Sag females and being the "side chick"

At some point in time I come across the sag female wanting a meaningful relationship but curiously settle for being the girl on the side.
I see them pouring their heart out for the man.
I see them being happy with the situation.
Then I see them filled with jealousy, perhaps hatred for the woman the man is with.
Now I don't comprehend how this happens but I do ask why? emotionally fueled?
I understand wanting something and going to great lengths. But I never see a happy out come. Infact you'll probly hear me shout an "I TOLD YOU SO!" as I have a head start before the sags try to pelt me with objects.
Why settle? They are smart enough to know it will go nowhere. "Oh he says he loves me and the gifts he buys me"
But your sitting in your room by yourself waiting on him to make his excuses to her so he can have his one hour with you....

@bnr7013 I very much understand what your saying. BUT a sag that is in love can have their heads far up in the clouds then usual so it may seem logic takes a vacation at that time.
with that said you have made a valid point of view I will take into consideration.

@aquaboy84 I have had my share of intelligent sag women I dont think thats in question but I do think some chase a fantasy when going this route.

Interesting question. I'll bet my money on what bnr017 said. Sag I know been through this. Abrubtly ended it, having the guy chasing her until today. She laughs it off and is getting married soon.

Posted by Weeds
At some point in time I come across the sag female wanting a meaningful relationship but curiously settle for being the girl on the side.
I see them pouring their heart out for the man.
I see them being happy with the situation.
Then I see them filled with jealousy, perhaps hatred for the woman the man is with.
Now I don't comprehend how this happens but I do ask why? emotionally fueled?
I understand wanting something and going to great lengths. But I never see a happy out come. Infact you'll probly hear me shout an "I TOLD YOU SO!" as I have a head start before the sags try to pelt me with objects.
Why settle? They are smart enough to know it will go nowhere. "Oh he says he loves me and the gifts he buys me"
But your sitting in your room by yourself waiting on him to make his excuses to her so he can have his one hour with you....

1. Sags dont want anything more than a meaningful relationship. Just show them the meaning and it has to be reasonable and make sense.

2. Sags are hopeful, so even if they are being the side girl, she only hopes he will choose her over the other woman in the end. This hope is poisonous to her because she feels somewhere down there he loves her but he doesnt. And once she realize he doesnt, she will leave him alone because she loves freedom. In some cases, love him even after leaving him or being with him even though she knows he doesnt because she truly loved him, and love is selfless so is she.

3. She is selfless, she loves him too much to give his responsibility to the other woman, so she stays by his side so that when the woman breaks his heart she will be there, even if staying breaks her inside she will pretend and show that she is fine. Typical sag, when they feel someone will feel bad if they know that they hurt her, she will pretend like they didnt hurt her because she thinks if they knew, they wont let her help them or support them so she lies so that they wont push her away and as they think she is fine with it, they take her for granted and she lets them take advantage because she would rather sacrifice herself than leave them on their own because she is scared they might not make it. Once the outcome is certain, that the success is their, she wont take even the little credit for it but if the outcome is bad, she will take all the blame.

4. she pours her

4. she pours her heart, hoping that he will realise that she may not be as great as the other woman but her love is greater, she isnt jealous of her but she is annoyed at the thought of how someone can choose a person over love?

5. she doesnt hate her, she just feels that she isnt right for him and will hurt him. And believing this makes her hate the woman. So only if the woman came to her and said that she will take good care of him and never hurt him, she will love the woman more than the man and make sure no one comes between them.

6. Yes they are emotional, but they are most emotional because their emotions are logical and reasonable. Afterall, the reality hurts more, the reality is felt more, the real emotions hurt more than the dramatic fantasizing emotions that has no base or reason to be felt.

7. They are not unemotional either, they are just hurt too much, taken for granted too much. And when a part of the body is hurt badly it becomes numb at one point.

8. They care too much, they dont show. Because it only makes them happy to go great lenght for other, they dont feel that the other person needs to know what they did or sacrifice for them. The only time they abruptly leave(even though they care) is when they take them for granted or when they feel the person is becoming dependant on them(they feel he/she shouldnt depend on them because they only want the best for them, they want them to be strong and independant but if they need help they will do everything but wont let them be weak by letting them depend on them).

9. its like they are mother to everyone, always worrying and sacrificing.

10. they dont go great lenght when they are doing something for themself, they go great lenght when what they are doing helps or benefits even a single person other than themselves. The other person is the motivation, if you tell them to do something for them, they arent motivated.

11. that one hour, actually even a second with him is precious. she lives with the hope that he will suddenly come and say that he loves her and will never leave her and that she may not be as great as the other woman, but he will still accept her as she is because she accepted him as he is.

12. Once he does that, she will improve herself because she wants to for him. She will inspire him to improve aswell. Sag are the most misunderstood imo. There are alot of things in their mind, alot of reason to do what they do and people assume too much about them instead of really ever trying to understand and so fails to keep up with what they do which makes people think sags are weird. They maybe seen as extroverts but they treasure their deepest feeling to themselves, and she will only share those feelings if you are in need of it and if it benefits you in anyway or if you are more precious to her than her feelings and experiences.

13. If you have met a bad sag, i am sure she is just frustrated of caring so much and not being able to say no and annoyed of how much it hurts her to reject people. that bad sag right now hates herself and wants everyone to hate her too.

14. They love you more than you realize, even if you are a one day acquantance.

15. They may not be affected if people didnt understand them but usually cares alot and it matters to them alot that their partner or the person they choose to be with forever understand them.

I sometimes feel, its not just sag people who feel this way. Maybe all of us do.

Posted by Ssupes
^^^^^^ be honest if that's possible

I am new here, so i am confused whether you are telling me or someone else to be honest?

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Posted by cutedecemberangel

Posted by Ssupes
^^^^^^ be honest if that's possible

I am new here, so i am confused whether you are telling me or someone else to be honest?

Because your talking is full of crap and not honest

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Why do you feel like that? Must be my mistake somewhere that I dont realize. I hope you wont mind correcting me 🙂

Only wanted to express my thought on this, so that no other sag would be misunderstood. Just to give my insight so that you can better understand this person and she be judged justly.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Especially 6,7, and 8. Those resignates with all Sagi I think.

its easier for you to understand and relate, means alot 🙂

How am I ever going to know the secrets of the universe if ppl keep hiding everything!!!—!!??

This type of situation provides no threat to sadge's no. 1 priority, freedom. Though if it's a particularly trying situation emotionally, she may be using it as a distraction from issues in other areas of life she's trying to avoid.

Uuuuummm...what just happened??

Anybody got the cliff notes ? 😛

Posted by dontgetmewrong
She posted so much, there's only a few points that resonated with me bc I saw some of my mind set. However, she explained really well how a Sag would/might feel being a side chick though, that I couldn't relate with personally but it was a good read none the less.

Hopefully she'll come back on and unhide it for a bit.

Gotcha.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
She posted so much, there's only a few points that resonated with me bc I saw some of my mind set. However, she explained really well how a Sag would/might feel being a side chick though, that I couldn't relate with personally but it was a good read none the less.

Hopefully she'll come back on and unhide it for a bit.

🙂

Thank you!!!!!!!!

What she said...is the absolute truth...and the men ain't that different

Gah, this shit is depressing

I would never settle for being the side chick

Fuck it. I would rather be ALONE with 20 cats than wait for some guy to give me a scrap of his attention.

Posted by Weeds
Thank you!!!!!!!!

You are welcome 🙂

Posted by Ssupes
I'm sorry for what I said earlier. I won't hide it so I can look back and reflect on my shitty behavior.

I guess that it's just the mutable aspects of Sag that will allow them to be a "side chick". I know I would never settle for second best.

Sorry cute. I've been a little cranky lately.

+1

Posted by Ssupes
I'm sorry for what I said earlier. I won't hide it so I can look back and reflect on my shitty behavior.

I guess that it's just the mutable aspects of Sag that will allow them to be a "side chick". I know I would never settle for second best.

Sorry cute. I've been a little cranky lately.

It's ok, I understand 🙂 I unhide this post because "dontgetmewrong" expected me to and weeds didn't read it but I also considered what you said about "owning it" so I won't be hiding these post again as well and reflect.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
What she said...is the absolute truth...and the men ain't that different

I don't really know many sag men 🙂 but I guess you are one?

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by cutedecemberangel

Posted by Ssupes
I'm sorry for what I said earlier. I won't hide it so I can look back and reflect on my shitty behavior.

I guess that it's just the mutable aspects of Sag that will allow them to be a "side chick". I know I would never settle for second best.

Sorry cute. I've been a little cranky lately.

It's ok, I understand 🙂 I unhide this post because "dontgetmewrong" expected me to and weeds didn't read it but I also considered what you said about "owning it" so I won't be hiding these post again as well and reflect.

Thanks for unhiding

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And maybe you wanted to look back too, I didn't realize. You are welcome 🙂

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
What she said...is the absolute truth...and the men ain't that different

I don't really know many sag men 🙂 but I guess you are one?

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I am and I do know a few that are...side dudes lol although I'd never be one. Just can't share in that capacity

They just need to find a good Ram.
The Ram will drop the wife and marry the Sag.

I do get tired of caring eventually. I just put my focus on other things.

Posted by LunarMaiden
They just need to find a good Ram.
The Ram will drop the wife and marry the Sag.

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by Wynter

Posted by LunarMaiden
They just need to find a good Ram.
The Ram will drop the wife and marry the Sag.

Oh man!! He is gorgeous!!! Lololololololol

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He's on another level.

Like so attractive, it's disgusting

Posted by LunarMaiden
They just need to find a good Ram.
The Ram will drop the wife and marry the Sag.

I read that as they just need a good ram.

I don't know about the other part, lol

Posted by Wynter
Gah, this shit is depressing

I would never settle for being the side chick

& yeah, this.

My Leo moon would never allow 2nd class treatment

I do know a couple Sagis that have been involved with married men.
Why, I don't know. I never asked. I just judged them quietly 😛

Posted by dontgetmewrong
I know of only 1 Sag, about 5 years or so. She fell inlove with him. Took her a couple years to realize he was never gonna leave his wife (he was loaded amd told her the wife would take him to the cleaners) so she left him. She's married now, and just had a son.
Last year, she said the other guy still tries to call her to see "how she's doing" , she told him to bounce. She's happy and in love with her hubby and son.

Ugh, sounds so familiar...
The one I knew became friends with his wife and would babysit his kids!! If I was his wife and found out I'd MURDER her

His wife never caught him with her, but a few years later with someone else. He's an Aries...Scumbag

Yeah, how sick is that seriously?

Babysitting his kids?!?!
I feel murderous and it wasn't even me

Posted by Weeds
At some point in time I come across the sag female wanting a meaningful relationship but curiously settle for being the girl on the side.
I see them pouring their heart out for the man.
I see them being happy with the situation.
Then I see them filled with jealousy, perhaps hatred for the woman the man is with.
Now I don't comprehend how this happens but I do ask why? emotionally fueled?
I understand wanting something and going to great lengths. But I never see a happy out come. Infact you'll probly hear me shout an "I TOLD YOU SO!" as I have a head start before the sags try to pelt me with objects.
Why settle? They are smart enough to know it will go nowhere. "Oh he says he loves me and the gifts he buys me"
But your sitting in your room by yourself waiting on him to make his excuses to her so he can have his one hour with you....

Sometimes Saggies just want to have fun and don't care, but when they want something, you can bet they will lock it down 🙂

My best friend is a Sag,

...and I can tell you, she's far from stupid.
She's quite confident, has a strong sense of self, opinionated, quite feisty, and doesn't take any mess!

Cross her and there is hell to pay.

LOL!

A delusional Sag is an oxymoron.

Their less than tactful, blunt communication prevents them from living in the clouds.

Nothing get's past them.

Sags are also quite observant people.