Fellow Sag advice

Hey all,
Please read the post I put in the Aquarius msg board.
Let me know what you think! Be HONEST, be BLUNT like I know us Sags do! 🙂
Thanks!

My Aquarius ex and I grew up together. I was friends with his sister-we met in preschool. Our families live on the same street and have even attended family functions together-weddings, etc.
At one point I ran into my ex (we were not dating at that time) at the resturaunt where he worked. He gave me his phone number (I thought he was still with his GF at the time) and I never called him.
I guess it wasn't time for us.
Even though we didn't date at that time-I always felt a HEAT go through my whole body. From my head to my toes whenever he physically made contact with me. A hug, a brush of the shoulder.
Needless to say we did end up getting together but we both brought too much baggage into the relationship. (He had just bought a business, still had an ex lingering around. I had emotional baggage, low self esteem.)
And me not knowing how an Aquarius man is, when he broke up with me the first time, I went nuts!!
In the end I betrayed him big time.
I did, however, correct my mistake and even apologized to him, on many occasions.
We tried to get back together almost 9 months later, at least that is what I thought, till he started saying it wasn't going to work.
I left him at this point. I could not do this, AGAIN, and even though I left, I felt...like I was losing my soulmate.
We did not speak really for a year, and just recently, we spoke to eachother.
I went over to his house, we talked, and it was as if I was seeing him and he was seeing me in a new light. That night, we had sex.
I went again to his house and asked him for his phone number, to which he gave me.
We discussed at that conversation about having a bc thing going on type thing. We both agreed.
He sent me a text every day since he gave me his new number, to which I would reply or not, depending on what I was doing at that time.
This past Sunday I sent him a text asking if we were doing this bc thing or not? To text whenever one of us had the need?
He said, "I actually cannot do this. I thought I could but I can't. Take Care."
I sent, "Can I ask why?"
His reply (which damn near broke my HEART, yet again, "I think I am in love with someone, and its not you. I can't do that to her. I am sorry."

Can someone please explain to me what he means by this? And if you are an Aquarius it would be even more helpful.

Of all I know about

Here is the thing with fixed signs...

THEY SUCK lmao...but really they don't forgive things easily.

As mutable sag sun your more likely to prattle on.


At this point it sounds like he isn't over it and just wants to make you feel like shit. Screw him if he's gonna do that. If he can't get over the past that is his problem. You apologized and clearly he's still wining about it a year later.

So just say "congratulations on your love " and just take off lol

He sounds like he's being a douchebag, and just wants to drag you over the coals for your past transgressions lol

Posted by Sagittarius89
Here is the thing with fixed signs...

THEY SUCK lmao...but really they don't forgive things easily.

As mutable sag sun your more likely to prattle on.


At this point it sounds like he isn't over it and just wants to make you feel like shit. Screw him if he's gonna do that. If he can't get over the past that is his problem. You apologized and clearly he's still wining about it a year later.

So just say "congratulations on your love " and just take off lol

LMFAO

Saying "sorry" is rubbish, though. IDK why mutable signs think it'll make things better:

"Oh - I fucked your best friend. Sorry."

WTF—

In the eyes of a fixed sign you've proven that:

1. you lack self control
2. reliability and
3. you are capable of doing far worse deeds given LITTLE provocation. Once that seed is planted it's ov-ah.

And for mentally oriented fixed signs like scorpio and aquarius who have a million and one thoughts buzzing through their minds every second your betrayal will play over and over and over and over and OVER again in their mind EVERY time they set eyes on you.

A POV.

Your story sounds really similar to mine!

I grew up with an Aqua too that chased me for years.
I finally ended up giving him a chance several years ago. We had both recently gotten out of long-term relationships (well, for me it was an on/off relationship with a Libra that I am still with)
It was the best/healthiest relationship I think I've ever had. We just really understood each other. He was attentive, kind, understanding.... He actually listened when I talked - gave me his FULL attention. He encouraged me to do things I loved doing, like art/ which I wasn't doing much of at the time. He wasn't smothering, but made it pretty clear he adored me and wanted to be around me as much as possible.

Then, out of freaking no where...he got distant. He went from showing up at my door almost morning, texting me messages through out the day, etc...to no call, no text, nothing.
I called him...asked what was going on...he said he wanted to talk to me in person, but since I asked, he went ahead and told me he wanted things to go back to the "way they were before....like when we were still just friends."
I was completely blindsided. We had no argument, disagreement, nothing. I asked if I did something wrong...he said no....
I asked if it was his ex...he said no....
Finally he explained "I just changed my mind."

This fucking annoyed the SHIT out of me, as you can imagine.
How do you go from aggressively pursuing someone, being up their ass, spending all your spare time with them, initiating pretty much all the contact between the two of you.......and then, hmmm NEVERMIND. "Changed my mind."
How annoying!

He explained further that I was "different" than what he thought. He had created this image of me in his head after all those years of wanting me and me being unattainable.
Once he had me, he was over it. I didn't live up to the hype or something. He said he thought I'd be different in a relationship than what I was....I kind of treated him exactly the same....he expected me to get mushier or something. :/


I decided not to wait around for him to change his mind again and I ended up getting back together with my Libra a couple months later, so whatever.
But I was really heartbroken over it. I really really liked him.

I feel like he did me dirty personally. Almost like a "revenge fuck." Haha Except, we never actually slept together...never made it that far.
It's like he just wanted to see if he could catch me and make me fall for

Sorry for the wall of text....just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

Just move on! He is not worth your time.

Plus, in my experience Aquas sex drive really doesn't match a Sags....you would have ended up miserable anyways

^ prick

My ex aqua was so nasty with me too

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Posted by Sagittarius89
Here is the thing with fixed signs...

THEY SUCK lmao...but really they don't forgive things easily.

As mutable sag sun your more likely to prattle on.


At this point it sounds like he isn't over it and just wants to make you feel like shit. Screw him if he's gonna do that. If he can't get over the past that is his problem. You apologized and clearly he's still wining about it a year later.

So just say "congratulations on your love " and just take off lol

LMFAO

Saying "sorry" is rubbish, though. IDK why mutable signs think it'll make things better:

"Oh - I fucked your best friend. Sorry."

WTF—

In the eyes of a fixed sign you've proven that:

1. you lack self control
2. reliability and
3. you are capable of doing far worse deeds given LITTLE provocation. Once that seed is planted it's ov-ah.

And for mentally oriented fixed signs like scorpio and aquarius who have a million and one thoughts buzzing through their minds every second your betrayal will play over and over and over and over and OVER again in their mind EVERY time they set eyes on you.

A POV.

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I agree with you

Posted by Sagittarius89
My ex aqua was so nasty with me too

Ew, definitely don't want an aqua now :/

Brianafay-
Thank you for the insight and sharing your experience with me! 🙂
I was interested in finding out what my fellow Sags ex/or current relationships where with the Aquas in there lives.
My ex told me to, when he broke up with me the first time (obviously there were 2 break ups after that) that he said I was not the person he thought I was. He had me on this high pedestal and had me all figured out, even, before we started to date. And then date again.
And now, here we are, three years later, and still on the same merry go round ride.
FYI- I have not spoken to him since Wed. and it is now Sat. He has sent me a text everyday since then.
It is now 9pm on Sat night and I am waiting for the text to come in, because I know it will.
I am giving myself the up most high fived, pat on the back, way to go girlfriend accolade, since normally I would ALWAYS respond back.
Even my best friend who is a Scorpio has said "YEEEEEHHHHHHH" That I am being STRONG! (😉 for a change)

UPDATE: My ex Aqua sent me a text on Sat night. We went back and forth for a bit, then he asked if I wanted to play.
I went over to his house, to which he met me in the car. We "talked" first. He told me he does have a gf, so I asked him, when they met, how long they have been dating, who asked who, what she looks like (if she was similar to me), how the relationship was going so far?
He told me he cannot be in a relationship with me. That we can "play" and asked if I could handle that. To not try and act crazy, to mess up his relationship with his new girl. I told him (after a while of thinking, and you know us Sags do not think before we speak) that I could. He was in the car with me afterall, and she was not. He wanted to "sleep" with me and not her. I asked if he had sex with her yet, to my suprise, he told me no. That they are fighting alot actually. He also has not told her about his fantasies, his sexual preferences and who he really is. He told me he is doing this dif, that he was hurt before. They are taking things slow.
How can you love someone if you haven't slept with them yet?
Also in my response I told him he was suffocating who he really is to be with her, and in time it will come out. That it will not work because of that.
I also said that he loves me, he is just afraid, confused and that I am scoring because he wants to sleep with me! Not her!
I know it sounds twisted, but our relationship was never "normal" by normal standards.
I don't really have a question-just need some well thought out advice.
I am starting to feel like the "other woman" even though I know I am the only woman. Does that make sense?
Thoughts, PLEASE my fellow Sags! 🙂

no saggie pooh, you are definitely not winning here. he is the only one winning. you cant belive a word that come out of his mouth. he could be sexing her up a wall and why would he tell you that? nope, hes def using you and your rationalizing the situation.

your settling and you will end up resenting him later on. his needs are getting filled by 2 different women and whats worse is that you know about it. but you know u want more, so why settle for the crumbs he's giving you? all for the sake of a good penis and sexual prowness?? we saggis can do the sex without emotion but only if there was really no emotion to begin with. you 2 have history.

sometimes us saggis have to grow up and put our emotional needs ahead of our sexual ones.

surely there is a man out there who you can sex up who isnt attached to any other girl or any other kind of "situation." sex shouldnt come with all this extra shit.

Posted by NikkiMse1978
He also has not told her about his fantasies, his sexual preferences and who he really is. He told me he is doing this dif, that he was hurt before. They are taking things slow.

whats this about?? 🙂 🙂 🙂

what r his sexual preferences? this is juicy!!!

i havent had the best luck with aquas. its like they have no pulse. i even saw an aqua with a scorpio rising and still he was like a mooch and sponge.

but sexual preferences and him not being who he is sexualy is mouth-watering. its always nice to find someone with out of the box sexual preferences.

^^^^^^ Oh yes! That right there...

And what DMV said. What's his weird sexual preferences 😛

I agree with what everyone else said.

Also maybe you " winning " this situation may make you feel like you can move on from him.

Unless your really trying to win him back for like real, than this probably isn't the best path.

But if it's just to " win " it might help you move on. I've kind of been in this and after I was able to. I was young though and it was dumb and I wouldn't repeat it but it did help me.

I'm not gonna lie but don't do it LOL

Posted by DMV

Posted by NikkiMse1978
He also has not told her about his fantasies, his sexual preferences and who he really is. He told me he is doing this dif, that he was hurt before. They are taking things slow.

whats this about?? 🙂 🙂 🙂

what r his sexual preferences? this is juicy!!!

i havent had the best luck with aquas. its like they have no pulse. i even saw an aqua with a scorpio rising and still he was like a mooch and sponge.

but sexual preferences and him not being who he is sexualy is mouth-watering. its always nice to find someone with out of the box sexual preferences.

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DMV- His sexual preferences are juicy alright!😉😉 I have not had the best luck with them myself, however, my Aqua has been in my life, my whole life, since we grew up together and all. And dating, Ive been on my merry go round for 3 years now. We always seem to find our way back to each other. This time though, its dif. He has a GF even though he has no problem with me being the "other" woman. I had no prob with it at first (lasted only like 2 days) but then my head started thinking for a change (you know us Sags do not THINK, EVER!) and my head over ruled my heart. I have to much respect for myself and for his new gf to continue like this. I told him I want to be the ONLY woman in his life, and he said he can't give me what he wants. That he know I say he hurt me, but he still has fresh wounds from when he did the before. ( I think he means when we tried to get back together, oh, the 50 times we did!!!).
He has no prob "cheating" on his gf with me, but his def of cheating (which I never asked) must be out there. WHOA Nelly! LOL.
His new gf does not even know his sexual side. His sexual fantasies. NOTHING! I told him to talk to her about it, make love to her, picture its me and, then forget about me.
He told me I am pretty hard to forget!
It does not matter anymore what I do. I cannot look back any more.
He is not being who he is with her, he is not being honest. He is hiding some of who he is, and yes he may be "growing" as others have said about his relationship and him as a person with his new gf. But I know who he is. You cannot "pretend" to be someone you are not. Eventually it will blow up in his face, and I will not be there to pick up the pieces this time. 🙂

Posted by Mebs
^^^^^^ Oh yes! That right there...

And what DMV said. What's his weird sexual preferences 😛

Aqua are known to be eccentrics and have kinky sex lives. His is included in that. However, us Sags can follow suit pretty closely if we are open to trying new things. Use your imagination. 😉

Posted by Sagittarius89
I agree with what everyone else said.

Also maybe you " winning " this situation may make you feel like you can move on from him.

Unless your really trying to win him back for like real, than this probably isn't the best path.

But if it's just to " win " it might help you move on. I've kind of been in this and after I was able to. I was young though and it was dumb and I wouldn't repeat it but it did help me.

I'm not gonna lie but don't do it LOL

I am not winning at anything. The only thing I am winning is myself respect and dignity back. I do want him, in all the essence of the word but he is not willing and I am not going to push.

What was your expierence?

omg....none of the aquas i had relations with were kinky. i found the pisces more kinkier than the aquas. specifically, the pisces with a venus in aqua. i would marry a pisces if they dint play the martyr card all the same time.

Posted by DMV
omg....none of the aquas i had relations with were kinky. i found the pisces more kinkier than the aquas. specifically, the pisces with a venus in aqua. i would marry a pisces if they dint play the martyr card all the same time.

After daing this Aqua and meeting several more-I beleive the individual creates his kinkiness. Depending on his age/his sexual expeirences and what he wants to "try". My ex Aqua was very "freakish" which suprises me that he has not told his new GF. He told me within a month of dating him. They are going on 3. I beleive they do not like to be judged and this would bring to him the ultimate judgement. Of his charachter. 😢 Too bad for him.
I always knew I had a certain level myself, and when he proposed this to me, I was a little stand offish about it at first. But we tried a few things and in the end I loved it!
The thing is I didnt' have a problem acting on my open sexuality by myself. Doing it as a couple is a whole new world. 😉
I would marry my Aqua and not a Pisces because the Pisces I know are not as open.

what does your chart look like? and his?

he probably felt more sexually open with u, than his current gf. but u know that aqua's get down with the mind, not the orgasm.

Posted by DMV
what does your chart look like? and his?

I do not know his exact date of birth, but from the readings I have had done, they say we are supposed to be in a friendly, exotic, loving, lasting relationship. 🙂 It just is going to take ALOT of work to get there. I can email you our DOB's, if you do readings. 🙂

Posted by DMV
he probably felt more sexually open with u, than his current gf. but u know that aqua's get down with the mind, not the orgasm.

That is true. However, he still has not had sex with her yet. Which I find is very odd. How do you know if you want to buy the cow then?
Also, it seemed to me he showed his love more so by his sexual nature. He expresses himself more openely.

yeah just posts the chart, u can keep the birthdates private.

Posted by NikkiMse1978

Posted by Sagittarius89
I agree with what everyone else said.

Also maybe you " winning " this situation may make you feel like you can move on from him.

Unless your really trying to win him back for like real, than this probably isn't the best path.

But if it's just to " win " it might help you move on. I've kind of been in this and after I was able to. I was young though and it was dumb and I wouldn't repeat it but it did help me.

I'm not gonna lie but don't do it LOL

I am not winning at anything. The only thing I am winning is myself respect and dignity back. I do want him, in all the essence of the word but he is not willing and I am not going to push.

What was your expierence?

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After he dumped me I wanted him back for a very long time. It was a bunch of games, push pull, stand ups, disappearances it was awful. All this time he had like a a new girlfriend every month.

Than like after a while he fell in love with this other aqua girl. He called me one night when he was with her and we messed around. She found out about it and dumped him. He got really depressed and did some illegal things and ended up in jail for a while.

My mars in scorpio was very hungry for revenge back than 😐 Mind you I was like 17. But I moved on after that and forgot about it. I haven't talked to him in probably 3 years.

From what I hear they are still together.

So good for them.

This is him-


Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Aquarius 12.46
Moon Capricorn 3.13
Mercury Pisces 1.04
Venus Capricorn 26.49
Mars Aquarius 25.52
Jupiter Libra 10.18 R
Saturn Libra 9.36 R
Uranus Scorpio 29.40
Neptune Sagittarius 24.06
Pluto Libra 24.21 R
Lilith Scorpio 3.48
Asc node Leo 10.53



This is me-
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Sagittarius 14.13 Ascendant Aquarius 7.50
Moon Pisces 10.01 II Pisces 26.17
Mercury Sagittarius 12.18 R III Taurus 3.31
Venus Scorpio 8.36 IV Taurus 29.39
Mars Sagittarius 25.28 V Gemini 20.53
Jupiter Leo 8.52 R VI Cancer 11.48
Saturn Virgo 13.38 VII Leo 7.50
Uranus Scorpio 18.23 VIII Virgo 26.17
Neptune Sagittarius 17.54 IX Scorpio 3.31
Pluto Libra 18.38 Midheaven Scorpio 29.39
Lilith Leo 6.01 XI Sagittarius 20.53
Asc node Virgo 22.57 XII Capricorn 11.48

I hope this looks right. Let me know-and WISH me luck! 🙂

Sag89-That is my problem and why I blew us getting back together this last time. When I betrayed him, I did it with a vengenence. I do not want to say what here, but it was bad. It cost me $ 9000 and the loss of him and his trust. 😢

Posted by NikkiMse1978
Sag89-That is my problem and why I blew us getting back together this last time. When I betrayed him, I did it with a vengenence. I do not want to say what here, but it was bad. It cost me $ 9000 and the loss of him and his trust. 😢

😐 It happens! I guess you must really love him if you want to keep trying after your mistake.

Btw just looking at his chart. Cap moon and Cap venus AHHHH I'm afraid of the cap venus! 😛 Cap moons can be very cold. The ones I knew anyway. That mars in aqua explains the kink ness. Hmm

Wow you have a venus in scorpio and pisces moon! Hmm you must be very sensitive. Your rising, I can see why you attract the aquas plus being a sag. Mars in sag ya I bet you get his fun side in bed.

Your charts actually flow really well together.

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by NikkiMse1978
Sag89-That is my problem and why I blew us getting back together this last time. When I betrayed him, I did it with a vengenence. I do not want to say what here, but it was bad. It cost me $ 9000 and the loss of him and his trust. 😢

😐 It happens! I guess you must really love him if you want to keep trying after your mistake.

Btw just looking at his chart. Cap moon and Cap venus AHHHH I'm afraid of the cap venus! 😛 Cap moons can be very cold. The ones I knew anyway. That mars in aqua explains the kink ness. Hmm

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I do really love him. Ive put up with his good and bad since day one. He has trouble putting up with mine. I love him good and bad as I have said. 🙂
Cap moon and Cap Venus-can you explain further? I am not good at the chart reading thingie. LOL.

Posted by Sagittarius89
Wow you have a venus in scorpio and pisces moon! Hmm you must be very sensitive. Your rising, I can see why you attract the aquas plus being a sag. Mars in sag ya I bet you get his fun side in bed.

Your charts actually flow really well together.

Yes, I am very sensitive! I always say I wear my heart on my sleeve. My emotions take over and I react to them. Sometimes destructively. It has happened to him several times, and that is a reason why he cannot do it again. He even asked me last night if I won't create any drama-even though I am the one who said I couldn't be the other woman. Go figure!!
He doesn't see that I am a different person, or he just chooses not to. 🙂
How can you tell our charts flow well? How do I improve what is happening? HELP!

Posted by AliCar15
Hey Nikki! Go here: http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/natal<BR>
🙂

Thanks 🙂 🙂

Nikki! That site alicar gave you will help at alot.

You can read and look up all the info on the plants and compare your plants together like :

How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Capricorn: The passion your partner senses in you is, of course, real, and this thought excites your mate. Although other lovers may find your partner a tad reserved and perhaps even undemonstrative in love, you have a way of making him or her feel extraordinary. Because your partner both fears and craves intimacy, you are probably one of the most ideal people to get to him or her. Your partner finds you exciting and deeply intriguing, and you are sure to find him or her equally fascinating—even a challenge. You will thoroughly appreciate your partner's dedication to a relationship, probably more than most, and it is when he or she feels appreciated that your partner is at his or her romantic best. You both have strong personalities, in different ways, and this may cause some tension at times. However, neither of you can stay attracted to someone "weak" for too long, so the mutual respect can do wonders for your partnership. This is a stimulating combination, one with a lot of give and a lot of take. If anything, you will certainly never be bored with each other. Perhaps what your partner appreciates most about you is your ability to see past his or her defenses. While others may be intimidated by your partner's often cool and even aloof exterior, you know there is a lot more to your lover. Fortunately for you, you will get to experience all that is inside your Venus in Capricorn lover, and it is unlikely you will be disappointed.

When your Venus is in Scorpio, it's all or nothing in matters of the heart. You are capable of loving deeply, and you crave intimacy. Scorpio isn't afraid of anything, and when Venus, the planet of love, is found in this sign, love relationships are intense. Scorpio is also a sign that thrives on crisis in order for its natives to feel alive and vital, so when it comes to matters of the heart, you are not only unafraid of getting your hands dirty, you may easily find an overly predictable relationship uninteresting.

Scorpios don't enjoy being referred to as jealous, but from time to time, jealousy and possessiveness become issues in your relationships. You have a strong desire to control your often turbulent passions, and you don't always let your partner exactly what is going on inside of you as a result. Others will be either strongly attracted to, or intimidated by, your obvious ability to give all to love, and your extraordinary passion. Your strong interest in love and romance can sometimes border on obsessive, and you need a partner who is willing to go the distance with you. Sexually, you are intense as well, but you definitely do not only want your partner's body--you want his or her soul as well. Sex without intimacy is ultimately uninteresting to you.

Be careful that your fear of betrayal doesn't become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When insecure about your partner's feelings about you, resorting to games of power and control might seem like a natural route for you, and may even get temporary desired "results", but can have disastrous consequences in the long run. Learning to let go a little and have faith in your partner can do wonders in any relationship. When you are at your best, you are unafraid of intimacy and can offer extraordinary passion to your relationships that is pretty much unmatched.

So the drama continues with the ex Aqua. He is not respecting my space and is texting me to talk. I am trying to speak to him and watch my tone and what I say, but I do not know how many times I can repeat the same thing to him!
He says he knew we had to talk, again, but its the same SHIT all the time. And what's funny is, if I bring it up, he gets huffy but its OK FOR HIM TO KEEP BRINGING IT UP!
And what's more, this man is confusing me royally! I am detaching but he keeps contacting me, but when I do speak to him he tells me he cannot marry me, he can never walk the aisle with me. He wants to see how him and his new gf work out. I have HAD ENOUGH!
Can someone out there please HELP! I am at my wits end.

I needed to hear he just wants me to wait in case it doesn't work with the new girl. Ty for saying that. 🙂

yeah, hes playin you but probably doesnt see it like that. aquas like to be friends and sex friends, while still maintaining something with someone else. its where their MIND is, not their penis.

Posted by NikkiMse1978
So the drama continues with the ex Aqua. He is not respecting my space and is texting me to talk. I am trying to speak to him and watch my tone and what I say, but I do not know how many times I can repeat the same thing to him!
He says he knew we had to talk, again, but its the same SHIT all the time. And what's funny is, if I bring it up, he gets huffy but its OK FOR HIM TO KEEP BRINGING IT UP!
And what's more, this man is confusing me royally! I am detaching but he keeps contacting me, but when I do speak to him he tells me he cannot marry me, he can never walk the aisle with me. He wants to see how him and his new gf work out. I have HAD ENOUGH!
Can someone out there please HELP! I am at my wits end.

the more I hear, the more he seriously seems like a douche bag.

You're gonna have to be straight up with him. Like bitch style .
Don't worry about sounding harsh.

One thing I appreciate about Aquas is how honest and straight forward they are.
Although I was deeply hurt by what happened between me and my Aqua friend...and wish it never happened....I do appreciate that he was man enough to say "I'm sorry, I changed my mind, I don't want to be with you."
As much as it annoyed me and confused me and didn't make any sense (contradicting) I accepted it.
I moved on from it, I never looked back. I didn't wait for him to change his mind again.
He was so direct and upfront about it...he made sure I was not given any "false hope." He made sure there was nothing left for interpretation...no "read between the lines." It just was what it was. Over.

I think you need to handle this the same way.
Tell him you are not interested in being second best, the other woman, etc. & that he is not to contact you anymore.

The fact that he would even ask you to be that...says a lot about the level of respect he has for you.

GROSS. Bye bitch byeeee

Posted by DMV
yeah, hes playin you but probably doesnt see it like that. aquas like to be friends and sex friends, while still maintaining something with someone else. its where their MIND is, not their penis.

Why do they not see it that way? I do not get how he goes back and forth back and forth all the time. Say what you mean and mean what you say, otherwise get out of my way. How can they be with someone who they "love" while fucking an ex— I seriously don't get it!
Explain the mind and not the penis comment....🙂

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Posted by NikkiMse1978
So the drama continues with the ex Aqua. He is not respecting my space and is texting me to talk. I am trying to speak to him and watch my tone and what I say, but I do not know how many times I can repeat the same thing to him!
He says he knew we had to talk, again, but its the same SHIT all the time. And what's funny is, if I bring it up, he gets huffy but its OK FOR HIM TO KEEP BRINGING IT UP!
And what's more, this man is confusing me royally! I am detaching but he keeps contacting me, but when I do speak to him he tells me he cannot marry me, he can never walk the aisle with me. He wants to see how him and his new gf work out. I have HAD ENOUGH!
Can someone out there please HELP! I am at my wits end.

the more I hear, the more he seriously seems like a douche bag.

You're gonna have to be straight up with him. Like bitch style .
Don't worry about sounding harsh.

One thing I appreciate about Aquas is how honest and straight forward they are.
Although I was deeply hurt by what happened between me and my Aqua friend...and wish it never happened....I do appreciate that he was man enough to say "I'm sorry, I changed my mind, I don't want to be with you."
As much as it annoyed me and confused me and didn't make any sense (contradicting) I accepted it.
I moved on from it, I never looked back. I didn't wait for him to change his mind again.
He was so direct and upfront about it...he made sure I was not given any "false hope." He made sure there was nothing left for interpretation...no "read between the lines." It just was what it was. Over.

I think you need to handle this the same way.
Tell him you are not interested in being second best, the other woman, etc. & that he is not to contact you anymore.

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That is exactly what he told me.. I do not want to give you any hope. But then in the same breathe, I am just confused. I don't know what I want. *Sigh* You are all right. I have loved this man for 3 years of my life...It will be hard to let him go, but let him go, fully is a must. No friends. No contact. No nothing. Afterall, it is the way he wants it...and what an Aqua man asks for he usually gets.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Jussayin' . 'Tis he right there ^, right ? 🙂

LOL-yes he is! That is him, but he is not a lion. Id peg him as an Ostrich who puts his head in the sand and then a cat who licks his own ass! 🙂 🙂

For the record, I am not going to contact him. I have ALOT to say to him, but it will not do any good. What's been said, has already been said. OVER & OVER again. I am through talking.
I am just going to disappear like he does. He will not remember me, nor think about me, and I prefer it that way.

Run him over with your car and blame it on someone who can't speak english

Posted by Sagittarius89
Run him over with your car and blame it on someone who can't speak english

Sag89-Whould have done that in the past! But not now. LOL. You just made me lol out loud. Thanks! 🙂 I needed that.

Posted by NikkiMse1978

Posted by Sagittarius89
Run him over with your car and blame it on someone who can't speak english

Sag89-Whould have done that in the past! But not now. LOL. You just made me lol out loud. Thanks! 🙂 I needed that.

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Good 🙂