Never dated a Sag male

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I met a sag male over a month and things have been going well so far. We didn't really kiss till the 3rd date and he seemed to just take things slowly with me which was refreshing compared to all the douche bags I have dated in the past. We have fun together and def. have a connection and very attracted to each other. Week 3 he introduced me to his family at a pig roast. We saw each other maybe once/ twice a week and contact is few and far between. On the way to the party where his family was, he asked me how he was supposed to introduce me and asked if I was dating anyone else. I told him I wasn't and that I really liked him and he said the same thing. He brought up calling me his girlfriend but I got shy about it, it was an awkward conversation at the time, and just smiled.

Anyways, we haven't seen each other a whole lot because he was sick last week, he started up with fantasy football too. Which is fine, BUT I think times where we don't see each other a lot, I wish he would reach out to me more. I feel like I contact him first a lot more than he does although he always responds pretty quickly. I didn't see him at all last weekend because of fantasy football drafts and I had family stuff yesterday. I didn't hear a word from him all day yesterday and today. I feel like the interest is dropping already although just Friday he told me he had a surprise for me and got me a gift. He seems very interested when we are together but in between I don't hear much from him. We are supposed to go to a baseball game Wed. evening and I am not sure if I should bring any of this up. We only live like 5 min from each other and I would just think he would want to hang out more? I just don't want to seem needy but he is the one who mentioned exclusitivity, and brought me around his family and I hardly hear from him unless I shoot him a quick text. I thought he wanted this to progress and I think seeing each other only once a week and not much contact in between is not substantial to progressing. I don't know. Maybe I am being needy. I am a Sag too but can't really figure him out. Any help from some Sag guys? We are both 35, in fact I am only 14 days older than he is.
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Posted by newlife7
I met a sag male over a month and things have been going well so far. We didn't really kiss till the 3rd date and he seemed to just take things slowly with me which was refreshing compared to all the douche bags I have dated in the past. We have fun together and def. have a connection and very attracted to each other. Week 3 he introduced me to his family at a pig roast. We saw each other maybe once/ twice a week and contact is few and far between. On the way to the party where his family was, he asked me how he was supposed to introduce me and asked if I was dating anyone else. I told him I wasn't and that I really liked him and he said the same thing. He brought up calling me his girlfriend but I got shy about it, it was an awkward conversation at the time, and just smiled.

Anyways, we haven't seen each other a whole lot because he was sick last week, he started up with fantasy football too. Which is fine, BUT I think times where we don't see each other a lot, I wish he would reach out to me more. I feel like I contact him first a lot more than he does although he always responds pretty quickly. I didn't see him at all last weekend because of fantasy football drafts and I had family stuff yesterday. I didn't hear a word from him all day yesterday and today. I feel like the interest is dropping already although just Friday he told me he had a surprise for me and got me a gift. He seems very interested when we are together but in between I don't hear much from him. We are supposed to go to a baseball game Wed. evening and I am not sure if I should bring any of this up. We only live like 5 min from each other and I would just think he would want to hang out more? I just don't want to seem needy but he is the one who mentioned exclusitivity, and brought me around his family and I hardly hear from him unless I shoot him a quick text. I thought he wanted this to progress and I think seeing each other only once a week and not much contact in between is not substantial to progressing. I don't know. Maybe I am being needy. I am a Sag too but can't really figure him out. Any help from some Sag guys? We are both 35, in fact I am only 14 days older than he is.
I don't think he's too interested, but you've only been seeing each other "over a month" I think you are both moving too fast and need to get a better feel for each other.
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Posted by KittenLaRouge
don't waste your time. if your frustrated now, this will go on and on. sag males are great friends but don't give them your heart because they are highly narcisstic and they will not take care of your heart trust me. they really don't care. friends only.
That is not true, my grandparents are/were a Sag couple, and they loved each other til the day my grandfather died. They lasted through tough financial times, and I never saw them together without being happy. Stick that in your pipe and smoke it 🙂
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I love sag on sag. Id relax a bit and just enjoy yourselves. When youre at the baseball game, id just be like "I really enjoy spending time with you, cant wait to spend more time with you."

thats that.

then, I want you to start planning some fun activites. Get him excited. I think, he may find other things a b it more stimulating.

dont for the love of everything good, say, I want this or I want that, you should, we should. None of those types of words.
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I am trying. We are going to a really fun concert in a couple weeks. We both love music. I also planned a bike riding trip to a brewery and he always says he is excited to see me. He invited me along for a wedding in a couple weeks too for one of his good friends. I saw that as a good sign but maybe things are just off this week or something. Who knows. But yeah, I will just try and keep it light for now.
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Can anybody give me some insight into his chart? Just curious. I did text him yesterday asking if he could be at my house at a certain time to head out for the game and he replied saying it sounded great and that he was excited! I was going to bring things up tomorrow but I think I will just see how he acts towards me and just have fun. If he acts weird or doesn't want to stay the night for some reason, should I bring it up? Or just let it go?

Sun Sagittarius 26.13
Moon Sagittarius 18.36
Mercury Sagittarius 8.21
Venus Capricorn 25.02
Mars Virgo 10.54
Jupiter Virgo 10.09
Saturn Virgo 26.41
Uranus Scorpio 23.22
Neptune Sagittarius 20.27
Pluto Libra 21.24
Lilith Virgo 18.01
Asc node Virgo 1.28
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Thanks yellow submarine. You would think I would know this since I am also a Sag and I like my alone time but I guess when I am really into someone, I like to hear from them at least once a day. But I am also a woman. I know men don't think like that. He seems happy and excited when I do talk to him, we just don't talk a lot. On our first date, he did mention that he liked the fact we didn't talk a lot thru texting so that we had more to talk about when we were together and he has texted a lot before and then when they met up, he says there is really no connection. So maybe he just doesn't need to keep in contact all the time.
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Yes! Mine is super sweet. He was sick last week but really wanted me to come over for a bit. I brought him dinner so he didn't have to go out. We were watching a movie and he asked if I wanted a foot massage because he knows how much I like them. I said, you should be the one getting a massage, you are sick. He responded but you brought me dinner so you deserve it. He does sweet things like that all the time. Fixes things around my place, fixes things in my car, he is very thoughtful and caring. Just felt some distance from him the past 4 or 5 days. No initiation from him at all. Just wondered if his feelings changed. I also noticed he got online, where we met, yesterday and he hadn't been on for a month or so before that. So that kicked my panic and anxiety into high gear. I guess I will see tomorrow how things go. He said he was excited to hang.
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Posted by LittlePieces62
I do not have much with astrology but if I can help. Mine is still like this after 12 years. Moon in sag too and cap venus.

Not hearing is normal also 4 days silent. It does not mean he is not interested. Usually they are preoccupied. Do not move fast or push. It is how they are. From what I know an interested serious sag man wants all or nothing no half half.

Us women tend to want confirmation all the time of interest from potential partner. This is not in line with sag man priorities. He will show instead. Hence not texting but face to face conversation and gestures.

Mine went abroad working 3 months we talked once 2-4 days. When he came back he was non stop 2 weeks by my side.

Just my two cents as a sag female.
Is he the president of a small country that he is so preoccupied that he he cant send a text in 4 days? What a bunch.of bullshit lol
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Can anybody give me some insight into his chart? Just curious. I did text him yesterday asking if he could be at my house at a certain time to head out for the game and he replied saying it sounded great and that he was excited! I was going to bring things up tomorrow but I think I will just see how he acts towards me and just have fun. If he acts weird or doesn't want to stay the night for some reason, should I bring it up? Or just let it go?

Sun Sagittarius 26.13
Moon Sagittarius 18.36
Mercury Sagittarius 8.21
Venus Capricorn 25.02
Mars Virgo 10.54
Jupiter Virgo 10.09
Saturn Virgo 26.41
Uranus Scorpio 23.22
Neptune Sagittarius 20.27
Pluto Libra 21.24
Lilith Virgo 18.01
Asc node Virgo 1.28
Thats an interesting balance between fire and earth.
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I do not have much with astrology but if I can help. Mine is still like this after 12 years. Moon in sag too and cap venus.

Not hearing is normal also 4 days silent. It does not mean he is not interested. Usually they are preoccupied. Do not move fast or push. It is how they are. From what I know an interested serious sag man wants all or nothing no half half.

Us women tend to want confirmation all the time of interest from potential partner. This is not in line with sag man priorities. He will show instead. Hence not texting but face to face conversation and gestures.

Mine went abroad working 3 months we talked once 2-4 days. When he came back he was non stop 2 weeks by my side.

Just my two cents as a sag female.
Is he the president of a small country that he is so preoccupied that he he cant send a text in 4 days? What a bunch.of bullshit lol
It seemed like that. He worked 10hours day I can not expect for him to keep talking to me he did only when he had time and I was fine with that schedule.
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I work 2 jobs 100 hours a week. 40 at 1 and 60 at the other. I can still manage to send a have a nice day text. Sag men are not relationship material period.
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I do not have much with astrology but if I can help. Mine is still like this after 12 years. Moon in sag too and cap venus.

Not hearing is normal also 4 days silent. It does not mean he is not interested. Usually they are preoccupied. Do not move fast or push. It is how they are. From what I know an interested serious sag man wants all or nothing no half half.

Us women tend to want confirmation all the time of interest from potential partner. This is not in line with sag man priorities. He will show instead. Hence not texting but face to face conversation and gestures.

Mine went abroad working 3 months we talked once 2-4 days. When he came back he was non stop 2 weeks by my side.

Just my two cents as a sag female.
Is he the president of a small country that he is so preoccupied that he he cant send a text in 4 days? What a bunch.of bullshit lol
Sincerely this is normal. My ex sag and I would communicate when he worked abroad every 4-8 days and that suited me fine!! Cause I like my own space.. But this normal behaviour for them! I quite liked it. It's nice not to be glued at the hip.. That's one of the things I liked about sag...
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Well I derserve more than these crumbs so......
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I do not have much with astrology but if I can help. Mine is still like this after 12 years. Moon in sag too and cap venus.

Not hearing is normal also 4 days silent. It does not mean he is not interested. Usually they are preoccupied. Do not move fast or push. It is how they are. From what I know an interested serious sag man wants all or nothing no half half.

Us women tend to want confirmation all the time of interest from potential partner. This is not in line with sag man priorities. He will show instead. Hence not texting but face to face conversation and gestures.

Mine went abroad working 3 months we talked once 2-4 days. When he came back he was non stop 2 weeks by my side.

Just my two cents as a sag female.
Is he the president of a small country that he is so preoccupied that he he cant send a text in 4 days? What a bunch.of bullshit lol
It seemed like that. He worked 10hours day I can not expect for him to keep talking to me he did only when he had time and I was fine with that schedule.
I work 2 jobs 100 hours a week. 40 at 1 and 60 at the other. I can still manage to send a have a nice day text. Sag men are not relationship material period.
But not everyone can be like you. It is nice to get a hello or have a great day but it is not a demand and I never expected him to. They are relationship material. I am with one 12 years so I do not know how that makes you think they are not.
Exactly. Everyone's idea of "relationship material" is different - there are independent people and then there are dependent people.. neither is a right or wrong way to be.
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Its not dependency its common courtesy
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Thanks so much Weeds! That makes me feel a lot better. He is very kind and I always make sure I tell him how much I appreciate it. I am blunt at times, not with him yet, I say it how it is, so I will make sure and try and control that. I have hurt people in the past because of that. I don't mean to. It just comes out.

But thanks again. I am excited to see how this develops! I am just going to go out and have fun with him and see where it takes us. Although I am having issues with the communication, he has got to be the sweetest and most thoughtful guy I have ever dated. There is just something innocent about him. I can tell he has a big heart. I love that about him.
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Common courtesy is replying when someone reaches out, which is what the OPs guy does.

Expecting someone to chase you around and kiss your ass every day in order for you to feel good.. that is dependency. It's insecurity, it's needy and it's desperate.
saying having a nice day is kissing ass and being dependent and needy? LOL i just can't lol ...............
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I do not have much with astrology but if I can help. Mine is still like this after 12 years. Moon in sag too and cap venus.

Not hearing is normal also 4 days silent. It does not mean he is not interested. Usually they are preoccupied. Do not move fast or push. It is how they are. From what I know an interested serious sag man wants all or nothing no half half.

Us women tend to want confirmation all the time of interest from potential partner. This is not in line with sag man priorities. He will show instead. Hence not texting but face to face conversation and gestures.

Mine went abroad working 3 months we talked once 2-4 days. When he came back he was non stop 2 weeks by my side.

Just my two cents as a sag female.
Is he the president of a small country that he is so preoccupied that he he cant send a text in 4 days? What a bunch.of bullshit lol
Sincerely this is normal. My ex sag and I would communicate when he worked abroad every 4-8 days and that suited me fine!! Cause I like my own space.. But this normal behaviour for them! I quite liked it. It's nice not to be glued at the hip.. That's one of the things I liked about sag...
Well I derserve more than these crumbs so......
It's not about "deserving"... People are who they are!! I had an aqua and gem ex and they were the most dependent creatures on the planet. I used to call the gem "Octopussy " for obvious reasons. I could not move without him needing attention. I had to get rid in the end!!! Lol
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my point is sag men exhibit narcissitic tendencies. checking in with someone in the day is not being needy,. its thinking about someone other than yourself. sag men are so wrapped up in themselves they cant for one minute a day think of someone else. i bet the president can talk to to his wife once a day, NO ONE IS THAT BUSY. if you cant f
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Geez, can't you guys just agree to disagree? LOL

I don't think all Sag men are like that. My best friend is a Sag and married another Sag and he is one of my good friends too. Great guy and would do anything for his family. He is anything but selfish. Believe me, my best friend tells me EVERYTHING. They don't have the perfect marriage by any means and broke up like 10 times before they got married but he really is a good guy and far from being narcissistic.
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Posted by newlife7
Yes! Mine is super sweet. He was sick last week but really wanted me to come over for a bit. I brought him dinner so he didn't have to go out. We were watching a movie and he asked if I wanted a foot massage because he knows how much I like them. I said, you should be the one getting a massage, you are sick. He responded but you brought me dinner so you deserve it. He does sweet things like that all the time. Fixes things around my place, fixes things in my car, he is very thoughtful and caring. Just felt some distance from him the past 4 or 5 days. No initiation from him at all. Just wondered if his feelings changed. I also noticed he got online, where we met, yesterday and he hadn't been on for a month or so before that. So that kicked my panic and anxiety into high gear. I guess I will see tomorrow how things go. He said he was excited to hang.
This sounds much better, the fixing things and the "sweet things" he does.

I don't know where the distance comes from, but i've always been pretty attached in a relationship. I don't like token "how are you"s, but I like to have substantial communication each day. I think he's still warming up to you, or he has you pigeonholed in a casual relationship. Maybe you should make him reach out a little.
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^^^^if you cant get over "yourseft" for just a moment and think about someone else then you have no business being in a relationship
I think you misunderstand sag men or maybe generalize alot. Have you a bad past with sag men exes?

I have an example. The working trip I mentioned in other post. We did not speak much when he was back he stayed with me for couple weeks. We had quality time. I had a birthday surprise he arranged weekend to barcelona. To me that is one big thoughtful Sign of appreciation. In my experience expectations is failure.
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I agree about expectations, i.e. don't have them. I hate feeling like I have these obligations and have to return favors a certain way. I'll be sensible of your effort and your emotions, and I'll make it up to you in my own way.
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I hope he isn't thinking casual. He already brought me around his family and he is meeting my sister tomorrow. He said from the beginning he wanted a relationship and even mentioned something about calling me his girlfriend on the way to his family get together. So I don't think this is a casual thing for him at all. He has been in some really long relationships and he doesn't strike me as the type who wants something just casual.
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Posted by newlife7
Thanks yellow submarine. You would think I would know this since I am also a Sag and I like my alone time but I guess when I am really into someone, I like to hear from them at least once a day. But I am also a woman. I know men don't think like that. He seems happy and excited when I do talk to him, we just don't talk a lot. On our first date, he did mention that he liked the fact we didn't talk a lot thru texting so that we had more to talk about when we were together and he has texted a lot before and then when they met up, he says there is really no connection. So maybe he just doesn't need to keep in contact all the time.
It's not about gender. Every male Sag I've encountered liked daily contact. Perhaps it's only been 2 months and the man needs time to feel you like that? Maybe he only like to communicate when he has something actually worthwhile to say beyond "what's up". Who knows. You're spinning at this point though. I'd stop and enjoy your life. The bond will grow in time. Or not. It can't be controlled, so why sweat it with all the "maybe it's this...maybe it's that..."?
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contrary to popular belief, sag males are quite the gentlemen. Actually my sag ex was incredibly respectful towards me, and we still remain good friends till this day. Maybe he's just busy lol, tell him how you feel. Growing up with sag energy and having dated one, I would say that he is probably oblivious to how he comes off to other people, so maybe he doesn't know he is giving off an aura of apathy to you.
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contrary to popular belief, sag males are quite the gentlemen. Actually my sag ex was incredibly respectful towards me, and we still remain good friends till this day. Maybe he's just busy lol, tell him how you feel. Growing up with sag energy and having dated one, I would say that he is probably oblivious to how he comes off to other people, so maybe he doesn't know he is giving off an aura of apathy to you.
Mine used to be until he got into porn now its women are dirty, b's and ho's. now i wants to "gape them" and smack them around, you know the porn drill im sure
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Geez, can't you guys just agree to disagree? LOL

I don't think all Sag men are like that.
Yeah, I've included my two cents, so I'm done. I've learnt from experience you can't reason with overly needy people - it's all "how could you forget about ME?", "I'M so important", "I DESERVE this, I DESERVE that", "You're LUCKY to have ME", and so on and so forth... it's exhausting, and just plain childish.

It's the problem with our generation - everyone's been told "don't settle" so they translate that to aiming to be the center of someone else's universe instead of taking reign of their own.
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i totally disagree. there is nothing wrong with treating each other like you are the center of each others universe. and yes, women deserve to be treated right as do men. So many people think its "cool" to treat people like crap and they "feel" weak if they are nice, They are afraid to show weakness and vulnerability.
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I do not have much with astrology but if I can help. Mine is still like this after 12 years. Moon in sag too and cap venus.

Not hearing is normal also 4 days silent. It does not mean he is not interested. Usually they are preoccupied. Do not move fast or push. It is how they are. From what I know an interested serious sag man wants all or nothing no half half.

Us women tend to want confirmation all the time of interest from potential partner. This is not in line with sag man priorities. He will show instead. Hence not texting but face to face conversation and gestures.

Mine went abroad working 3 months we talked once 2-4 days. When he came back he was non stop 2 weeks by my side.

Just my two cents as a sag female.
Is he the president of a small country that he is so preoccupied that he he cant send a text in 4 days? What a bunch.of bullshit lol
Sincerely this is normal. My ex sag and I would communicate when he worked abroad every 4-8 days and that suited me fine!! Cause I like my own space.. But this normal behaviour for them! I quite liked it. It's nice not to be glued at the hip.. That's one of the things I liked about sag...
Well I derserve more than these crumbs so......
It's not about "deserving"... People are who they are!! I had an aqua and gem ex and they were the most dependent creatures on the planet. I used to call the gem "Octopussy " for obvious reasons. I could not move without him needing attention. I had to get rid in the end!!! Lol
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my point is sag men exhibit narcissitic tendencies. checking in with someone in the day is not being needy,. its thinking about someone other than yourself. sag men are so wrapped up in themselves they cant for one minute a day th
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He texted me the other night I guess because he hadn't really heard from me and we chatted for a while. We went to the ballgame last night and had a blast! He said he has a gift for me so he actually bought a pair of white tennis shoes, and painted our home team's name on them to wear last night! The shoes are super cute. So sweet of him! We stayed up till 2 in the morning talking. We are hanging out again this weekend. I guess he was just busy last weekend but he seemed really interested and engaged last night with me. I guess I was freaking out about nothing.

I didn't bring up us or what we are or anything but we got so many plans already, like every weekend this month and he is already talking about doing something with me on Halloween, both our favorite holiday, so looks like he is sticking around for a while. I feel better now. :-)