Never mind the girl, ask your boyfriend if he's informed the girl that he's taken, and if not, why not?

Is his relationship status listed as Single? If so, no wonder. People will think he's fair game on the market.

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@apphrodite
12 YearsPisces

It doesn't matter from me as long as his heart belong to me.
Guess... what not only on social media.. but in front of my eyes. You should proud because of it!!!!
I went out with my boyfriend and I can say that he is so handsome and stylish and you know.. many girls even in a group girls tried to talk with him and flirted on my Bf. I was insecure and I left him then I walked move to other pub then he laughed at me because seems I am jealous and Upset.. He made me secure.
Even next day and next day not only other strangers girls tried to flirt on him but even my close friends as well lol I looked in front my eyes.. I was fcking jealous then he walked to me and kissed me in public I felt so secure.. I am so proud be his Gf so I am so happy make others girls jealous.

After all.. I will never and never get jealous anymore! You don't need to say that, dear!
Are you hesitate with ur boyfriend now?

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@Este8
13 Years1,000+ Posts

If she knows he's got a girlfriend those comments are flirty and inappropriate. I wouldn't be too pleased myself because it's disrespectful. For me this isn't a woman hating on woman or even an insecurity thing. It's a respect thing. That said, there's not much you can do other than share you feelings with your BF and then let it go.