I have been seeing a scorpio for a feww weeks.. eveything hot and heavy.. we have not had sex. talk about it alot but no sex..he tries to come over for stupid reasons..well anyways for the last 2 days. he has not said much.so I texted him this..
"I dont like to be ignored. This is my last attempt. are u interested or not? I dont have time for games. I am not sending u another msg.U are about to lose out.I am not looking to be with you. just enyjoy u.you need me to take you to the next level.If you dont answer this time I will it as u are not interested.I could bring u something new in your life u never had, an experience and feeling you only dreamed of."
He says back
" i was asleep I gotta work 2nite."
I say
"thats not what I asked u. but since u responded.ill take it as u are interested. I guess ugot sum stuff you need to figure out. do not igg me I do not like that a t all."
he says
"I just got a lot of shit going on. No disrespect.
now do u think scorpio is interested. I am a virgo. I look into everything. just give me a lil insight plz.
P_angel. I didnt mean it as a sex offer. what I meant by not tryingto be with him is ..i am not trying to be his girlfriend right now. we just met.I just want to enjoy him and talk and hang out. He told me he had a lot of shit going on. so I did let him know he could talk to me. I told him once I commit myself as a friend thats what I am.
he says he understands.. then he went on to tell me whats going on.. while he was at work...
so no I was not only talking about sex. I was talking about the next level as a whole..'
No ... friends aren't demanding of each other's time like that.
You know .. no, maybe you don't know .. Scorpios are very good at reading the undercurrents, and if I can picked up the mixed signals from just an internet forum, then certainly he can.
For a person to say something like, "I just enjoy your company and I've committed myself to being your friend .. so I won't be ignored. If I text you, you better respond right away, or it's your last chance with me." ............... is a complete contridiction of words vs. intentions.
Because "friends" aren't bound to those kinds of terms .... it's obvious to me that you are using "friends" label to gain some sort of loyalty from him, as a partner of another would seek .. and if I can pick this up, certainly, being a Scorpio, he most surely can.
You're walking in very dangerous territory if you think you're going to play with a Scorpio, I'm afraid.
In any event, it's your choice ... so good luck with that.
okay. but I didnt mean to come off that way. and besides thats what we seem to talk about alot.. but it was not just about sex.. but I will back off. I do want to get to know him if id idnt I would not have left any msgs at all and just moved on. I kinda like him. but I dont eant him to know that.. dont want to seem weak. because it has only been a couple of weeks.
I understand. but if scorpio is not interested he could have not responded just like he ignored every other msg.. I would not have sent another...
I am not here to play with scorpio.. but hesends different msg.. he say he just wants friends. but then he makes up silly exxcuses to come over. and I say oh u just want to see me then he says maybe... I dont get it.
"but if scorpio is not interested he could have not responded just like he ignored every other msg.. I would not have sent another..."
You shouldn't have sent the first. Two days is NOTHING, especially if you're just dating (and for only two weeks?!). Scorpios, like all water signs, need a lot of personal space. Our reaction to people demanding our time is to immediately shut down. We find those people to be a drain on our energy, so we'll lose them with a quickness. If you are this needy of his attention already, this is going to be a very short relationship, because scorpio men are workaholics and sometimes they just need some alone time to process things (or brood, or pout).
thats cool. I can back off. I did tell him that if he wanted to talk and hang out he would make time. so he says. I am right.. thanks for all the advice. well do u think I have ruined all chances with him?
"Haaaaaaaaaa girl you are crazy gotta love you Sea...."
Now, now, everyone..no need to trample each other all rushing to agree with SF! 😛
Actually, I'm glad you said this, SF. Lately I've felt we were drifting apart. I had 107 text messages saved that I was about to send you about this, but I thought that might make me appear too emotionally available (unstable).
Also, SF hasn't spoken to me for 45 minutes! I mean, SERIOUSLY! I think she has me on ignore! I keep refreshing her myspace every two seconds...and she's not there either!!!! SHE'S AVOIDING ME!
lol I'm not directing this at anyone specifically (hear me, karma? 😉 ). It just sprang from my memory of the majority of threads that have been created here over the years.
OKAY, and maybe I was using sarcasm to maybe help a few people stop stressing so much over the trivial. 😉
"oh, i dont know about that qs.....they love to keep you guessing and all that 'mystery' going on.."
Not in my exprience, maybe that is only with scorp/scorp action that they become vaulnerable and completely open about how insane they are about you even to a fault... A big fault!!!
But you Irish libra have had quite a few experiences with these scorp guys, this was my first and probably my last...
"Not in my exprience, maybe that is only with scorp/scorp action that they become vaulnerable and completely open about how insane they are about you even to a fault... A big fault!!!"
lol I've experienced this too...with all the scorpios in my life, friends, lovers, family. I think it's because scorpio can sense with other water people that they'll have to be vulnerable if they want the other person to open up, and that their old tricks won't work, because we'll see right through it. They can play their games or whatever, but we know those games backwards and forwards, so we won't fall for it. We're all pretty protective when it comes to sharing that way and experts on withholding it. We sense it in each other. At least I do. I can gauge whether or not to trust another water person far more quickly than other signs.
Plus, it's part of my job to get people to open up, so that helps. 😉
"...maybe that is only with scorp/scorp action that they become vaulnerable and completely open about how insane they are about you even to a fault... A big fault!!!"
LOL!!! I do find that both are pretty suspicious of the other. But in my situation I had reason, but didn't care because it was only casual... But him... Uhhhmmm can you say possessive and crazy—
"I dont like to be ignored. This is my last attempt. are u interested or not? I dont have time for games. I am not sending u another msg.U are about to lose out.I am not looking to be with you. just enyjoy u.you need me to take you to the next level.If you dont answer this time I will it as u are not interested.I could bring u something new in your life u never had, an experience and feeling you only dreamed of."
He says back
" i was asleep I gotta work 2nite."
I say
"thats not what I asked u. but since u responded.ill take it as u are interested. I guess ugot sum stuff you need to figure out. do not igg me I do not like that a t all."
he says
"I just got a lot of shit going on. No disrespect.
now do u think scorpio is interested. I am a virgo. I look into everything. just give me a lil insight plz.