Why is it’s so hard to let go...

I am trying to get over this girl from so many days and it’s just so hard to not think about her.

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I am trying to get over this girl from so many days and it’s just so hard to not think about her.

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You’re just gonna have to wait til she’s out of your system. Do what you can to put her out of your mind when she crops up in there. If you’re still holding on for some reason, I recommend writing her a letter that you never send her and then burning it. Allow yourself to feel it bc avoidance only causes it to be buried but not put to rest. Best wishes! I know it’s hard.....

I tried going out with another girl. But I just can’t seem to stop comparing the new girl with the old one.

I don’t wanna hurt the new girl hence I stopped dating her for now.

2 weeks since we broke up

How hard or how easy it is to forget someone - depends on how much they meant to you (the more you care about someone - the stronger the attachment). As some would put it - that given person occupies a space in your mind (quite literally, since the emotions and the memories related to that given person - are part of an active neural network that's linked to your own identity / a mental pattern). Thus, the less you use that neural network (as you would while she was still an active part of your life) - the weaker it gets. Mental patterns imply daily habits - and unless your brain gets damaged (a severe trauma - could have such impact) - it takes awhile to unlearn something by practicing it less and less. Might be hard to realize right now - since your experience is less pleasant if you broke up, but - you used to think about her far more often when you two were together. Since now she's a painful memory - someone you want to forget (which ironically - puts more fuel on fire - cause your desire to forget her ends up reminding you more of her) - you're actually more aware of the space she occupies in your mind (kinda like someone who doesn't pay rent - even if that person would spend a week in your house instead of a month - it's harder to ignore). So hey, it takes a while (more or less) - you just have to get better at focusing on other stuff, till eventually - you'll start to form new mental patterns of which she's not part of.

Easier said than done - but that's all there is to it - technically speaking.

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How hard or how easy it is to forget someone - depends on how much they meant to you (the more you care about someone - the stronger the attachment). As some would put it - that given person occupies a space in your mind (quite literally, since the emotions and the memories related to that given person - are part of an active neural network that's linked to your own identity / a mental pattern). Thus, the less you use that neural network (as you would while she was still an active part of your life) - the weaker it gets. Mental patterns imply daily habits - and unless your brain gets damaged (a severe trauma - could have such impact) - it takes awhile to unlearn something by practicing it less and less. Might be hard to realize right now - since your experience is less pleasant if you broke up, but - you used to think about her far more often when you two were together. Since now she's a painful memory - someone you want to forget (which ironically - puts more fuel on fire - cause your desire to forget her ends up reminding you more of her) - you're actually more aware of the space she occupies in your mind (kinda like someone who doesn't pay rent - even if that person would spend a week in your house instead of a month - it's harder to ignore). So hey, it takes a while (more or less) - you just have to get better at focusing on other stuff, till eventually - you'll start to form new mental patterns of which she's not part of.

Easier said than done - but that's all there is to it - technically speaking.

Thanks buddy your explanation sums it up really nicely!