New here. Question

Kind of a long story here so please bear with me.

I separated with my husband of 12 years almost a year ago, he had a mid life crisis complete with a new girlfriend and all. I was in a near fatal accident and it messed with his mind and he could not deal with how critically hurt I was and decided he "Did not want to worry about anyone except himself anymore". So I am mutual friends with one of his best friends and he and I talked a lot when this all went down. He is a Sagittarius. He was my rock through everything. He even tried to talk to my ex and get him to come back to his senses. ALL of our mutual friends noticed the change in my ex, they could tell he had drastically changed into a stranger seemingly overnight and became the type of person no-one wants to be around. (Narcissist is an understatement). At any rate, this mutual friend had walked away from their friendship as my ex would not respond to him at all (He has shut everyone out and responds to no-one except immediate best friends and such). This mutual friend had never been anything more than friends through everything. He tried to help us work things out and was sincere in his efforts. I know because he is so brutally honest I trust him implicitly. Now, here is where my confusion lies, I had to kind of explain the rest so the dynamics were known:

I moved back to the city this mutual friend lives in. Not purposely for that reason but this is home. Since moving back he and I talk a lot. We meet for lunch. He helped me move. We text quite often. I have been back for 6 months now and he was working out of town so we did not talk much, usually only when he was home and sometimes it was weeks in-between hearing from him. In the months since I have been home in our many conversations he has mentioned that he has been attracted to me for years. At some points very intensely attracted. He was in a relationship 2 years ago that hurt him to his core, he has not quite recovered from it still. He knows he would never go back to her, but he seems afraid to get involved with someone again. well, we got close in the past few months and we crossed the line and slept together, no commitment, no nothing. That is very unlike me, however, I was completely comfortable because of our friendship and my trust for him.

Since then:

He texts daily

He actually calls me on the phone now (something that was rare before)

He still calls to meet for lunch

Now he calls and asks what I have planned days in the future and if I have no plans he says we should go to a movie

His work is constantly changing in regard to if he will be out of town working or in town working, unlike before he now tells me when things are potentially changing

I texted him the other day and asked if us doing this would harm our friendship. I said I know you do not want anything more than FWB, he said it absolutely would not affect our friendship. Then he said "If you are afraid it will, we can stop and nothing will change at all". I told him then that I did not think it would and that he is the only person I would consider having this kind of relationship with.

So.....I guess my question is, He did not deny he only wanted FWB, but he has been paying all sorts of extra attention to me since we crossed that line and it is not for sex, I thought of that, however we have been together just to go for lunch or a drink and not been intimate so that is not it. I am usually pretty good at reading people, but I cannot read him at all. How do I know if he wants more than FWB and is just not telling me yet? He is so honest about everything else so I am inclined to believe nothing has changed even though it has, if he decided he wanted it to be more he would have said so right? The last time I saw him, when he left, he gave me his normal good bye kiss and said "Tell ______ Thank you, tell him thank you for sending you home"

Anyone have guesses?

He is a Sagittarius, I am Pisces

Words are meaningless, it is actions that matter. His actions convey that he really cares about you. How do you feel about him? Does he make you happy? If yes, don't overthink things. Just enjoy his company and let things progress naturally.

Yes, he actually does. There is a ton of mutual respect there

Posted by Finallyfree
Yes, he actually does. There is a ton of mutual respect there

You are a very lucky woman. Just enjoy......

Actions actions actions !!!

Based on what you mentioned his actions show that he cares and wants to be in your life.

Enjoy it! Don't over think things.

If it's meant to be, it will be.