I Need To Be Honest...

I'm having trouble being " Offical" with New Scorp.

It's been like only 3 days lol

Last night he came over and I didn't even really want him there. I barely talked to him or looked at him. Everything he did was annoying me and he wasn't even doing anything. I told him to not spend the night and go home.

ugh 😢


I wish I had stronger feelings by now. Like I like him, I do but when I think long term I don't see anything. He is more emotional healthy than me and I don't think I can deal with it.


Ex scorpio reminded me so much of my mom. Which is why I think " loved him or was in love " with him so hard. He was very mothering to me.


WHICH I KNOW GOD IS SO UNHEALTHY!! LOL. It was horrible for our relationship but the younger part of me loved it 😛


I really need to get over that stuff but I'm having trouble 😢


Thanks for the rant lol

i think its your sagginess. sometime us saggos have no idea what to do with someone outside of the bedroom, at least thats my problem.

i just have no clue what one does in a relationship. how many times should i call, when do i start buying gifts, etc. i really need to be led. someone else take the wheel.

i had a libra come over last night and everything he did annoyed the sheer fuck outta me and i tried my hardest to not be a bitch. it helps me to think of the person as a "friend." then i can just be buddy buddy with them. also, im not as gung ho with the libra because my thoughts are elsewhere. i havent even slept with him. when im not into someone, i dont even think about sex with that person.

Posted by DMV
i think its your sagginess. sometime us saggos have no idea what to do with someone outside of the bedroom, at least thats my problem.

i just have no clue what one does in a relationship. how many times should i call, when do i start buying gifts, etc. i really need to be led. someone else take the wheel.

i had a libra come over last night and everything he did annoyed the sheer fuck outta me and i tried my hardest to not be a bitch. it helps me to think of the person as a "friend." then i can just be buddy buddy with them. also, im not as gung ho with the libra because my thoughts are elsewhere. i havent even slept with him. when im not into someone, i dont even think about sex with that person.

Exactly! But than I resent them for leading me at times lol or I get lost in the relationship Idk it's confusing!! Who is this libra?

You guys are totally opposite of me. I have said before I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I tend to jump into relationships as fast as a plane can get you from point A to point B!
Slowing my pace a bit, I see your dilema.
If you do not see yourself with this man down the road, that is prob why you are just not "feeling" it. Does that make sense.
If you try the friend to friend aspect like DMV maybe what you feel will grow. 🙂

i had met this libra with a venus in scorp a few years ago. he was always doing the disappearing act. and i allowed it. i moved away and allowed myself to lose touch with him. only to bump into him when i chose to dry a new way home.

i was supposed to make dinner for him and AGAIN, he decided to leave town without telling me. so i have a different approach with him. no sex. i want to see how serious he is. and ive told him that i have to get to know him all over again. i wont be so quick to jump back into things.

my new approach to him has, ironically, got him to get his shit together. he wants to show and prove to me thats he's a good choice.

honestly, im not feelin him and i would just want to have him as a friend. although he wants more. im thinking if i sleep with him, he will become a ghost. which wouldnt be a bad thing. its his usual MO.

air signs...u pay them no mind, theyre all over ya.

give it some time saggi pooh. you are in that grey area where a sag gets wierd about being "offical." even writing it, give me the shivers lol.

i tell dudes to not use the following words:

1.) commitment
2.) official
3.) girlfriend
4.) couple
5.) relationship
6.) together

I know full well that i am in a relationship, but i dont need to be constantly reminded. its like being placed in a sweat box when id rather have an invisible force field. i need to be tricked into a relationsip. like IT just happens. no convos. shit freaks me out.

maybe i'm a weird sag....if i like someone, i want a relationship.

but, if i am unsure, then i don't want to be tied down. but, then again, if i am unsure, i generally just stick to being friends.

Posted by DMV
give it some time saggi pooh. you are in that grey area where a sag gets wierd about being "offical." even writing it, give me the shivers lol.

i tell dudes to not use the following words:

1.) commitment
2.) official
3.) girlfriend
4.) couple
5.) relationship
6.) together

I know full well that i am in a relationship, but i dont need to be constantly reminded. its like being placed in a sweat box when id rather have an invisible force field. i need to be tricked into a relationsip. like IT just happens. no convos. shit freaks me out.

EXACTLY!!! You know what I was thinking is that we didn't really have that talk like

" What does being a girlfriend mean to you ? "

I know people assume but it's safe to think everyones ideas are different no?

Maybe I should ask him so I can get a straight solid idea.

Posted by littlearcher
maybe i'm a weird sag....if i like someone, i want a relationship.

but, if i am unsure, then i don't want to be tied down. but, then again, if i am unsure, i generally just stick to being friends.

No I'm sure thats how normal people do it lol

Posted by DMV
i had met this libra with a venus in scorp a few years ago. he was always doing the disappearing act. and i allowed it. i moved away and allowed myself to lose touch with him. only to bump into him when i chose to dry a new way home.

i was supposed to make dinner for him and AGAIN, he decided to leave town without telling me. so i have a different approach with him. no sex. i want to see how serious he is. and ive told him that i have to get to know him all over again. i wont be so quick to jump back into things.

my new approach to him has, ironically, got him to get his shit together. he wants to show and prove to me thats he's a good choice.

honestly, im not feelin him and i would just want to have him as a friend. although he wants more. im thinking if i sleep with him, he will become a ghost. which wouldnt be a bad thing. its his usual MO.

air signs...u pay them no mind, theyre all over ya.

Get yourself that libra! 😛

God I love air signs.

Way to kick is butt too

Posted by NikkiMse1978
You guys are totally opposite of me. I have said before I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I tend to jump into relationships as fast as a plane can get you from point A to point B!
Slowing my pace a bit, I see your dilema.
If you do not see yourself with this man down the road, that is prob why you are just not "feeling" it. Does that make sense.
If you try the friend to friend aspect like DMV maybe what you feel will grow. 🙂

Thanks nik,

Yea maybe the friend mind set will help.

He has a pisces moon like you 🙂 Can you offer in any insight to what thats like? lol

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by NikkiMse1978
You guys are totally opposite of me. I have said before I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I tend to jump into relationships as fast as a plane can get you from point A to point B!
Slowing my pace a bit, I see your dilema.
If you do not see yourself with this man down the road, that is prob why you are just not "feeling" it. Does that make sense.
If you try the friend to friend aspect like DMV maybe what you feel will grow. 🙂

Thanks nik,

Yea maybe the friend mind set will help.

He has a pisces moon like you 🙂 Can you offer in any insight to what thats like? lol

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Friends first....Ive learned that the hard way time and time again, by not being their friend and then they are gone! Building like bricks to a house, slowly, should do the trick. 🙂
Having a moon in Pisces is a wild ride! I am up on love one minute and down the next. I think to much about the negative, which makes my heart race and my palms sweat. I "worry" too much about everything. LOL. When I like someone I like them with avengance and I am called "crazy" most of the time because I say what I feel, when I feel it. Whether I am mad, sad, pissed, happy, down, bouncy, fiesty, sexy, passionate and the all the rest in between!
I love deep, cry hard, yell loud and kiss softly 🙂
How is that— 🙂

Posted by NikkiMse1978

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by NikkiMse1978
You guys are totally opposite of me. I have said before I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I tend to jump into relationships as fast as a plane can get you from point A to point B!
Slowing my pace a bit, I see your dilema.
If you do not see yourself with this man down the road, that is prob why you are just not "feeling" it. Does that make sense.
If you try the friend to friend aspect like DMV maybe what you feel will grow. 🙂

Thanks nik,

Yea maybe the friend mind set will help.

He has a pisces moon like you 🙂 Can you offer in any insight to what thats like? lol

Friends first....Ive learned that the hard way time and time again, by not being their friend and then they are gone! Building like bricks to a house, slowly, should do the trick. 🙂
Having a moon in Pisces is a wild ride! I am up on love one minute and down the next. I think to much about the negative, which makes my heart race and my palms sweat. I "worry" too much about everything. LOL. When I like someone I like them with avengance and I am called "crazy" most of the time because I say what I feel, when I feel it. Whether I am mad, sad, pissed, happy, down, bouncy, fiesty, sexy, passionate and the all the rest in between!
I love deep, cry hard, yell loud and kiss softly 🙂
How is that— 🙂

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Thanks nik!

Haha yes it was! So I guess you'd say it's an all over the place moon? Like how do you feel loved and stuff? You know what I mean.

Posted by beccy
take what you need and leave when you feel trapped....

you soon will feel this way, I guess.

Don't worry about him, he'll get over it. or he doesn't but thats not your problem.

don't let him force you to do things you don't want. because, sooner or later,
you will explode.

and then it gets really ugly....

I don't really feel trapped.

I'm just unaware of what he wants out of the relationship.

So I'm gonna ask him what it means for him to be in a relationship/have a girlfriend.

If I can't fit than standards than I'll say lets just be friends.

Posted by DeadRingerr
Its a sex thing then...

Maybe?

great sex does not keep me in a relationship...

whats your mars sign?

you need someone with a venus in air. imo

this libra does some questionable things that give me pause

@Sag89 give it a chance 😢 I'm rooting for you...Maybe it's just a little tweaking and adjusting that needs to be done.

See I'm weird too lol. I have no problem being in a relationship. As a matter of fact I love it! But...don't tell me what to wear, or with whom I can hang. Don't ask me where I'm going or why I'm wearing a certain perfume or extra mascara. Ummm...yeah. If I'm going to be with you that evening, don't call me during the day besides to confirm. I don't want to talk to you all day, then see you all night too. (Is that wrong?) Like when I sort of lived with my daughter's dad, I'd leave my cell off during the day. He finally learned not to call me like he did. He was a Sag too...

All that to say, try little adjsutments and see if you feel better. Also, you're right to find out exactly what his expectations are.

Posted by DMV
this libra does some questionable things that give me pause

That disappearing act nonsense should give you pause lol. Put the squeeze on that dude. Make him grovel lol.

Posted by Mebs

Posted by DMV
this libra does some questionable things that give me pause

That disappearing act nonsense should give you pause lol. Put the squeeze on that dude. Make him grovel lol.

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oh believe me, i am going to have him running my bath water

Posted by Mebs
@Sag89 give it a chance 😢 I'm rooting for you...Maybe it's just a little tweaking and adjusting that needs to be done.

See I'm weird too lol. I have no problem being in a relationship. As a matter of fact I love it! But...don't tell me what to wear, or with whom I can hang. Don't ask me where I'm going or why I'm wearing a certain perfume or extra mascara. Ummm...yeah. If I'm going to be with you that evening, don't call me during the day besides to confirm. I don't want to talk to you all day, then see you all night too. (Is that wrong?) Like when I sort of lived with my daughter's dad, I'd leave my cell off during the day. He finally learned not to call me like he did. He was a Sag too...

All that to say, try little adjsutments and see if you feel better. Also, you're right to find out exactly what his expectations are.

Thanks mebs 🙂

Yea thats exactly what I'm gonna try to do and see whats up. Wow married to another sag? What was that like?

Posted by DMV
whats your mars sign?

you need someone with a venus in air. imo

Mars scorpio

Venus in Aqua

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by DMV
whats your mars sign?

you need someone with a venus in air. imo

Mars scorpio

Venus in Aqua

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oh wow...what a conumdrum....i had a cap with those same placements. conflicted to say the least

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by Mebs
@Sag89 give it a chance 😢 I'm rooting for you...Maybe it's just a little tweaking and adjusting that needs to be done.

See I'm weird too lol. I have no problem being in a relationship. As a matter of fact I love it! But...don't tell me what to wear, or with whom I can hang. Don't ask me where I'm going or why I'm wearing a certain perfume or extra mascara. Ummm...yeah. If I'm going to be with you that evening, don't call me during the day besides to confirm. I don't want to talk to you all day, then see you all night too. (Is that wrong?) Like when I sort of lived with my daughter's dad, I'd leave my cell off during the day. He finally learned not to call me like he did. He was a Sag too...

All that to say, try little adjsutments and see if you feel better. Also, you're right to find out exactly what his expectations are.

Thanks mebs 🙂

Yea thats exactly what I'm gonna try to do and see whats up. Wow married to another sag? What was that like?

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It's funny, I've never even looked up his placements. He was sun- sag, moon-cap, venus-scorp lol. I guess that's why he was so smothering. And he would go through my things. He was a constant chatterbox lol. TBH, towards the end, I resented him so much, it was hard to notice his better qualities 😢

3 days and you're asking these types of questions?

bitches are crazy.

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Posted by NikkiMse1978

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Posted by NikkiMse1978
You guys are totally opposite of me. I have said before I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I tend to jump into relationships as fast as a plane can get you from point A to point B!
Slowing my pace a bit, I see your dilema.
If you do not see yourself with this man down the road, that is prob why you are just not "feeling" it. Does that make sense.
If you try the friend to friend aspect like DMV maybe what you feel will grow. 🙂

Thanks nik,

Yea maybe the friend mind set will help.

He has a pisces moon like you 🙂 Can you offer in any insight to what thats like? lol

Friends first....Ive learned that the hard way time and time again, by not being their friend and then they are gone! Building like bricks to a house, slowly, should do the trick. 🙂
Having a moon in Pisces is a wild ride! I am up on love one minute and down the next. I think to much about the negative, which makes my heart race and my palms sweat. I "worry" too much about everything. LOL. When I like someone I like them with avengance and I am called "crazy" most of the time because I say what I feel, when I feel it. Whether I am mad, sad, pissed, happy, down, bouncy, fiesty, sexy, passionate and the all the rest in between!
I love deep, cry hard, yell loud and kiss softly 🙂
How is that— 🙂

Thanks nik!

Haha yes it was! So I guess you'd say it's an all over the place moon? Like how do you feel loved and stuff? You know what I mean.

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i have a pisces moon too and that sounds so much like me!!!! nice to know i'm not alone

Posted by caligula
3 days and you're asking these types of questions?

bitches are crazy.

LOL! It's true I really am

Posted by littlearcher

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Posted by NikkiMse1978

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by NikkiMse1978
You guys are totally opposite of me. I have said before I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I tend to jump into relationships as fast as a plane can get you from point A to point B!
Slowing my pace a bit, I see your dilema.
If you do not see yourself with this man down the road, that is prob why you are just not "feeling" it. Does that make sense.
If you try the friend to friend aspect like DMV maybe what you feel will grow. 🙂

Thanks nik,

Yea maybe the friend mind set will help.

He has a pisces moon like you 🙂 Can you offer in any insight to what thats like? lol

Friends first....Ive learned that the hard way time and time again, by not being their friend and then they are gone! Building like bricks to a house, slowly, should do the trick. 🙂
Having a moon in Pisces is a wild ride! I am up on love one minute and down the next. I think to much about the negative, which makes my heart race and my palms sweat. I "worry" too much about everything. LOL. When I like someone I like them with avengance and I am called "crazy" most of the time because I say what I feel, when I feel it. Whether I am mad, sad, pissed, happy, down, bouncy, fiesty, sexy, passionate and the all the rest in between!
I love deep, cry hard, yell loud and kiss softly 🙂
How is that— 🙂

Thanks nik!

Haha yes it was! So I guess you'd say it's an all over the place moon? Like how do you feel loved and stuff? You know what I mean.

i have a pisces moon too and that sounds so much like me!!!! nice to know i'm not alone

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What can you add about it?

Posted by DMV

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by DMV
whats your mars sign?

you need someone with a venus in air. imo

Mars scorpio

Venus in Aqua

oh wow...what a conumdrum....i had a cap with those same placements. conflicted to say the least

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It's very!! It sucks

Posted by Mebs

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by Mebs
@Sag89 give it a chance 😢 I'm rooting for you...Maybe it's just a little tweaking and adjusting that needs to be done.

See I'm weird too lol. I have no problem being in a relationship. As a matter of fact I love it! But...don't tell me what to wear, or with whom I can hang. Don't ask me where I'm going or why I'm wearing a certain perfume or extra mascara. Ummm...yeah. If I'm going to be with you that evening, don't call me during the day besides to confirm. I don't want to talk to you all day, then see you all night too. (Is that wrong?) Like when I sort of lived with my daughter's dad, I'd leave my cell off during the day. He finally learned not to call me like he did. He was a Sag too...

All that to say, try little adjsutments and see if you feel better. Also, you're right to find out exactly what his expectations are.

Thanks mebs 🙂

Yea thats exactly what I'm gonna try to do and see whats up. Wow married to another sag? What was that like?

It's funny, I've never even looked up his placements. He was sun- sag, moon-cap, venus-scorp lol. I guess that's why he was so smothering. And he would go through my things. He was a constant chatterbox lol. TBH, towards the end, I resented him so much, it was hard to notice his better qualities 😢

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Huh maybe it was the venus that over took the other parts.

sag89...i'm not sure what characteristics come from what part of my chart...i'm a sagittarius with a scorpio rising and a pisces moon....

i feel like i'm an idealist and a dreamer. quick to fall in love, fast and hard. loyal. but, really moody and scared of being hurt. tend to lash out. temper flares quick but i'm over it fast too. have a sharp tongue. too honest. put my foot in my mouth all the time. long for closeness and connection...and am able to really go deep when there is trust but i run away if i am scared or fear the other person doesn't feel the same...