confused about sag guy...

so, i have been hanging out with a sag guy for a month now, but we have known each other for a little over a year. everything was great at first, and now he seems to be pulling away from me. i am a cancer so it could be that i am too pushy and i may be scaring him, idk. also, i just got out of a 2 year relationship, so i know it bothers him b/c he thinks he is just a rebound and nothing else. i really value his friendship overall, but i would like to get to know him better, only he is pushing me away already. he has had a crush on me for months, and now that i am hanging out with him he is so distant.
before he was begging me to hang out with him, and now when i ask him to do something he gives me an excuse not to hang out...i don't get it. should i back off and not contact him anymore? will this allow him to chase after me, or will he just forget me? any advice is appreciated...thanks!

so i must be the one doing the chasing—

i really don't think he is seeing anyone else, although i am not 100% sure...but he says he has not dated (seriously) in YEARS...and i believe it b/c his actions express that! he is also a creature of habit, a loner so to speak, and very much a homebody...so it's not like he is out and about getting to know the ladies 😉
i am sure he is very interested in me, as he says that he really wants to get to know me and take it very slow, also b/c he is a very cautious person when it comes to his feelings. the difficult part is trying to be a part of his life since he is soooo regimented... and being the cancer that i am , when he says he would rather stay home and get things done (b/c that is his planned schedule for the day) than hang out with me, i take it to heart. he is very anal about doing everything according to schedule, and i am the complete opposite...i never plan anything out...especially not my daily life!!! anyway, how do i squeeze myself into his routine every once in a while— any thoughts...

yes, i am organized...and when it comes to vacations and stuff, well yes i do plan that type of stuff out...but i never know what i am going to do on the weekend until the weekend is here! and i certainly don't have a scheduled agenda or a daily routine in my life. nope, definitely not my style ...i would rather go with the flow. makes likfe far more interesting, i think!
and, i am NOT at all a homebody...in fact, the only time i am home is to shower, get ready, or sleep. i can't stand sitting in a house, any house. i like to be out and about among lots of people. must be all the leo in my chart!!!

Hi MC8,

Your situation sounds so much like mine, almost too much! I am also dating a Sag and he has done the same thing; he has also told me I was too pushy which is making him go the opposite way. And I am. I am a Leo, I can't help it! But it's not in a bad way. I like yourself love to go out and I thought he did too; which now everything time I ask him to go to concerts or hang out, he tells me no. He is the one who told me he likes to go out so I felt that it wasn't a problem in asking him to hang out. So now I am being pushy. I told him I am not making another effort asking him out, he is going to have to do it. I don't sit at home very often, especially in the summer and he doesn't go out in the heat. He says he can sit down with a jug of kool-aid and not care!! So right now I have back off and if he wants to hang out then he will give me a call. If not, then guess I have to move on!! I don't want to but I will if it's not going to work.