Women looking for sex? (Page 2)

Posted by Beetleguese
It seems that there is an assumption being made here by the pro monoamorous group; while there certainly exists a subset of society that sleeps with just anyone on (an often drunken) whim, the point that I, and I suspect others were making is that there are also a group of polyamorous people that choose their partners just as carefully as you* (*generic) do. Potential partners are screened for suitably and the sexual act is enjoyed once both partners are satisfied that they are each engaging in a safe, sane and mutually enjoyable act. With this group there is no sleeping with just any Tom, Dick, Mary or Jane. There is a lack of understanding on both sides here, but arguably mostly from the more conservative group which is understandable as they have not walked in those shoes. Morals should be individual values, not an idea equally forced upon all members of society.

Now, go forth and feed your desires in which ever way you see fit fellow dxp'ers 🙂

Posted by mr.crabby
Have they given up hope? Playing the men's game? Do they really think that it's what they want? Whether they call it FWB, fuck friends, fuck buddies, friends with benefits or any other delusional term, are they broken inside?

I wish I could be a woman for a day to feel what it's like to be used as a tissue for a few minutes but I can't! Am I just too old-fashioned?

Crabby wants to know!

Posted by seavixen2
I just don't care about what anyone else is doing but myself. I'm the one who has to live with me. To each their own.

Posted by gemtaur
But I wonder whether the key feature that distinguishes the pro-monomamorous and pro-polyamorous groups is whether one is a romantic? I think that's what this discussion hinges on, not one's personal views of gender roles, sociocultural values, morality, etc. A genuinely romantic person cannot share his or her love with more than one person at a time or share it with one person in a casual setting for an extended period of time. A passionate person can be in love or lust with more than one person at a time and act on it, but a passionate person is not necessarily a romantic.

So, we've got three categories: (1) romantic; (2) passionate and romantic; (3) passionate but not romantic. (1)'s cannot comprehend the point of non-monogamous relationships because they may see sex as an act of transcendence; (2)'s can appreciate both types of involvement and will participate in either one depending on their particular circumstances and needs at any given time; and (3)'s are perfectly comfortable with non-monogamous involvements.

Beetleguese, I don't think anyone would deny that non-monogamous interactions are not enjoyable or mutually satisfying; I also don't think you can deny that you are not a romantic person. You may be extremely passionate, but not romantic. I'm simply a romantic, neither sexist nor a Bible-thumper. I adhere to the Millsian non-harm principle and believe that everyone ought to be able to do as they please so long as others are not harmed. Who am I to pass judgment on another's choice? But, if the point of sex is to transcend oneself to become whole with another human being (in a completely non-religious context), as it is for me, then, involving oneself in non-monogamous situations is to consider oneself a means to an end rather than as an end in itself. Is that a judgment call? Yes, but I apply it equally to both men and women.

And so, the issue, imho, really hinges on the definition of a romantic. Can a romantic be someone whose sexual desires are focused on one person at a time or is there room for a universalist romantic of sorts? Someone for whom the desire to connect with others is so great that he or she cannot limit him or herself to just one person. But again, is that properly understood as being romantic or passionate? In other words, I pass no judgment on passionate people other than the fact that I don't think that they are romantic.

Posted by seavixen2

Posted by cappysweetie

Posted by seavixen2
I just don't care about what anyone else is doing but myself. I'm the one who has to live with me. To each their own.

Right, but I do sometimes wonder why the hell both men and women do what they do but again , that's just me ^_^.

me too cappysweetie. And I also think Gemtaurs post was excellent. I am having rage issues today so I won't comment any further.

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Posted by Stpatrickspisces
Continued....

Again, I have been on both sides where I used to believe in only having sex within a marriage and I was very faithful in both of my previous marriages. Now I am on the other side where I don't want nor am I ready to be in a serious relationship but I may still want to have "relations" here and there. I don't think I should be judged for that nor do I think the women/men who only believe in having sex inside a monogamous or marriage should be judged.
I just love all of ya'll so I am definitely not here to judge but just to put in my two cents! 😉