Have you ever been played.?

Hi im new to the site and I'm diggin it so far. So again have any of you fellow saggis ever gotten played and if so do any of you know if the "player" that played you got their just desserts? hearing of any of your stories and hoe they turned out would help me feel better and no so dumb.

not hoe but how and not so dumb.

Welcome to the boards! Everybody's been played to a certain extent. Love, career, etc. Learn from it.

I caught one of my exes cheating a long time ago and yes she got her just desserts because I knew the guy she was messing around with and he was a major player. So I said we're done and actually wished her good luck but it came as no surprise that she got player shortly after.

Thank you for answering to my post . I was worried that no one would. But I know we all get played in one way or another and we can only learn from it. It just gets difficult when you're not out there playing with any one just to fall into a douchebags hands.

You're welcome 🙂 It happens. You've just got to learn and move one. Focus on developing yourself in the meantime. The right person will come along when its time.

i have gotten played a few times and i just pick myself up, dust myself off and fall in love with someone else.
they get their due immediately because i cut them out completely.
btw, welcome.

Thank you for the welcome. Its nice to see that you guys are responding . Well being the sag that i am i know it will get better with time.

Hiya! I'm pretty new to these boards as well. It can be fun on here and there is quite a lot to read on relationships and stuff. Often it makes me think about my own stuff and see it from a different angle.

I have been played a long time ago. I forgave, I continued in the relationship, still giving my all, was played again and then just slowly cut him out of my life, until he realized he played it a bit too hard and was sorry for all and wanted to be back together yadayadayada, but I cut him out completely of my life. Still hope he has a nice life, I don't hate him, but you can only play me for so long. After that it's out the door and over. And most of the time I will have things worked out before the player realizes. I just keep working on it quietly in my head until I'm totally detached and then it's over as can be.

Yea by this scorp/sag cusper. I sent his ass packin!

i always seem to get played by the ones i fall in love with. fools rush in i guess

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i always seem to get played by the ones i fall in love with. fools rush in i guess

Thats what makes me feel stupid because i liked him from the first time i layed eyes on him. 😢

And never thought he was even interested.

I've gotten played by the love of my life, a Libra. Long distance relationship, only I didn't know he had someone else in his city. He dumped me after slowly cutting communication, it was devastating. He came back 5 months later, probably after he dumped the other woman and we got back together. The thing is once you see the same signs, you learn so when he started his disappear ing act, I let him go. Saggis fall hard for people we think could be a perfect fit and because we are so wide open, it is easy to play games with emotions.

I have to say that my problem is i just trust too easily and take peoples word for it. And no matter how many times i say never again I believe that I cant possibly the only one who comes with the truth right off the bat.I still want to believe in the good in people even when i get in those dark moods where humanity sickens me.

Glad I found this board. I am such a sucker. I should change my user name to SuckerSag. And like many of you I always say never again but somehow I fall into the same bull. Even my family manages to play me time and time again. Only way I can protect myself is to cut the offender out of my life. Some think I am being cruel but it's not that, I am preserving my sanity.

@Sagloveslove
I do the exact same thing..once i find out that the person i trusted is trying to play me for a fool--i cut them off real quick; it's like i erase any possible memory of them like they don't exist. I mean, its really hard in the beginning but then after awhile, you look back on all the bullcrap and go 'wow they lost a really good friend,gf,or bf because of something they chose to do'. At the end of the day, you didnt do anything wrong..they did.

My first bf was a Leo,and i was naive and in love with him-but he played me cuz i believed everything he said.
Now because of that, im a little bit of an asshole to the guys i like at first;like 'yeahh its going to take A LOT more than sweet words to impress me buddy so come up with something new'-then once i feel comfortable i change..i dont let them in on my nice side that easily.

Interesting thread...definitely a subject I think all Sags have to deal with at various points in time.

Here's the thing...it's almost a lose/lose for us. At least from my experience, it's all or nothing with a Sag. We don't get into relationships that don't do it for us. Problem is, we are somehow able to draw attraction fairly easily sometimes, and this can be a messy situation. People fall for us, and because we are so honest and simply don't commit to half-truths, we cannot force ourselves to feel the same way about them, no matter what. Has happened to me many times. Not meaning to hurt anyone of course, but it just happens. The problem is, you start to build a reputation as a "player", even when you perhaps haven't done anything to deserve it.

The flipside of that is, when we meet someone that "fits" us just right, its instant death. We're done. We can't un-love someone. Happened with one of my exes, my first real committed relationship. I fell in love with her the instant I saw her, and the more we were together the stronger it got. It was almost a scary feeling. It was quite beyond my control. Of course, being the only woman I ever really cared about more than anything else in life, she left me. She didn't trust me (how ironic), distance was an issue, she felt insecure in the relationship, lots of little issues. To this day, it still affects me, and has really changed the way I interact with women as a whole. Still haven't found anyone to replace her, but either way I'm enjoying my life. It's too short not to.

I guess the point is, either people fall for us and try to take us hostage, and of course we don't do that and get branded as a player, or we fall for someone and they eventually hurt us. I once read a great quote about this...something that the only ones that don't hurt us are the ones we don't love. Seemed correct.

Soo true @justa sag. That's where I find difficulty I have no problem attracting the problem is I dont attract good guys and then I'm seen as a bitch because I cut it off right at the beginning . I'm not for wasting anybodys time or money. But this last time it sucked because I thought I saw the qualities I'd been waiting for in this guy. So now its kicking myself in the ass for seeing what I wanted to see I guess. Back to abstinence again and see if I can beat my own record.

>>>I guess the point is, either people fall for us and try to take us hostage, and of course we don't do that and get branded as a player, or we fall for someone and they eventually hurt us.


THIS...has happened many times. It does feel like a lose/lose situation cuz i cant seem to figure out why this happens..Men seem to be attracted to me pretty easy, but i could say just one or two nice things just cuz im nice to everyone, and they go into this mode where they get almost obsessed(ive read that sags tend to do that to people-does this happen to anyone else?). That freaks me out, so i automatically distance myself and then they want to get mad. But i never say things i dont mean--so if i dont come out and tell u that i like u (and one way or another it will come out pretty fast), that means i dont like u in that way.
Then on the other hand, the men that i have liked way back when, i would believe everything they said because i figure that everyone else is just as honest with us like we are with them. Boy, was i wrong-there are a lot of people in the world who are deceitful to get their own way. That hasnt happened to me lately now because i learned my lesson. Ill say whatever i want, or do whatever i want until the man proves to me that hes not playing games, and is honest and really genuine. Ill do that for awhile, until im super sure of him-then ill start to change.

"Then on the other hand, the men that i have liked way back when, i would believe everything they said because i figure that everyone else is just as honest with us like we are with them. Boy, was i wrong-there are a lot of people in the world who are deceitful to get their own way."

i think that is the meanest thing. i hate when that happens. so evil...

Ohh man . To this day I find that I still take people's word for it . But the most awesome thing is when you say something to me it may seem that I dont really pay attention, But, sooner or later the liar tends to forget what they said but I dont . that's when they get themselves caught and I will not believe anything that comes out of that persons mouth ever again so in a sense I'm always around to see it come full circle. Without me having to do anything in retaliation. Which strengthens my belief in a higher power or karma . I will admit that I do feel a sense of satisfaction at that. Without having to degrade myself or my dignity.

But then I feel guilty for feeling satisfaction at them getting what they got. Cause I dont wish bad shit on no one .

Oh and then I'm still such a dumbass that if they ever ask me for help I will help them no matter how dirty they did me.

So I dont know proper grammar or punctuation I also write run on sentences.

Well...turns out i got played today.

When will i ever find a guy whos really genuine?

sorry to hear that galactic. I guess just give yourself time and lets see what happens. its fucking hard I know but hell when you really think about it there is still a whole shit load of life to live and you never know , you might be standing in line somewhere and you just might meet the one. I know im a thirsty ass but not THAT thirsty. I wish I could go out there and fuck but Im too moralistic . That is no offense to any of you that do go out there. I dont hate. But me personaly I cant. And everevolving no worries lol . As long as you get my point.

@Lonesag80

yea i get what ur saying..i dont do hook ups or anything like that. ive only been in 2 serious relationships and in between that i would talk to guys..but it never went passed that because i know what i like in a guy. Its VERY rare that i find a guy that has mostly everything im looking for..if i dont find him, im usually out with friends partying, and getting drunk.lol.

Thats good that you keep busy. I had gone 2 years abstaining and when I was finally in a good place this guy found me and fucked me up again and so this thread got created. Which helped me to vent. I guess either I'm impatient or I don't know what it is about me but I finally had layed it out on the table what I was looking for and he was uncomfortable with that. So it was time for me to retreat and lick my wounds and start again. I guess everything happens for a reason. You win some ,you learn some. But its so hard to keep the hope up when you keep finding people who are scared and are out there to venge themselves upon the opposite sex yet they venge themselves on the one's who would never seek to hurt them. We all have to understand that we have all been hurt in one way or another and knowing this not going and inflicting hurt on others because we know hurt all too well ourselves.

But its so hard to keep the hope up when you keep finding people who are scared and are out there to venge themselves upon the opposite sex yet they venge themselves on the one's who would never seek to hurt them.

>>>sooo true..we have all been hurt, but i guess there are ppl who just cant let that go and they end up hurting others that wouldnt do that, basically being selfish i think. i kno when i was younger i use to really take delight in seeing someone who hurt me get what they deserve. Now, im just like 'ok u can get out of my life completely now'--im just done. Getting mad about it doesnt fix anything for me. So i try and block it out and try to learn my lesson from it...i do get sad at times,but i dont let the other person kno that. I just keep telling myself that i need to make sure it doesnt happen again.