Taken SagCap cusp being 2 friendly with my Gem BF

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My boyfriend is almost 30, a Gemini. that girl is 19. She's a Dec 20 Sag-Cap cusp.

They met at a comic book store my boyfriend goes to sometimes to hangout and talk about nerdy stuff. She works there as a cashier and helps customers with things sometimes. She asked him for his Facebook, they added each other and they've been talking for about 2 weeks.
She's been dating a guy who's in the navy for a year and half. But she's also been whining to my boyfriend about her relationship. She described her boyfriend as an asshole.
She said she's lonely and depressed while he's away.
All good, except, she asked my boyfriend to dress like a couple for Halloween. Like batman and cat woman. Then, she constantly asked my boyfriend to hangout at the shop, and acts all sad if he says no.
He told her he's in a relationship and she just ignored it.
She told him many times she's in a relationship yet, acts like she's totally single because she said she likes talking to him a lot.

She doesn't seem to care about boundaries at all.

Are Sag Cap cusp like that?
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Posted by beautifuldiaster
.... Put some guilt into her mind.

Seriously. Friend the shit out of her. YOU go get your nerd on and handle it or else you'll have to face your man... Which I imagine you haven't really done yet and that'd be the first place I'd turn.

If he doesn't see the harm..... (There is harm IMO) then go for her. But really, this is between him and you.

I'm giving alternatives that are known to work with success.

Friendship that catty nerd and watch if her stripes don't change quick.

Smells like manipulation to me.
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Posted by tiziani
People aren't stupid. If you do something like that as their partner, eventually they're going to realise you're basically isolating their social life and moving against their free will.


If you're strong and really have faith in your relationship, you'll know it's an issue to be kept between you both. Keep it that why, while he STILL respects you.


And if he respects you, he should listen to your concerns and act accordingly.
I agree with this. I take it your boyfriend is the one telling you all this which, means he's seeing a red flag. Keep it between the two of you, and he should tell the chick to stop.
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Posted by PrincessOfLight
My boyfriend is almost 30, a Gemini. that girl is 19. She's a Dec 20 Sag-Cap cusp.

They met at a comic book store my boyfriend goes to sometimes to hangout and talk about nerdy stuff. She works there as a cashier and helps customers with things sometimes. She asked him for his Facebook, they added each other and they've been talking for about 2 weeks.
She's been dating a guy who's in the navy for a year and half. But she's also been whining to my boyfriend about her relationship. She described her boyfriend as an asshole.
She said she's lonely and depressed while he's away.
All good, except, she asked my boyfriend to dress like a couple for Halloween. Like batman and cat woman. Then, she constantly asked my boyfriend to hangout at the shop, and acts all sad if he says no.
He told her he's in a relationship and she just ignored it.
She told him many times she's in a relationship yet, acts like she's totally single because she said she likes talking to him a lot.

She doesn't seem to care about boundaries at all.

Are Sag Cap cusp like that?
1) has your man done anything besides TALK to her?
2) why the hell are you jealous?
3) you need to fix your own insecurities
OR
4) find a man that wants no home life.
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Posted by Gooober
Yep, she's plotting on your bf. She shows all the signs...

If you trust your bf, you don't have to worry about anything... but if you don't... :/ Good luck.

Exactly! No doubt the scandalous chick is plotting and trying to steal this dude. Also, he is welcoming it with open arms. I mean, she is 19 and he's 30. Kinda gross but, that might be his thing. Maybe he is just getting off on a young girl finding him attractive and its stroking his ego.

Who da fuck knows? As of right now it's all talk. Worry when he quits fucking you and comes home smelling like pussy.
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Yep, she's plotting on your bf. She shows all the signs...

If you trust your bf, you don't have to worry about anything... but if you don't... :/ Good luck.

Exactly! No doubt the scandalous chick is plotting and trying to steal this dude. Also, he is welcoming it with open arms. I mean, she is 19 and he's 30. Kinda gross but, that might be his thing. Maybe he is just getting off on a young girl finding him attractive and its stroking his ego.

Who da fuck knows? As of right now it's all talk. Worry when he quits fucking you and comes home smelling like pussy.
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Lmao! It's definitely possible but like I said to DMV, she could just be aggressive and isn't giving up.
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Gurl, you need to beat his ass. Hes throwing out signals to her thats she s picking up in.

DMV I could not agree more.


Fucking stop this behavior now.



Or forever hold your peace and hit the chick.

I'm all about weighing options.
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word. Like wtf do you want us to tell you. Shyt go beat both they ass.

If that were my man, id set him so fucking straight hed be worried to breathe without asking my permission.

Go kick some fuckkkimg as and then go eat some ben and jerrys.

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... Ok now I feel guilty....
And you should. Play the nice and innocent girl all day long. Showing your true colors. Class act


I am nice and innocent to deserving people.


You don't know me dude? Act like you know how I prefer my breakfast served....


You already rubbed me like sandpaper.
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Dont sweat that fool. Typical aries man.
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Yep, she's plotting on your bf. She shows all the signs...

If you trust your bf, you don't have to worry about anything... but if you don't... :/ Good luck.

Exactly! No doubt the scandalous chick is plotting and trying to steal this dude. Also, he is welcoming it with open arms. I mean, she is 19 and he's 30. Kinda gross but, that might be his thing. Maybe he is just getting off on a young girl finding him attractive and its stroking his ego.

Who da fuck knows? As of right now it's all talk. Worry when he quits fucking you and comes home smelling like pussy.
Lmao! It's definitely possible but like I said to DMV, she could just be aggressive and isn't giving up.

So if she wants to fight for him and he gives up then where is there any room for error?


He can avoid the place. Does he?

If he doesn't.... Then it's her call what she decides.
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Right, its like he cant shop someplace else.
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... Ok now I feel guilty....
And you should. Play the nice and innocent girl all day long. Showing your true colors. Class act


I am nice and innocent to deserving people.


You don't know me dude? Act like you know how I prefer my breakfast served....


You already rubbed me like sandpaper.
Dont sweat that fool. Typical aries man.
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lol. You are the ones looking bad. Suggestions of manipulation, ass beating and all that. For what? Because a guy is talking to a girl that is flirting with him? Like you don't talk to guys at the club? Please.
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Gurl, you need to beat his ass. Hes throwing out signals to her thats she s picking up in.

Okay I gotta know.


How would you go about beating his ass.


I want details ha-ha.
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Real talk, id follow him to said store. Watch that whole shit go down. Then when I get my proof, id roll up on him and slap him right across the face. Then id keep slapping out of sheer rage and embarrassment, and because a crowd has started to form.

Then id drop his ass because hed forever be a punk ass bitcch my eyes.
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Shit does not add up for me.





On my relationship history, my guy never did this to me.


He never betrays me.

He was true and honest and I was with him on all his expenditures.




This screams something different.
I really dont know how aggressive a 19 year old child can overpower a grown man.

Unless....
Do not play like you were not a resilient 19yr old.


Yes. 30 and 19.

Both both BATMAN fro. What I hear.... Fate!?!?!?






Flip that shit.


It's possible you can have anything you want if yu have the willpower.. Bit are you OK with using it?
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I didnt have sex till college. 20s. I was such a nerd
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Gurl, you need to beat his ass. Hes throwing out signals to her thats she s picking up in.

Okay I gotta know.


How would you go about beating his ass.


I want details ha-ha.
Real talk, id follow him to said store. Watch that whole shit go down. Then when I get my proof, id roll up on him and slap him right across the face. Then id keep slapping out of sheer rage and embarrassment, and because a crowd has started to form.

Then id drop his ass because hed forever be a punk ass bitcch my eyes.

Lol. Damn girl, you're gangsta!!
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my mars in virgo doesnt like to be pushed and venus in caps loathes embarrassment.
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Yep, she's plotting on your bf. She shows all the signs...

If you trust your bf, you don't have to worry about anything... but if you don't... :/ Good luck.

Exactly! No doubt the scandalous chick is plotting and trying to steal this dude. Also, he is welcoming it with open arms. I mean, she is 19 and he's 30. Kinda gross but, that might be his thing. Maybe he is just getting off on a young girl finding him attractive and its stroking his ego.

Who da fuck knows? As of right now it's all talk. Worry when he quits fucking you and comes home smelling like pussy.
Lmao! It's definitely possible but like I said to DMV, she could just be aggressive and isn't giving up.

So if she wants to fight for him and he gives up then where is there any room for error?


He can avoid the place. Does he?

If he doesn't.... Then it's her call what she decides.
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The guy can definitely end this all by completely avoiding the place but I find that to be extreme and unnecessary. All the guy has to do is reject this chick.
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Yep, she's plotting on your bf. She shows all the signs...

If you trust your bf, you don't have to worry about anything... but if you don't... :/ Good luck.

Exactly! No doubt the scandalous chick is plotting and trying to steal this dude. Also, he is welcoming it with open arms. I mean, she is 19 and he's 30. Kinda gross but, that might be his thing. Maybe he is just getting off on a young girl finding him attractive and its stroking his ego.

Who da fuck knows? As of right now it's all talk. Worry when he quits fucking you and comes home smelling like pussy.
Lmao! It's definitely possible but like I said to DMV, she could just be aggressive and isn't giving up.

So if she wants to fight for him and he gives up then where is there any room for error?


He can avoid the place. Does he?

If he doesn't.... Then it's her call what she decides.
The guy can definitely end this all by completely avoiding the place but I find that to be extreme and unnecessary. All the guy has to do is reject this chick.
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Yup
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Why are you focused on the female?? If you're uncomfortable with the lack of respect and regard to your relationship with this female, I would say talk to your 30yr old boyfriend. If he wants to shut it down, he will.

That girl sounds very hungry for attention. He should ask her if her boyfriend would care that she speaks this way to other men. I had a married man try that crap with me, I asked him if his wife would mind. He shut it down and apologized.
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Posted by beautifuldiaster
Cmon op.

This is her history on dxp. Not a troll.

13 hours in Taken SagCap cusp being 2 friendly with my Gem BF
last month in What's he doing?
last year in Gem men folding?
last year in More serious = Less lovey dovey?
last year in Geminis, any experience dating Capricorns?
last year in Gem, friends and long term relationship

She's never been talkative on dxp. In stupid love with a rich people's kid who does not wanna leave mom's house and flirt with other girls in front of his gf?