Come back?

Ok I posted that long ass post about experience with a sag... In short we broke up about a month ago... I haven't had contact in 2 weeks and 2 days... He did MSG me last Sunday just to say he hopes I'm doing well... I didn't reply cuz I was scared of being back in the state of longing for him again....

So question... If a sag is ignored... Does that make y'all miss the other person or does it have an opposite reaction? If he reaches out again ... Should I respond?

Thanks kalin... When I broke up with him before he didn't keep texting as if nothing has happened. He'll find excuses to come over then try to seduce me lol

This time he's the one that ended the relationship so he's not texting me daily ... Today isn't a good day... I miss him 😢

You could've replied back last week but you chose otherwise. Now you're missing him. The opportunity to patch things up quicker and beginning things anew was list under the guise of "making him earn you" by him not being easily discouraged. Simply put, you're letting your ego get in the way after you said that both of you were responsible for the break up in the initial thread. He's given you a couple of opportunities by your count. So why should he chase you when you're equally responsible? You're worth it you say? So is he since you miss him.

If you like drama and are used to fighting and pain, then continue on because this is the recipe for it. He sees that and since we believe that love is supposed to be peaceful, we will keep our distance. That's guaranteed. It's simple really. If you want him back or want to be true friends, you have to drop the "usual men are suppose to chase and earn you back" routine and meet him halfway. Don't let your emotions cloud your judgement.

Beautiful... I know... I thought I can move on and not really look back just today is such a bad day... I haven't reached out though... I don't know what to say... I just felt like I reached out enough. I pleaded and begged him to give me another chance so I figure if he wants to give me a chance he will reach out to me.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
You could've replied back last week but you chose otherwise. Now you're missing him. The opportunity to patch things up quicker and beginning things anew was list under the guise of "making him earn you" by him not being easily discouraged. Simply put, you're letting your ego get in the way after you said that both of you were responsible for the break up in the initial thread. He's given you a couple of opportunities by your count. So why should he chase you when you're equally responsible? You're worth it you say? So is he since you miss him.

If you like drama and are used to fighting and pain, then continue on because this is the recipe for it. He sees that and since we believe that love is supposed to be peaceful, we will keep our distance. That's guaranteed. It's simple really. If you want him back or want to be true friends, you have to drop the "usual men are suppose to chase and earn you back" routine and meet him halfway. Don't let your emotions cloud your judgement.

+100. Well written.

Posted by Cancerbabe
Beautiful... I know... I thought I can move on and not really look back just today is such a bad day... I haven't reached out though... I don't know what to say... I just felt like I reached out enough. I pleaded and begged him to give me another chance so I figure if he wants to give me a chance he will reach out to me.

A simple "I am fine. How are you?" will suffice. No need to make this more complicated than it needs to be. If that is too much for you, then don't respond. Take the time you need to deal with your emotions. However, if he no longer reaches out, don't jump into this whole "I guess he never really cared about me" frame of mind. You had a role to play with that. You have the opportunity to grow up, meet him half way and let go of the manipulations and drama...or not. Your call. You're clearly still hurt and feel he needs to make something up by what you've written above. It looks like you need to let this one go.

I know he cares about me and I never said he didn't... He plays these games with me before where he'd ignore me for weeks and then get mad when I start to move on and not contact him no more... Guess I'm just wishing that he hasn't changed and eventually come back... Is this a sag trait? Is it a man trait?

@cancerbabe.: he cares or he wouldn't have sent the text. But how you respond or the choice to respond is up to you not him. Are you sure its a game? I've been through this exact situation myself, so I have a little insight.

It's not even about him being a man or a Sag, its about right and wrong. You discount his feelings by ignoring him fir doing the same to you. I'm sorry but both of you are adults. Why treat him like a child? You can't fight fire with fire and expect the same results. He hasn't responded because he senses that you haven't gotten past what had happened. He will not come around until you show him that you are ready. Him texting was a perfect opportunity show him just that. If you want to be friends, demonstrate that by responding to his texts like Phoenix Rising said. It is SO simple for us. If you responded with a simple hello, it's starts a conversation and the healing process because it is inviting and positive. Then you can discuss how you two can move forward.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
You could've replied back last week but you chose otherwise. Now you're missing him. The opportunity to patch things up quicker and beginning things anew was list under the guise of "making him earn you" by him not being easily discouraged. Simply put, you're letting your ego get in the way after you said that both of you were responsible for the break up in the initial thread. He's given you a couple of opportunities by your count. So why should he chase you when you're equally responsible? You're worth it you say? So is he since you miss him.

If you like drama and are used to fighting and pain, then continue on because this is the recipe for it. He sees that and since we believe that love is supposed to be peaceful, we will keep our distance. That's guaranteed. It's simple really. If you want him back or want to be true friends, you have to drop the "usual men are suppose to chase and earn you back" routine and meet him halfway. Don't let your emotions cloud your judgement.

+100. Well written.

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Thank you PR. How have you been my dear? Gotta show love and respect to the Scorps

Beautiful ... You're absolutely right... I don't wanna play these games... I'm s cancer.. I'm emotional. I have my heart in my sleeves and want to bare my heart and soul to him... But I've noticed that he didn't respond to that. He responded when I acted like I didn't care. I know this is messed up. I just don't know how to be now. My heart just can't let him go. 😢

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by beautifulsoul74
You could've replied back last week but you chose otherwise. Now you're missing him. The opportunity to patch things up quicker and beginning things anew was list under the guise of "making him earn you" by him not being easily discouraged. Simply put, you're letting your ego get in the way after you said that both of you were responsible for the break up in the initial thread. He's given you a couple of opportunities by your count. So why should he chase you when you're equally responsible? You're worth it you say? So is he since you miss him.

If you like drama and are used to fighting and pain, then continue on because this is the recipe for it. He sees that and since we believe that love is supposed to be peaceful, we will keep our distance. That's guaranteed. It's simple really. If you want him back or want to be true friends, you have to drop the "usual men are suppose to chase and earn you back" routine and meet him halfway. Don't let your emotions cloud your judgement.

+100. Well written.

Thank you PR. How have you been my dear? Gotta show love and respect to the Scorps

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My mind is mush, but it's getting better. I just need some alone time.

^^^^^ How are you doing beautiful?

Posted by Cancerbabe
Beautiful ... You're absolutely right... I don't wanna play these games... I'm s cancer.. I'm emotional. I have my heart in my sleeves and want to bare my heart and soul to him... But I've noticed that he didn't respond to that. He responded when I acted like I didn't care. I know this is messed up. I just don't know how to be now. My heart just can't let him go. 😢

I understand. It may be difficult but you have to try to keep your emotions in check. Him responding when you act like you didn't care may have been him interpreting things as having calmed down. It takes time. You can make it.

Posted by PhoenixRising
^^^^^ How are you doing beautiful?

My mind is mush too lol. I'm doing well and thanks for asking! What have you been up to?

No he won't come back. You are getting on his nerves. Sorry, its the truth.
Cancers and sags don't fit together.

Posted by EISREGEN
No he won't come back. You are getting on his nerves. Sorry, its the truth.
Cancers and sags don't fit together.

rofl

Thanks