scorpdiva
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Relationship/commitment
well, i wouldnt be committed to anyone if im not in a relationship with them. not even loyal. until we both say the buck stops here, i will still see other people.
Posted by Rockthenerds
I'm not positive but I think sag was saying that if we weren't in a relationship she would still be committed, but more devoted like a sibling rather than a couple. .
i mean what kind of commitment is she talking about? like if your car breaks down, she will come save you? or shes not sleeping with anyone. why would u even want her to be committed to you and not be in a relationship? she would be selling herself short and overextending herself. how special would you feel if she felt that way about every guy.
that is wierd indeed.
Im a Sag and I totally get it! The word commitment is SCARY it makes you wanna run and run as fast you can!!! Now I am relationship but not a commited relationship. I dont wanna see anyone else and havent but the thought of bf anf gf is whoa!! the more you press a sag to "commit" the more they refrain from doing it.
Posted by Sutekh
Sag=uncommited commitment.
IMO there are no "steps" with Sags.
We're together and commited, but don't ask me about it and don't dwell on it because it's not necessary.
I think that's the thing he doesn't want me to keep bringing it up or asking about it but I just want to hear him say it. I mean everyday he wants me to check in with him, he wants to know what and when I am doing whatever I am doing, he gets mad if I go any days without contact with him, so we basically are comitted but you can't bring yourself to say it. You even go as far to ask me to have your baby, but you can't say those words like it's a curse word to him, I told him he is scared of the word commitment.
Posted by Cat34
Im a Sag and I totally get it! The word commitment is SCARY it makes you wanna run and run as fast you can!!! Now I am relationship but not a commited relationship. I dont wanna see anyone else and havent but the thought of bf anf gf is whoa!! the more you press a sag to "commit" the more they refrain from doing it.
Posted by scorpdivaPosted by Sutekh
Sag=uncommited commitment.
IMO there are no "steps" with Sags.
We're together and commited, but don't ask me about it and don't dwell on it because it's not necessary.
I think that's the thing he doesn't want me to keep bringing it up or asking about it but I just want to hear him say it. I mean everyday he wants me to check in with him, he wants to know what and when I am doing whatever I am doing, he gets mad if I go any days without contact with him, so we basically are comitted but you can't bring yourself to say it. You even go as far to ask me to have your baby, but you can't say those words like it's a curse word to him, I told him he is scared of the word commitment.click to expand
so if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck....
To me they're the same thing. If you're in an official exclusive relationship with someone that already sort of means you're fully committed to that person (at least for the time being). Otherwise what are you even doing there? You want the comfort and security of being in a relationship but you don't want to offer those things to your partner in return? That's so wtf to me lol
I get on a lot of my Sag brethren for doing this. He likes you, but he has serious problems with who you are(not saying you're a bad person) but doesn't want to be alone and enjoys the attention you give. Thus, you have your current situation. Having his cake and eating it too. My suggestion? Leave. It will drive him nuts. Either he will step up or you'll have to find someone else. The only other solution is sitting down and talking about. Don't accuse him of anything or try to manipulate him( not saying you are or we're lol). If he still gets angry, he's immature and not ready for a real commitment...lwhich I think he is anyway.
Personally, I've never been afraid of commitment or the word. I go with the flow...with caution lol. I do take steps and don't just jump in. I start out slow, getting to know you and develop a friendship. If something is there then I'm willing to take it to the next level. But I'm always upfront and genuine with my intentions and feeling...tactfully.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
I get on a lot of my Sag brethren for doing this. He likes you, but he has serious problems with who you are(not saying you're a bad person) but doesn't want to be alone and enjoys the attention you give. Thus, you have your current situation. Having his cake and eating it too. My suggestion? Leave. It will drive him nuts. Either he will step up or you'll have to find someone else. The only other solution is sitting down and talking about. Don't accuse him of anything or try to manipulate him( not saying you are or we're lol). If he still gets angry, he's immature and not ready for a real commitment...lwhich I think he is anyway.
I see your points, I know he Loves me cause he has told me multiple times and he wouldn't say something he doesn't mean, it's just not his personality. You are right about he has problems with who I am,if he can't accept me for the person that I am that is something he had to deal with, relationships are about compromise and I can't change my self for no one. I also don't think he wants his cake and eat it too, I have been knowing him for almost three years now and he is not the dog type like a cheater he just doesn't want to answer to me, he has a rebel personality where he wants to go and be as he please if he says he commits then he probably feels he is giving that up.
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