Why is he pulling away from our relationship?

we've been dating online for two months, 12 days now and making plans of meeting someday soon. I love him and i believe he does too. Lately we had a fight and since then, he has become too distant. I have asked for appology countless of time, he keeps telling me it's ok but nothing has change. I've gone as far suggesting we go our seperate ways if he doesn't want the relationship anylonger but he keeps telling me, he loves me so much and want us to be.but still i see no changes. I want to let him be, but my fear is, what if he doesn't come back for me? I fear of even texting him because i don't even know how he's going to take it. Please guys, help me! What can i do to get his attention back? I don't want to lose him!

we've been dating online for two months, 12 days now and making plans of meeting someday soon. I love him and i believe he does too. Lately we had a fight and since then, he has become too distant. I have asked for appology countless of time, he keeps telling me it's ok but nothing has change. I've gone as far suggesting we go our seperate ways if he doesn't want the relationship anylonger but he keeps telling me, he loves me so much and want us to be.but still i see no changes. I want to let him be, but my fear is, what if he doesn't come back for me? I fear of even texting him because i don't even know how he's going to take it. Please guys, help me! What can i do to get his attention back? I don't want to lose him!

Countless times? You should be keeping track. And what's this "asking for an apology" shit? Demand it!

Two months is a LONG time... you've clearly invested a lot in each other if you've made it that long. Who cares you've never actually even met him? He is the one and you need to let him know this shit won't stand.

Go get him tiger...

Give him an ultimatum. Either you make plans to see each other NOW (as in this weekend for example, make it set in stone) or you're gone.

He shouldn't be giving you the cold shoulder like that without an explanation, and leaving you feeling insecure and vulnerable. You shouldn't have to be apologizing to him over and over, after he's already accepted it.

Whether you text him or talk to him online, or the phone, don't beat around the bush. Blunt is really the best, because it will get his attention and he will realize that you are serious.

"_____, you need to make a choice. It's either we meet now, or it's over. I don't like waiting around, I really don't like feeling this way. I don't understand why you are acting like this, and it has left me no choice other than to give you an ultimatum."

There you go.

Given that you've stated that your relationship is exactly 2 months and 12 days says a lot about you and your maturity.That's something 12 year olds do when they're with some boy.

"OMGZ WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER A MONTH, 2 WEEKS, 3 DAYS, AND 5 HOURS!!!TEEHEEE"

How about you calm the hell down, go get a hobby, and give the dude space. THEN determine his behavior. You're basically doing what a lot of females do when a guy pulls back a little- you cling like a small child wrapped around mommy's leg. This is just going to make him pull away more. Everyone's guilty of doing this since it takes a lot of women by surprise. You get used to x behavior and now you're seeing y behavior and have no idea why. So you panic and pester them about it.

Leave dude alone and wait it out. If you can't do that, you're not ready for a relationship.

And lol "online." Two months and you haven't met yet? Pfft.

Posted by July94Leo
Give him an ultimatum. Either you make plans to see each other NOW (as in this weekend for example, make it set in stone) or you're gone.

He shouldn't be giving you the cold shoulder like that without an explanation, and leaving you feeling insecure and vulnerable. You shouldn't have to be apologizing to him over and over, after he's already accepted it.

Whether you text him or talk to him online, or the phone, don't beat around the bush. Blunt is really the best, because it will get his attention and he will realize that you are serious.

"_____, you need to make a choice. It's either we meet now, or it's over. I don't like waiting around, I really don't like feeling this way. I don't understand why you are acting like this, and it has left me no choice other than to give you an ultimatum."

There you go.

I don't think you read the same post that we did...

Have you wired him any money yet for a plane ticket, a sick son, a telephone bill?

Posted by tiziani

Posted by July94Leo
Give him an ultimatum. Either you make plans to see each other NOW (as in this weekend for example, make it set in stone) or you're gone.

Because ultimatums always go so swimmingly?

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C'mon Tiz, you know they do... Ohmyfrickinggawd hey? For a minute, judging by the advice given I coulda swore she said she had his babies and was with him for 5 years and he was seeing another woman or some crazy thing.

Posted by Ngie
we've been dating online for two months, 12 days now and making plans of meeting someday soon. I love him and i believe he does too. Lately we had a fight and since then, he has become too distant. I have asked for appology countless of time, he keeps telling me it's ok but nothing has change. I've gone as far suggesting we go our seperate ways if he doesn't want the relationship anylonger but he keeps telling me, he loves me so much and want us to be.but still i see no changes. I want to let him be, but my fear is, what if he doesn't come back for me? I fear of even texting him because i don't even know how he's going to take it. Please guys, help me! What can i do to get his attention back? I don't want to lose him!

You've already tried the standard "well maybe we should just break up then" and it worked. He professed his love. It just wasn't enough for you. He hasn't groveled yet and until he does, wait, and demand.

I missed the whole question the first time though. What if you let him go and he doesn't come back? That's a tricky one. Ancient wisdom says let em go and if they don't come back it wasn't meant to be. Fuck that, right. Just because this question has been asked so many times it's become phoney Buddha quotes, doesn't mean you shouldn't ask again right? And guess what? You're gonna get a different answer than everyone else because it's clear you are so special.

If you let him go and he doesn't come back...find him and grab the fuck back on. The penis works as a great handle. It will also show that you miss him and aren't joking around. Trust me it'll get his attention. Anyway, you'll have learned your lesson now, never let go again. Send nude pics to his phone (regular pictures vis postal service is always nice too). Just remember, "no" is a nice way of saying try harder. And he isn't ignoring you, he waiting for you to say the right thing, keep talking!

LMAO@Have you wired him any money yet for a plane ticket, a sick son, a telephone bill?

omg...

It's not real yet so yeah calm down.

It's so easy to be in love with the idea of love/falling in love but if you're honest with yourself about this guy, you don't really know him at all.

@tiki33, i have never made money the topic of any of our discusion. He accused me of being a player! The issue is, i have two kids but still pregnant for the second. I told him this just a day after we exchanged our first mail. He accepted me with my condition and promised to stand by me till i have the baby before he can came for me. we are communicating but not as before! He's so cold and distant.

This just keeps getting better.

You are pregnant. Broke up with baby daddy, assuming you were together more than biblically. And are worried about love and dating before you even squeezed out your latest creation?

Stress is bad for pregnant women, he better start acting right huh...

How could a guy pull away from a dramatic pregnant chic he never even met before? I can't understand either!

Help, anyone.



Oooooo one more question I been wondering. How can you "see changes" in someone you never seen?

Posted by Ngie
we've been dating online for two months, 12 days now and making plans of meeting someday soon. I love him and i believe he does too. Lately we had a fight and since then, he has become too distant. I have asked for appology countless of time, he keeps telling me it's ok but nothing has change. I've gone as far suggesting we go our seperate ways if he doesn't want the relationship anylonger but he keeps telling me, he loves me so much and want us to be.but still i see no changes. I want to let him be, but my fear is, what if he doesn't come back for me? I fear of even texting him because i don't even know how he's going to take it. Please guys, help me! What can i do to get his attention back? I don't want to lose him!

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Ngie I feel for you because you are in delicate condition being pregnant.

Clearly he's not the father of this child therefore he has no obligation to stick around although he said he would clearly by his current actions that's not true.

He may have chosen to take you on but he may not have understood how you would fit into his life with 2 kids and decided to back off.

Enjoy your pregnancy, focus on that, focus on creating a good life for babies and stop worrying about something/someone you cannot count on. All you have is YOU and you're the only person you can depend on completely.

It's a wonderful fairy tale to find a man, he take on you and your conditions and be a stand up guy but that's all la la land fairy tale visions.

Maybe some day you'll meet someone whose ready for you and ready to take responsibility for your kids but this guy isn't the guy whose going to do that so move on, stop chasing him for an answer/response and get him out of your head because love does not abandon, love does not ignore, love does not hurt.

Don't make her sound like the victim of some flakey manipulative guy. She hasn't even met this dude and she thinks she can hound an apology out of him.

You've talked online for two months, and never met. Any talk about "I'll stand by you forever and raise your kids" is horseshit. I've made that commitment before, that ain't some shit you say to a stranger. And if a stranger is saying it to me, um...gtfo.

This sounds like high school except for the two kids part. I love you more. No, I love you more.

Slow down!

Coming from a libra...hahaha...

@tiki33,thanks very much for your advice. What you said is true! I will just go on with my life and enjoy my pregnancy. I still have just some few months to go and i need to be stress free! I will just let him be!

Posted by Ngie
we've been dating online for two months, 12 days now and making plans of meeting someday soon. I love him and i believe he does too. Lately we had a fight and since then, he has become too distant. I have asked for appology countless of time, he keeps telling me it's ok but nothing has change. I've gone as far suggesting we go our seperate ways if he doesn't want the relationship anylonger but he keeps telling me, he loves me so much and want us to be.but still i see no changes. I want to let him be, but my fear is, what if he doesn't come back for me? I fear of even texting him because i don't even know how he's going to take it. Please guys, help me! What can i do to get his attention back? I don't want to lose him!

Get into therapy. Anyone who falls in love with someone they met online for 12 days and haven't met in person has got something seriously wrong with them. Do you realize how messed up this is??

Posted by Ngie
we've been dating online for two months, 12 days now and making plans of meeting someday soon. I love him and i believe he does too. Lately we had a fight and since then, he has become too distant. I have asked for appology countless of time, he keeps telling me it's ok but nothing has change. I've gone as far suggesting we go our seperate ways if he doesn't want the relationship anylonger but he keeps telling me, he loves me so much and want us to be.but still i see no changes. I want to let him be, but my fear is, what if he doesn't come back for me? I fear of even texting him because i don't even know how he's going to take it. Please guys, help me! What can i do to get his attention back? I don't want to lose him!

This relationship isn't real. It is only a fantasy you have built up in your head. You don't love him, you love the IDEA of him.

:::: shakes head ::::

my bf acts exactly the same after we had some small fight .we have been only together for one month,he was so into me , but now he is being distant and cold .at first i sent him text and called him several times, he was so mad and asked me to pls give him space and time. so i controled myself not to contact him. now we text again but he seems not talkative anymore..gonna meet him tomorrow, lets see what will happen .