is aqua playing me becuz i pulled his bitch card

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by virtuousvirgo83 on Thursday, August 25, 2011 and has 28 replies.

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

Ok.. so after the curve ball on the fwb situation this guy stands me up one night... then when he does come over his dick can bately get hard!!!! Like really—? Really pissed!!! It was not suppose to be this way..... 😢 i already know its a ruined situation.. but what went wrong... i thought this would beban ideal situation......

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@krysrenee7
18 Years5,000+ Posts

Which is worse to you...the fact that he stood you up or his slinger not getting hard?!

Him standing you up just seems like the icing on the cake especially considering he bailed on you when you were blunt about the fwb situation

It's sounding like either he's afraid of you (like you more than you like him, thus that's why he's embarrassed that you simplified things to just fwb) OR he's not that into you & is keeping you at a distance/doing certain things on purpose so that you won't have the chance to wanna get close to him

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

The iceing on the cake is when his dick didnt get hard after his simple ass stood me up...

Now if his goal is to keep me at a distant he accomplished that by stateing he was looking anything serious... i know my boundaries... now i am freaking sexually fustrated!!!! And i am selective with whom i fuck...

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@LonLon
15 Years

Posted by aquagirl24
i hate virgoes and capris... they are boring and nutheads and mentally ill and ignorant.

Not all of them..that is like putting all aquas in the area of being Narcissistic..I have many Aqua female friends and Male but all are not that way..I feel bad you had delt with some that may have been like that. I have lots of fun..I am cool people..lol..I guess to each his own.

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@LonLon
15 Years

Posted by aquagirl24
Posted by LonLon
Posted by aquagirl24
i hate virgoes and capris... they are boring and nutheads and mentally ill and ignorant.

Not all of them..that is like putting all aquas in the area of being Narcissistic..I have many Aqua female friends and Male but all are not that way..I feel bad you had delt with some that may have been like that. I have lots of fun..I am cool people..lol..I guess to each his own.

why are u a virgo— no, the virgo females i met are jealous and are friends but not true friends... if u get what i mean... so i get over it... they are very narcissistic no matter their looks cant improve. but i get what i mean, i luv my virgo my cousin, never get on with female virgo friends.

virgo is still better. capris. no matter how hard i try i always end up figuring out how imbecile and stupid and bastard and whore they are. so there is some difference. never met 1 good capricorn. they are all EVIL. just look at their eyes. if you see those whore murdering eyes, then it is REAL, its not ur imagination!

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LOL..I AM a virgo..but I think it depends on th age too..well I can't say that either..my problem is I am a protector. Virgos dont have big circles of friends but I never had problems making them. And had not problems keeping them. My favorit cuz is an Aqua..we conect and relate so well. I dated a capie..but we get along with them. It was not long but we dated. I would not say I am narcissistic at all...I mean I am friends with so many signs..but mabye it is a certain type you delt with. And what is your sign may I ask?

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

@bigd.... i was a lil fustrated but nowvi have decided to write about how to have and maintain a healthy rewarding fwb relationship. I am going to write about the difference between fwb nsa and a jump off.. i am also going to do individuals whom have been in these relayionships and discuss the good and bad... i am so excited about this nee book project

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

But isn't FWB NSA type relationship supposed to end, supposed to not last? Or am I missing the point? He's supposed to move on, that's why people choose FWB situations so they can never be obligated to anything towards the other person like standing people up without being called rude or for example pursuing other FWB connections to have back up's and eventually one or both people can just leave without explanation if they feel it's not working out or that the person would be too much trouble to deal with or they grow bored with the person. I'm certain you weren't the only FWB in his life, he most likely had alternatives and being that you chose something sexually OPEN with another human being you should recognize what you signed up for.

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

Fwb dont stand each other up.... thats why its important to know the difference between a nsa,fwb, and a jump off.. which clearly most people who get into these type of situations dont know... we are adults and should handle ourselves as such. Its not cool to stand anyone up and its not cool to lie. Ifhe feels no obligation then there would be no reason for him to lie and stand me up... i dont care about his other situations but i will be respected when he handles me.. simple and to the point. Just because its a fwb situation does not mean i should expect less... FRIENDS with benefits..thank you

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

But it's just sex, it's not like a relationship so aren't the rules different? I guess what I'm saying is you appear disappointed and have expectations that match up with a real relationship instead of an FWB situation, I guess I'm confused by your reaction to his behavior, men get into FWB for the sex without all the hassles that come with comittment, rules and boundaries that apply to one on one relationships. He lied b/c he can, he doesn't owe you anything, he doesn't owe you the truth nor monogamy, actually I would expect a guy to be honest with me if I were in an FWB relationship with him....

FWB is less so yeah you should expect less, no one is going to treat you like a girlfriend if your not and a man definitely won't respect you if you accept less, his behavior pretty much matches up with how I would expect a man whose chosen to be noncommittal in a FWB situation would behave. Mature men that are experienced may set some rules etc but mainly most guys just figure you know what you're getting into when you accept a FWB situation.

I'm not putting you down or judging you, it's your body and you can do whatever you want but I definitely feel your expectations are way too high for this kind of relationship. Sure he could be a bit nicer and respectful but he's not so I guess you'll have to learn from this and make sure you lay down some ground rules with your next FWB (if there is a next).

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

Pumpkin i am not all concerned about being judged by othere.. i am my own judge.. and i make my own expectations.. if the person agrees to meet them but cant then they get laid out then dismissed.. i can and will have expectations/standards in any situation/relationship i decide to be in...thanks :-)

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

Oh my you have a chip on your shoulder lol....

You can have all the standards/expectations you want but I can almost guarantee you'll consistently be disappointed if your standards and expectations don't match up to the quality and level of the relationship you get yourself into.

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

No chip here... it is what it is. People should not agree if they can deliver... i never agree to any relationship/situation if i cant deliver that is what it comes down too... point blank period!!!!

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

LOL! I hear yah...

FWB is not a real relationship that requires a set standard or set of rules, people that apply rigid rules come up short and disappointed so yeah he doesn't have to come through for you point blank period, you're lack of flexibility doesn't match up to what you got yourself involved in.

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@virtuousvirgo83
16 Years

So aqua returns..... lol!! He Brings his "A" game to the bedroom we fucked as if nothing happened.. it was good!! Ill let him run off again to his lil hole for about 2 weeks and we will be at it again.. i prefer more frequently but hey ill take it for now.. just giving you guys a update... :-)

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@Blackvirgo
12 Years

This virtuous Virgo sounded vicious. But she also sounds like she really liked the aqua and just got hurt early on in the beginning. .

Poor thang..

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@Blackvirgo
12 Years

This virtuous Virgo sounded vicious. But she also sounds like she really liked the aqua and just got hurt early on in the beginning. .

Poor thang..

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@Blackvirgo
12 Years

This virtuous Virgo sounded vicious. But she also sounds like she really liked the aqua and just got hurt early on in the beginning. .

Poor thang..