my sagi girl friends borrowed money...

my sagi girl friends borrowed couple of thousand dollars from me few months back. gave me bunch of bs excuses and i felt bad for her and now i really need the money back. i'm amazed and concerned that for the past few weeks i can't get her to return any of my phone calls, emails and etc. like she's ignoring me. i don't know what to do. and what hursts the most is that we've been friends for years and helped each other through difficult times. wish she'd get back to me and i would be glad to forgive. any suggestions what to do and how to approach this situation?

not sure never barrowed money to a sagg,
but i dont like to barrow money in general,

don't like to borrow or lend money. i did twice to my sagi girl friend and once to a scorp guy friend and they both are screwing me right now. if owe a penny i try to give it back right away. i'm very responsible and hate owning but some ppl have no care

yup thats why i dont like to barrow,and if i do they better be prepared to hear lots of shit talking first and later....i have no problem barrownig 20, 50, 100 bucks, its no biggie, but bigger money i dont want to
if they are that bad with money that they cant turn to family to barrow anymore and have to seek help from friends, puts me on edge,
i work hard so i dont have to barrow money from ppl , why cant you?

me? i'm the one who landed them money. i work hard for my money and make sure i don't borrow from anyone!

no no i wasnt talking about you

i was referring to the moochers , the ppl who barrow money :-)

oh ok🙂 sorry. i'll never do it again for anyone! i feel horrible about it!

if people lead money to someone that needs money.....well they were in a bine before you lent them the money. what make pple think they will be able to bounce back that easy. their already in the whole now their just in a bigger one.

i know most sagg's are barrowers and not repayers....

If i lend money to someone i am prepared to never see it again. I don't lend, i give and when you do that you will be repayed 3times as much. maybe not by this person but by someone else.

by the way....i would love to help you out ariesgirl! i wish i had some extra money to give. 😢

thank you for support! she's been my friend for years. i pretty much saved her from foreclosure on her house. i felt bad for her son and dog. some ppl have no shame.

you will never see that money, and your friendship will never be the same, sorry
and they say aries are selfish...maybe a little emotionally but sags are 3 times worse

so sad and broke ;( sagi's are very flakey comparing to aries

I leant a couple hundred to sag friend once. Let's just say I'm very happy I didn't lend her a couple thousand she needed to pay off her credit card debt she racked up going to Disney Land...

Not just sag's, but anyone in general. It's nice to help people out but sometimes you gotta let them realize they got themselves into that situation.

Scorpios, Libras, Virgo's. Leant to them too and they aren't too quick on paying back. One of my Virgo friends is really good with paying back though and he's got 2 daughters to worry about on his own. The others are just slackers.

Aries girl, you may not get it back - SORRY !

Plus it's a lot of money ! comes between friendships, etc...don't be so naive next time...

Aries gets conned by friends and family members a lot more than other signs from experience ! 😢

The only sign I would lend money to would be Taurus ! Others, NO EFFING WAY !

pro rata temporis
Ask her for giving it back in small portions. Either monthly or a few hunderts every now and then. Tell her you do it for its pedagogical value.

well there you have it ! only borrow money to Sags if you know what that means !

hehe - but likebrad makes some points though, sometimes borrowing money's enabling friends/family sink further and avoid reality - it's a quick temp fix for the most part - look at the world ECONOMY !

"gave me bunch of bs excuses and i felt bad for her"

"i pretty much saved her from foreclosure on her house"


What? So, is it safe to assume that you would say bs excuses now since you're upset .. when in reality, her reason wasn't a bullshit one at all if it was to pay her mortgage?

If you recongized, what you considered bullshit, and lent anyway .. then who really in this scenerio needs a reality check?

I know you're lying, and I'm going to follow you anyway?

Who really does things like that ^^^^

Alas, it's because you felt bad for her kids and dog ... so, if you knew her excuses were lame, and bullshit, and you gave her money anyway .. then you should have enough awareness in reality to realize that you also gave out of charity.

You should also realize the very point in which SageTree said, which is your answer to this equation ..... her financial bind is in such dire straights that she cannot pay her mortgage. A house over her childrens head takes priority over you.

If she doesn't have money to pay her mortgage, then what makes you think she has money to pay you?

You would recognize for purpose of saying in here that your friend is broke and in financial trouble .... then turn around and bitch about her not paying her bill to you.

Reality check on your end is in order ... this woman is broke.

Can you comprehend that ^^^^^^^ can you get past your desire to have this money back and fully comprehend what broke means?

The money is gone ...


Another thing you have to realize here .... if she is this broke, that her house was moving into forclosure, then she is STILL in financial dire straits.

A mortgage can be in default for 10 months before it moves into forclosure .. so, if she needed this money to save her house, then it is logical to assume that she is still at least 8 months in default of her note.

yes, you're right. i'm a total sucker. life lesson well learned

Not really .. not if the lesson is focused around greed.

Your friend is in more serious trouble than just the few bucks of yours, and there are innocents involved, who are helpless and defenseless against the greed of adults, who only think in terms that revolve around the self.

true. but she has responsibilities and she should be able to take care of herself. she managed to screw up a good friendship over her unability to see what's important and what's not.

Perhaps, she didn't view the friendship as important .. in which case, how has she screwed up anything worth value to her?

My point is .. to you, you should be important to her. Perhaps, to her, you're not.

So, if this is the case, then she hasn't screwed herself up at all, rather, is 2 grand further out of the hole.


People cannot be held to your circumstances and principals. Only to their own. So, for this reason, if you give, you do so for charity because you will never be as important than her, to her.

It's sort of like .. you feel like you are important to you, right?
Well, she feels like she is more important to her, than you are to her.

So, there you have it. How she views this has to be different, than how you view it because you are two different people, and people are inherently selfish. That's just the nature of the beast who conscience is driven by ego.


I'm sure from her perspective, ariesgirl, she is taking care of herself and her family .. that's why she got 2 grand from you >> to take care of her responsibilities to what is important to her, which is her.

Moral to the story .. don't give anything to a person with any kind of expectation back, or you'll be disappointed when they don't deliver.

Let's just say I've had really bad experiences lending money to Air and Fire signs. The ones I know would be busy gambling what little they have on football trying to win some money before they pay you back even though they have no real job to make that money back if they lose on football.

Earth and Water signs have been much better with working with their money and paying me back.

didnt you loan money to an aqua before? I thought you would have learned your lesson by now.

i also loan a sag friend 20 dollars and she never paid me back...i didnt bug her about it either because i figure if i could afford to loan it to her then i shouldnt expect it back....i was short 5 dollars cash and she loaned it to me...she hound me constantly about $ 5.00...i however never gave it back to her either......but when you get into the thousands I would take her @ss to court.

There's no fool like an old fool ... so just make sure you don't become an old fool.



That's ^^^^ your lesson in this. It was never about money, you just think it was because money was the learning tool.